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Will I be ok getting an epidural?

132 replies

tellmyfriendsiminlove · 14/09/2017 09:30

Shamelessly posting for traffic.

I've been in hospital for around 9 days and I am exhausted. Been through the entire induction process and have been refused a c section.

Doctor said I can go down to have my waters broken and have an epidural beforehand so I don't feel any pain and can rest while the drip speeds up contractions.

Can anyone tell me if they've had the hormone drip and or epidural and if I'll be okay?

OP posts:
lorelairoryemily · 14/09/2017 21:50

I had both, the epidural 6 hours after starting drip and I was absolutely fine, I agree with pp though get the epidural early because it's much harder to stay still when you're having raging contractions. Best of luck Flowers

Arealhumanbeing · 15/09/2017 05:13

Thinking of you, OP. Flowers

ButtMuncher · 15/09/2017 08:59

I was on your other thread OP. Still thinking if you and hope you finally have your beautiful baby x

Original poster
tellmyfriendsiminlove · 15/09/2017 14:57

Hi everyone it's me!
I laboured almost three days and only got to 4cm.
Three epidurals failed.

I had an emergency section where they discovered that baby was stuck in my pelvis and she had to have forceps to get her out of my pelvis. She came out and needed oxygen but is okay now!

However, I started vomiting on the table and couldn't breathe well. Someone was sucking the vomit out of my throats with a hoover like tube. I feel lucky to be alive.

This is baby Noa. She is perfect.

I want to thank everyone for their support at such a traumatic time. If anyone could give me advice on making a formal
Complaint about the consultant who almost cost me my sanity, I would be so greatful.

Again, THANK YOU

Will I be ok getting an epidural?
OP posts:
amibeingprecious · 15/09/2017 14:58

Your baby is beautiful, congratulations.

It sounds like you had a really tough time op Flowers

clairethewitch70 · 15/09/2017 14:58

She is lovely, sorry about your bad experience Flowers.

baffledcoconut · 15/09/2017 14:59

Congrats :) I was wondering how it all turned out.

Contact PALS (patient liaison service) and ask for help with a complaint.

I'm sorry it was so traumatic for you. It makes me so angry that women are still treated so badly in pregnancy and childbirth.

Noa is beautiful. Very well done you :)

TheLegendOfBeans · 15/09/2017 14:59

OH MY GOD AT LAST

congrats and just spend loads of time now letting everyone look after you.

Come back on soon to have lots of well meaning people tell you what you need to do to recover right from a CS. Starting with eat prunes.

I'm very happy your ordeal is over. Welcome Noa.

DeadGood · 15/09/2017 15:00

She is BEAUTIFUL. Congratulations, and I'm sorry it was such a long drawn-out and stressful process. Good luck with taking it further, and enjoy your gorgeous baby x

user1480334601 · 15/09/2017 15:00

I've had both. Would have loved the opportunity to get epidural first to be honest though it took a good 12 hours before I desperately needed it. Both are fine. My induction didn't work though (hereditary thing it turned out my mother's delivery was identical to mine) and ended up getting a c section

You'll be fine xx

sleepymama81 · 15/09/2017 15:02

What a little beauty! Well done you. Rest up and enjoy her.

You've had a tough time, please make sure you have lots of support over the next few weeks.

Flowers
moreismore · 15/09/2017 15:07

She is gorgeous and you are one tough lady! Well done and huge congrats xx

Runningpear · 15/09/2017 15:07

Wow well done she's lovely. I also had the vomiting experience during a c section - its v unpleasant. Enjoy your beautiful baby x

gamerpigeon · 15/09/2017 15:10

Contact PALS. I would also insist on a formal debrief with the head of midwifery about your labour - it can help to make sense of what happened. I also got some apologies in mine about my care.

Congratulations! Good luck with your recovery.

sleepymama81 · 15/09/2017 15:11

Also I would say just for now, forget about your complaint. Just until you're recovered, give it a few weeks. Take photos of your notes of you can (much harder to get them after the event, I wish I'd have done this I stupidly didn't realise that they kept them) jot down some notes on your phone if you think there's anything important that you'll forget and then try to forget about it.

Once you're recovered, you can deal with it. Come back and post again for advice, there are so many of us who can help. Until then, just concentrate on you and your lovely little family.

ineedwine99 · 15/09/2017 15:12

Woohoo congratulations OP!!! She's gorgeous! Flowers

hellsbellsmelons · 15/09/2017 15:13

Ahhhh.... so pleased she is finally out safe and sound.
And definitely complain.
Contact PALS and ask to put in a formal complaint.
Congratulations to you all.

Arealhumanbeing · 15/09/2017 15:22

She is beautiful! And you have been incredibly brave.

Definitely complain, they will close ranks and try to make it difficult. Don't let it go and ignore anyone who says all that matters is that she's here now.

Stories like this are a part of the reason I'll never have my own.

BeepBeepMOVE · 15/09/2017 15:28

You didn't eat for 9 days?! And they wanted you to deliver naturally? Ian surprised you were with it enough to even communicate. How awful!

Congratulations! I would definielty complain about the starvation, I was unaware the NHS could refuse to feed you for so long- shocking!

CazY777 · 15/09/2017 15:41

Congratulations, your baby is beautiful. My top tip for recovery is to take painkillers religiously every 4 hours or whatever, and to write everything down (time you've taken them, times of feeds etc). Me and my husband did this as we were both so sleep deprived we couldn't remember anything.

And when you are feeling a bit better you must make a complaint Flowers

shakingmyhead1 · 15/09/2017 15:55

Congrats!!!!
my top tip for a c-section ( and yes this sounds odd) is big ole granny panties, the kind that are up to ya boobs, so no rubbing on ya scar

EmmaGrundyForPM · 15/09/2017 16:02

Congratulations, she is lovely.

I did the throwing up thing when I had a c section. They are obviously very used to it!

Do complain if you feel that would help. I should have done but didn't with my first. However after a little while it all faded and I went on to have another baby.

Enjoy little Noa. Flowers

Spuddington · 15/09/2017 16:12

Oh she is gorgeous.

There will be a PALS liason in the hospital, you need to go through them. They will handle it for you. You also need to look our for yourself - PND can sneak up after birth trauma so make sure you are talking to people. You did great.

NoMoreNotToday · 15/09/2017 17:40

AIMS have good information about how to complain iirc.

Congratulations on your beautiful little one.

ButtMuncher · 15/09/2017 18:02

Congratulations OP Flowers She's beautiful. I had the same thing happen to me - my son was so high up and my cervix so long that no induction was gonna get him out. He was delivered by forceps nearly exactly a year ago. This time a year ago I was laying in hospital knowing I was having my section in the morning.

I'm so sorry it was traumatic in surgery and I really do think you have grounds to make a complaint. It seems we are still quite a way off from choosing the care we receive as pregnant women and this isn't the first thread I've read on here recently when pregnant women have been treated appalling by medical staff and have had their experiences as a mum massively tainted by it. It's a real shame but I suspect the over stretching of NHS services plays a part in that.

Take your time to recover, ask us any questions you want as you adjust to this amazing (and overwhelming) experience and remember it's okay to feel sad and low after birth - don't think it'll always be like that as it won't and you've done great x

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