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To think this was an outrageous request from our landlord and to be a bit suspicious?

398 replies

pinkowl · 14/09/2017 09:24

We rent our house and have been here for 3 years, so it is very much our home.

Some background. The landlords aren't buy to lets, they inherited this house and we are the first tenants. Before letting they completely refurbished the property - new bathrooms, kitchens, windows, carpets, roof extension, the lot. They did it themselves to a high standard and it's lovely. I can imagine that they're proud of it (relevant)

We have a good relationship with them. They're not local but come down to see family sometimes and tend to use the opportunity to do any maintenance that needs doing. Recently they've been sprucing up the exterior.

Onto the outrageous request! She text me yesterday and explained that she was coming down with a girlfriend who knew the house as it was before, and would love to see what it looks like now. And could they come round today so the friend could have a look round the house.

I feel pretty disgruntled. This is our home and of course I don't want a complete stranger traipsing around looking at it out of curiosity. Surely as a landlord once a property has tenants, you leave them be unless there's a real reason. We have annual inspections with the leggings agency which is bad enough, but obviously accept as being part and parcel of renting.

I also feel a bit paranoid. It seems such an unreasonable thing to even ask that I'm concerned there could be an ulterior motive. Perhaps the friend is an estate agent who could cast an informal eye. I'd like to think that if they had plans to sell that they'd be upfront, but you never know.

They do have photos of the house as they were used in the original advert - can't they just show the friend those?! Why would the friend herself want to impose upon strangers in their home?!

I politely replied that it wasn't convenient today. But should I be concerned?

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FiveBoys · 16/09/2017 18:11

Anyway I can see that you just don't want to hear anything that goes against how you look at things so there really is no point in continuing. You don't want to let the friend in - end of story.

I think if I were you Id just accept how you feel and stop rallying against the fact others could do what you don't want to do.

pinkowl · 16/09/2017 18:12

Would have thought she'd have been better prepared then what with all these occasions

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FiveBoys · 16/09/2017 18:14

*Would have thought she'd have been better prepared then what with all these occasions8

Yes well if she was familiar with how things work here she would have been but as a newly arrived expat female she didn't know and was in a fix so we helped her.

FiveBoys · 16/09/2017 18:22

OP, you're sounding sillier the more you post considering the consensus of the thread has gone with you and this also appears to be your first thread at MN.

Just dont let them in. End of.

pinkowl · 16/09/2017 18:23

Well I suppose if you live in whatever society this is where people need evening wear all the time then you must be pretty affluent and perhaps a generous spirit follows.

Back in the real world however where women wear jogging trousers in their lowly rented properties perhaps they just don't feel that same generosity of spirit to let randoms into their homes.

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QuiteUnfitBit · 16/09/2017 18:26

but as a newly arrived expat female
That explains why you chose to help her then. Grin It's a totally different scenario, as you identified with her, and chose to help out someone in distress. That was very nice of you, but not the same at all.

FiveBoys · 16/09/2017 18:28

but as a newly arrived expat female
That explains why you chose to help her then. grin It's a totally different scenario, as you identified with her, and chose to help out someone in distress. That was very nice of you, but not the same at all

If I was an expat female. Im not.

QuiteUnfitBit · 16/09/2017 18:39

Well, either way, it was nice of you, FiveBoys. Smile But it's not the same as the situation the OP has found herself in - namely, being in an awkward situation, because of the power imbalance between tenant and landlord.

expatinscotland · 16/09/2017 19:21

'To all the people who have posted that they've happily let old owners around the houses that they now OWN, can you honestly not see how it would feel differently if you rented?'

I wouldn't let some random stranger off the street into my home, no matter if I owned it or rented it, bar some serious emergency. People on MN constantly outdo each other and how 'generous' they are with their homes and that all their houses are open to the public to nosey around, use whatever, free public toilets, etc.

Dianag111 · 16/09/2017 23:29

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SamineShaw · 17/09/2017 09:22

I think you're storing up trouble for yourself, getting attached to a rental.

Really? So, as I'm not likely to be in a position to buy ever, I should not get attached to my home?

I'm shocked by the some of attitudes towards tenants on this thread, that they should consider themselves hotel guests? Should I keep my suitcase packed?

Sarahrellyboo1987 · 17/09/2017 10:57

Wow, I think you're. Ring unreasonable. Why not just let them see it!

DeleteOrDecay · 17/09/2017 11:18

Why not just let them see it!

Because it's her home that she pays good money for. Because she has the right to quiet enjoyment. Because her home is not a show home or a museum.

Seriously can't get my head round why some people find this a difficult concept to understand.

HeebieJeebies456 · 17/09/2017 11:19

The landlord can arrange to bring her friend with her when she does her next annual inspection.....easily solved!

pinkowl · 17/09/2017 11:51

No she can't because the letting agency do the inspections.

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MrsOverTheRoad · 17/09/2017 11:54

Heebie no she can't. It's not a bloody side show.

C8H10N4O2 · 17/09/2017 12:59

All those of you who own your own homes and would cheerfully invite all and sundry in - do you not see that this is more akin to you inviting one of your random friends to have a nosey in someone else's house?

I'm not a tenant but I'm gobsmacked at the attitudes to tenants in the UK by comparison with most of Europe where long term tenants are seen as good business and desirable.

HeebieJeebies456 · 17/09/2017 13:06

i meant it tongue in cheek Mrs Smile

I'd be a cheeky fuck back and charge them entry fee for a guided tour....but that's just me Grin

Smitff · 17/09/2017 13:54

I think you're storing up trouble for yourself, getting attached to a rental.

Really? So, as I'm not likely to be in a position to buy ever, I should not get attached to my home?

I'm shocked by the some of attitudes towards tenants on this thread, that they should consider themselves hotel guests? Should I keep my suitcase packed?

For as long as landlord and tenant laws and regulations are what they are, no you shouldn't get attached I think. You can be turfed out of your home for reasons out of your control, at a time when you least need it. I'm not defending the system - far from it. It's immoral and unethical imo to have freehold/leasehold laws as they are in England. It's a vile and cruel way of hoarding wealth in the hands of an obscenely small group of obscenely rich people. But those are the laws. If you don't like them, lobby to get them changed - and good luck with that as right at the top of the tree of these landlords are people like the Duke of Westminster. This all goes back centuries; peasant and lords of the manor, personal fiefdoms, Downton abbey etc. This recent trend of b2l properties is this on a smaller scale.

SamineShaw · 17/09/2017 14:22

I get that the system is crap but, to live in constant fear of eviction would drive me crazy. I prefer to think of this place as MY home and worry about moving if/when it happens.

MrsOverTheRoad · 17/09/2017 14:41

Samine quite right too! If we all (renters) went about our lives not thinking of our home as our home, then there'd be a lot of messed up people about!

kastiekastie · 17/09/2017 23:54

sorry I have guests but happy to send a couple of photos over?

HeebieJeebies456 · 18/09/2017 13:20

Everyone's 'renting' their home unless they paid cash for it or have no mortgage attached.

So even 'homeowners' don't actually have the security they think they do.
Try missing a few mortgage payments.....

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