name changed as outing, my sisters twins started highschool recently. up until now they have been at my mums house before and after school due to my sisters work commitments. Since high school my sister has said she wants to get them in a routine so they have been going to an empty house for around 1.5 hours to start homework and get a snack, she claims it will help them learn how to be responsible.
Mum thinks they are going to be lonely at home and they should go to hers sometimes but my sister doesnt want this. She feels mum has been too involved and the children have not been able to get their independance which she wants to encourage. she feels mum controls things by making her feel guilty
She says mum is guilt tripping her by saying the children will be lonely and their friends are missing them when in reality they are still doing homework when she gets home.
In the past mum has held the things she does for the kids over her "i do so much for you" so i suppose she is wanting to stop that from happening. Mum denies she is controlling.
My sister is in tears feeling like a bad mum beacuse our mum has brought up the fact she has started going to the gym so leaves the house at 7pm (when dad is home) some nights. Shes not trying to keep the children from mum but wants to regain some control as their parent.
it was brought up because her daughter has been upset recently saying she is missing her mum when she actually sees her more now she is at high school than she did before. Aside from not going to the gym how can she stop her daughter from missing her (if that is really what is up)