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To ask how your 14 year old ds celebrated his birthday?

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IroningMountain · 13/09/2017 22:47

14 year old chalk/ cheese twin boys. Neither volunteering any ideas of a birthday activity both want to do. Neither having presents as they're saving money. Neither want a party.Was hoping we could do something vaguely exciting but neither seem to have any ideas. Help. Or is this what teen birthdays are like?Confused

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Cakefortea1 · 13/09/2017 22:50

Do they actually want to do something though or is it just you?

lindblum · 13/09/2017 22:53

They maybe don't want to risk their savings. Maybe assure them that you're paying.

Paintballing always popular. Can imagine even better with twins! Or laser tag?

Or do they want entirely different things but don't want to bother you with two different expenses? i.e. one would go for laser tag, the other something calm like bowling?

On the whole if they really don't want to do anything, don't. Have family presents and two cakes, and that's it. It's not like it's a milestone birthday. Let them be, they're teenagers.

FenceSitter01 · 13/09/2017 22:54

Teens don't do birthdays. We only had one half hearted 18th. All they want is money and a ride to Bluewater.

nandostodayplease · 13/09/2017 22:54

Meal at TGI's with close family

SparklyUnicornPoo · 13/09/2017 22:56

my 14 year old brother went out with his mates, my parents and I both suggested everything we could think of as a family activity but the only thing he wanted was to try a glass of wine with his dinner and a chocolate fudge birthday cake.

NC4now · 13/09/2017 22:56

We went out for tea and brought his best mate along. They had giant Instagram worthy hotdogs and his mate slept over.

Rufustherenegadereindeer1 · 13/09/2017 22:58

He built a computer

We contributed to the costs rather than a party

None of mine wanted a party this year ....i dont know what's wrong with children today (joke)

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IroningMountain · 13/09/2017 22:59

One wants to go shopping in a city,the other hates cities. One wants to do Airhop, the other says he just can't.Hmm

Although twins they are very different. The thought of zero presents and 2 hours in Pizza Express just sounds a bit joyless. Fed up with their lack of effort re coming up with an idea and compromise. Thing is if we do their separate preferences on diff days. One is still going to have a crap birthday.

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Happydoingitjusttheonce · 13/09/2017 23:00

Mine went go karting with my partner and a mate. Dominos after and mate slept over. Couple of koppabergs

Happydoingitjusttheonce · 13/09/2017 23:04

Sparklyunicorn, your brother is going to make a fabulous bf for someone. How classy Wine Smile

Nousernameforme · 13/09/2017 23:12

We did an escape the room game. It was surprisingly good fun. Then to five guys for lunch and a box of krispy kremes to take home.

Nousernameforme · 13/09/2017 23:12

We did an escape the room game. It was surprisingly good fun. Then to five guys for lunch and a box of krispy kremes to take home.

LyannaStarktheWolfMaid · 13/09/2017 23:14

Maybe ne is coming up for 13. I feel your pain. It doesn't help that my dd is 6 a few days after and her birthday is so easy to organise! I am worried about the comparison.

Confuzzlediddled · 13/09/2017 23:17

We did a night in a premier inn and a trip to Harry Potter studio tour for my b/g twins 14th in January?

wonderingsoul · 13/09/2017 23:36

Weekene at thorpe park? We went this time last year and it cost 200 for 2 adults and 2 kids and included two days entry into park and a night in a hotel (of site but only a few miles away)

tinytemper66 · 14/09/2017 00:04

My poor son spent his 14th birthday in hospital as he had an abscess on his bum!
Luckily we were just going for a family meal which was cancelled!

lozzylizzy · 14/09/2017 00:07

From about 10 kids can drive super cars. Maybe if kids have different interests you can split and then meet for dinner?

lozzylizzy · 14/09/2017 00:08

@fence Teens don't do birthdays. We only had one half hearted 18th. All they want is money and a ride to Bluewater.

Fucking long ride to Bluewater from Yorkshire for us

lindblum · 14/09/2017 00:14

They're two different people.

"Thing is if we do their separate preferences on diff days. One is still going to have a crap birthday."

Why? One can have his shopping trip with your budget and his mates, the other can have whatever he wants. Why do you have to give them both the same experience? They're twins but not the same personality and they don't want anything similar for their parties!

If both boys want their twin involved with their chosen activity, then talk to them. Would they rather have Twin 1's party one day, and Twin 2's party the day after? Or T1's the day before their actual birthday, and T2's the day after? Or the opposite? Could you save the actual day for family visits, cake, presents, etc, and have their parties at a different, separate time?

You seem like you're worrying about one boy not having what he wants on the day of his birth. That's fair. So both boys get something they want, not on the day of their birth. Many kids have parties not on their actual birthdays.

MrsOverTheRoad · 14/09/2017 00:15

My DD is 13 with many of her mates turning 14...from what I've seen, the boys tend to either go shopping for computer games and then for a burger or do nothing...

It's normal I'm afraid.

Dontfuckingsaycheese · 14/09/2017 00:24

Trampolining then pizza and sleepover.

Badders08 · 14/09/2017 00:31

Family meal and cold hard cash Smile

steff13 · 14/09/2017 02:10

LAN party

I8toys · 14/09/2017 02:27

Mine went karting at two different locations with 3 mates and dad. Then Nandos and then cinema.

MakeItStopNeville · 14/09/2017 02:53

We had one party at home with all they could eat pizza, playing pool and table tennis and insane noise levels of guitar playing and drumming. We had one Escape the Room, just the family and their best mate. And then we had one drop 6 of them at the movies and pick them up later for froyo before dropping them all home.

Different strokes for different folks!