To be embarrassed that I cried in front of the teacher?

[Pinkmittens]

My Dd has had a lovely first week at school, loves going and had been having some great feedback. Today however, I think that the tiredness of starting school is getting to her and the teacher started reeling off all these bad things that Dd had been doing. I was shocked, as I had been so happy that everything had been going well, that I burst into tears whilst talking to the teacher. I am now horribly embarrassed at being so emotional. I'm really not looking forward to dropping Dd off tomorrow as DH thinks I've been silly and said that the teacher won't tell me anything anymore if she thinks I'm going to cry at every little thing.

Yep SENCO here too, is your dd being supported? Do you think they understand her Sen? I would expect things to be in place to make sure she isn't being told off and things are being adjusted to suit her as far as possible?

I cried when ds1 was struggling to settle in to secondary. I cried most when the senco at ds2 secondary took our concerns seriously (first person to do so) and put plans in place to support him.
I cried when Dd teachers told us how brilliant she is.

All the teachers were great. Don't worry about it.

I had a meeting with my son's headmaster last term where I started by expressing the relief it was to be having it for wholly positive reasons for once. It was my son's 8th year in the school ... (yr 7). He's seen me struggling numerous times over the years, let alone the class teachers.

Hope today is a really positive day for you all.

Over the past year, I cried to laddo's teacher at least 10 times (he was struggling and I was pregnant), and to the headteacher almost as many times. When he left, his teacher, the ta, the headteacher, the school manager all cried (no idea why - they'd asked me to move him!!!) The teacher won't judge you at all. But I know what it's like being the parent who's always asked to come in for a quick word, so you have my empathy too.

But I know what it's like being the parent who's always asked to come in for a quick word, so you have my empathy too.

Me too, I am not a cryer (crier?) but I have cried at least twice in school at primary and when I got the first phone call of secondary yesterday I cried after that even though the teacher was very much ringing in the spirit of "how can I best manage his behaviours". You do so want them to go through something with no problems, don;t you.

I've cried on teachers, headteachers. I even cried when training to be a teacher (on other teachers not students). It is very normal.

If your DD has SN/SEN then is there a TA assigned to her? I would probably go more to them than the class teacher for updates. Have you seen the SENCO? Does the class teacher fully understand your DDs issues (you'd be horrified how often the most obvious information isn't passed on). Do you have a date for a review meeting on how your DD is settling in?

And for sympathy from those who get it try the "Goose and Carrot" threads in SN Chat.