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AIBU?

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Just called my boss "cute"

32 replies

divafromhell · 13/09/2017 17:10

Hi all! I work in a very friendly but also very professional law firm. My boss is lovely but he can be difficult some times due to mood swings but he's alright most of the times. And I must admit that I've got this platonic crush on him (he doesn't know and I hide it very well although I can be more chatty and lovely to him compared to the other colleagues).
He speaks my mother tongue as a second language (he's a bit rusty) and usually I communicate with him in my language but he always speaks English to me.

Today we were exchanging emails and he replied in my mother tongue. Later he came over to my desk asking if what he said was right so I pointed his mistakes and a very subtle change and I said the way he wrote made him look "cute". I hesitated to say that but he asked "makes me sound what?" And then I lowered my voice and said "cute" so no one else could hear. He asked "what?" And I repeated "cute". I said my boss sounds cute omg!!!! But he did sound indeed and he is all cute specially getting all shy because of my comment. He giggled and left with a big smile.
Do you think it's a big deal? I wonder if he thinks I'm flirting with him and now I'm trying to put a really serious face to balance this out.

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MyBrilliantDisguise · 13/09/2017 17:11

Well, you ARE flirting with him.

MiniCooperLover · 13/09/2017 17:15

You could have easily made up a different word than cute when prompted, you wanted to tell him that. Is this firm in the UK? If so why are you not speaking in English? Surely it isolates you from your colleagues? A law firm I used to work in reprimanded two colleagues for speaking French together constantly as it made them seem inclusive and not part of the team (let alone the risk they were being rude about colleagues without their knowledge).

JustAnotherUser123456 · 13/09/2017 17:18

Why are you not speaking the same language as your other colleagues (English I presume) if he replies to you in English then that is a massive hint that you should not be speaking a different language with him at work.

The other part of your AIBU; well yes. You sound immature and attention seeking

peachandplum · 13/09/2017 17:22

Embarrassingly attention seeking and so SO obvious.

DillyDilly · 13/09/2017 17:23

It sounds a cringey encounter.

MatildaTheCat · 13/09/2017 17:27

He's your boss and he's known to be difficult in a profession whereby getting your boss's approval is pretty much crucial.

Now reread your OP and ask yourself if this situation will end well?

Quit the flirty exchanges and get on with your job.

Acmagest · 13/09/2017 17:33

I cannot stop laughing at this. It's the repetition of 'cute' that cracks me up the most. Crying!

OlderGolder · 13/09/2017 17:36

Blimey if he replies in english stick to english

divafromhell · 13/09/2017 17:38

Thanks for all your replies. We all speak English but my boss and I work in four different languages. Also he just came to me said "I'll leave those in you desk for tomorrow" in my language so no massive "hint" as my other colleague also speaks in her language with him and he replies in English. Actually the polyglot partners kinda like to practise and show off their linguist skills. Russian colleagues are often seeing speaking in Russian, French colleagues in French. No big deal about languages here.

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 13/09/2017 17:40

You sound immature and attention seeking

I agree

divafromhell · 13/09/2017 17:40

And btw if I called him cute it was because of his email in my language. So why stick with English if he reads, writes and signs documents in my mother tongue daily?

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PigletWasPoohsFriend · 13/09/2017 17:41

You shouldn't call him cute in any language

EverythingEverywhere1234 · 13/09/2017 17:42

You are not hiding your 'platonic crush' well at all 😂

oldlaundbooth · 13/09/2017 17:42

Unreasonable to insist that the OP and her hot boss don't speak in their langue maternal.

OP, you called him cute, he liked it, it's not that bad.

gunsandbanjos · 13/09/2017 17:43

Wow, I can see your crush from here! Bet he can too.

FallingOrbit · 13/09/2017 17:43

What exactly is a "platonic crush" - aren't those terms mutually exclusive?

oldlaundbooth · 13/09/2017 17:43

Cute in your language has the same significance as in English, OP?

Depends it it's UK English or American I guess.

Racingraccoons · 13/09/2017 17:44

Wow... you sounds like you want attention.....and a lot like my 13 year old sister....

littlecabbages · 13/09/2017 17:44

Ooooooh I love an office romance!

(Please tel us you're both single though!) Grin

FizzyGreenWater · 13/09/2017 17:46

How adorably 'ditsy' of you.

However I bet you are really 'feisty' and 'sassy' when the occasion demands.

IfyouseeRitaMoreno · 13/09/2017 17:48

It makes perfect sense for him to speak English whilst you speak your mother tongue. My Brazilian friend and I often do this as that way our exchanges are more fluent and easy to understand.

And I wouldn't worry about the "cute" comment either. He doesn't sound bothered by it. He probably knows you fancy him and you can always pretend that it means something else in your language.

divafromhell · 13/09/2017 18:18

However I bet you are really 'feisty' and 'sassy' when the occasion demands.

Once he said I had a "sassy smile". I bet he didn't write a post on mumsnet "I just called my employee sassy"

He doesn't sound bothered by it I agree. After that "cute" comment he went to my desk many times, spoke to me in my mother tongue (this is unusual) and didn't look embarrassed. Actually he looked quite happy (it was not a stressful day and he was in a good mood).

But yes, I'll be more careful and get on with my job as usual.

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DeadGood · 13/09/2017 18:25

"I can be more chatty and lovely to him compared to the other colleagues"

Just... be careful. You can be "lovely" to him? That isn't really a word that a native English speaker would use in that context.

I'm not trying to be rude or unkind, I'm just saying that the language you use around him and about him is quite telling.

divafromhell · 13/09/2017 18:41

DeadGood I see your point but when I say I can be "lovely" to him means that we both talk about other subjects that are not related to our work (with a lot of smiles from both of us).

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MiniCooperLover · 13/09/2017 18:50

Are you both single OP? If so that's fine, although office romances rarely end too well for the junior of the pair if it becomes serious.

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