Given a bollocking at work

[weebarra]

I work in a public sector middle management role. I've worked part time as a student, then full and part-time in a professional role, since I was 16.
Today I got a total bollocking over the phone from a senior member of another department about something I have responsibility for but hadn't done. (Didn't know it needed done).
Am I being a special snowflake to never have been spoken to like that before in my working life at the age of almost 40? AIBU to be a bit upset?

Really Text if someone in your team omitted to complete a piece of work that was so vital for another area that the Department Head called to complain you'd "make your displeasure known"

Goodness.

I don't get this thread at all. Since when has a part of management consisted of 'being angry'. Of course it happens and is forgivable (up to a point) but it is a failing, not a strategy! A professional provides support to a colleague who slips up. If, ultimately, an employee cannot or will not perform their role, there is a process to go through to dismiss them.

People are human (truism but true) and living with the odd bollocking is a part of life. On the other hand it is also human to be upset and demotivated if you receive one.

Thanks all!
No intention of crying or complaining, other than having a wee moan on here.
It's a bit complicated but I manage staff who deliver a service. We have performance targets and quality improvement processes. I hadn't ensured that a quality improvement plan had been updated - it was something I had delegated but not checked.
She was completely right and I'm annoyed with myself. I've got a reputation for being conscientious and I feel a bit bruised. I've worked with this colleague before and will again.

"I've got a reputation for being conscientious and I feel a bit bruised. I've worked with this colleague before and will again."

Well done OP. I suspect she wouldn't have bothered 'bollocking' you if she thought you were crap. Being able to have a frank exchange of views without recourse to management seems a sign of respect to me.

Good for you wee especially for not passing on the bollocking.

Bollocking people is unprofessional. I don't work in a safety critical environment, in a normal office environment getting angry with people is not appropriate. I agree with Larry. It is counterproductive to building effective and mutually respectful working arrangements. I may be biased, I work with a few people that think a rollocking is an appropriate approach for dealing with people. It isn't.

Wee I'm glad you feel better. You've been let down. In future I'm sure you'll put into place a process to ensure delegated work is checked.

What about the other person being letdown? I really don't understand this snowflake attitude, if you've done something wrong and your culpable then take a telling off on the chin.

Some days you just have to take it. And fwiw that doesn't sound like my understanding of a bollocking. It sounds like you were taken to task. No more or less.

If I've done something wrong or not up to standard I much prefer to be told so I can improve myself and continue developing. No problem at all with this.
However, if anyone tries to raise their voice to me unnecessarily or speaks to me in a nasty way when there is no need I say the following: "if X is the issue here and I need to do Y differently then I really appreciate you telling me so thank you. However, I do not allow anyone to speak to me the way you just have so if we could keep it professional in future I think that would would be best all round." I've never been challenged on this by anyone and it nips it in the bud.

Ive gotten bollockings for things that werent in any way my fault....

I'm sure no one is looking at this anymore - a bit of a weird development, the woman who was angry with me has just sent me details of a twelve month secondment to her department! Definitely considering applying!

Go for it! A bollocking isnt the end of your career, good luck.

Oh wow! Go for it! She obviously likes you!

A bollocking definitely can actually be a sign of respect and knowing you're a good worker,. She expected it from you and was surprised you didn't do it. She trusts you to do your job 100%, and I'm guessing this is the first and last time you didn't meet that 100% expectation.

in hindsight, one may have asked which of the essential things she would have rpefered you not to do to do the desirable thing...