AIBU to think, this is a bit of an odd reply? (ie, if you miss someone, well, you miss them.. regardless of circumstance)

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I picked up DP from airport this morning after 6 weeks of him working abroad. (I'm very used to him being away.. he's often away more than he is at home..but this is the longest stretch we've ever had)

Today we had to pop to see his friend (who is sort of business partner and colleague too..difficult to explain but they work on a project together) and friend asked if I was happy to have DP home.. I replied of course, I've really missed him and glad that he's safe and well (DP had to come home a week early due to his work being cancelled due to tragic circumstances, I did actually explain i'd rather , of course, that he came back on the original date given)
I was surprised when the friend retorted with , 'well if you were busier in your life, you really wouldn't have missed him'.

My reply was that I've been extremely busy, (in 6 weeks I've spent at least 90% of my time alone as been so busy! barely seen friends or family..and I live middle of nowhere, no kids) but that's not relevant as I'd miss him the same no matter how busy I was.
Was my reply unreasonable? Yes being very busy helps..it did.. but it didn't stop me missing him. But I just got on with things.. but I can't say I'd have missed him more if I'd not been busy. Brooded more perhaps.. but I don't think would have made any difference.
Surely you miss someone , regardless of what's going on?

You missed your DP - normal.
Did your DP miss you?

The rest is irrelevant, his friend may like to be more critical than you've noticed before.

Camper, I do wonder if it was sexist remark as I felt that yesterday hence explaining what I have been doing! (workwise). I shouldn't be giving this too much thought, I know, or second guessing! But.. I wonder if this is re a plane ticket. Until this year when I needed a bit of help, I've always been financially independent (in any relationship) so I'd be cross if he is assuming anything...

When DP was away, this friend was organising a block booking of plane tickets. This is to go away early next year, it's work related but partners can go(another friend is going, as a partner) and for those working it can still be a bit of a holiday. We'd be meeting DP abroad and then all travelling on together. I knew I wouldn't be going because I'm very much, pay my own way or miss out. However, while DP was away this time, he got paid, it's the most he's got paid in years, we've not had a great few years. Anyway he decided to treat me.. as a surprise to cheer me up.. so he asked the friend to add me onto the block booking . This was a fantastic surprise for me. I had to send the friend my passport details and the money doesn't come from his own pocket but he was asking about payment for later and I said DP would be paying him. So I wonder if it stems from that. Not that it's his business and for all he knows I could be paying DP back..
DP and I live together but are not married and don't have a shared bank account. I wonder if friend assumes I'm not working and having been spending DP's inheritance too (he got a bit of inheritance earlier this year). I don't touch DP's money and every penny is going to go on doing this place up so can sell it. So he can think what he wants. We were below breadline before this..and DP got in debt (but he was in debt before we got together). Maybe he thinks I was making things worse for DP, who knows, he always seems to be 'looking out ' for DP. (anyway thanks to the inheritance, debts are cleared, and the rest is not to be touched until we start on the house)

Lana, yes he did, but he's sorry to be back early.. as am I.. it's due to his friend's /colleague's sudden tragic circumstances so he came home 8 days early. So I'm very happy to see him and vice versa but we didn't want it to be this way

Rather than focus on this, maybe focus on supporting him with his friend and be happy being together.

Mr Nosey can be left to think whatever he likes as he isn't part of your relationship.