To be annoyed at this faceboon post?

[sailorcherries]

Someone on my newsfeed posted this:

She changes her name,
Changes her home,
Leaves her family,
Moves in with you,
Builds a home with you,
Gets pregnant for you,
Pregnancy changes her body,
She gets fat,
Almost gives up in the labour room due to the unbearable pains of child birth,
Even the kids she delivers bear your name.
Till the day she dies...
Everything she does...
Cooking,
Cleaning your house, Taking care of your parents,
Bringing up your children,
Earning,
Advising you,
Ensuring you can be relaxed,
Maintaining all family relations,
Everything that benefits you.....
Sometimes at the cost of her own health,
Hobbies & Beauty.

SO who is really doing whom a favour?

So many women commented on it, telling the original poster that it is so true. Am I bu to get annoyed at the opinion expressed in this poem (if it can be called that) and to be annoyed that so many women agree that this is how life is/should be?

Women don't need to give up hobbies, their surnames, their home or family. We don't need to be in charge of the home, childcare and family relationships. We don't need to make sure men can relax. Why is it so accepted that this is life? What happened to equal partnerships and roles? (Aside from pregnancy and labour).

Title fail, fat thumbs and small touch screens.

No. I find it somewhat unfathomable. Do it or don't do it, you have a choice!

Posting a poem as a passive aggressive status will be a capital crime when I'm queen.

I agree OP, it's a very archaic way of thinking.

DH and I share nearly all household/life responsibilities 50/50. We're very much a team (he does get a bit touchy about the fact I earn more than him and so he tries to cram in overtime to boost his wages!)

I suggest you either unfollow or unfriend this person on Facebook

I agree with you OP and there's a lot of martyrdom in here as well which I think lots of women revel in.

For example "Leaves her family" assumes that the woman is, for the sole benefit of her DH, moving hundreds of miles away from everyone she loves to move into a home that DH already lives in. Whereas, in most cases, it'll be both man and woman (same goes in SS relationships too) who move away from their families (not necessarily hundreds of miles) and set up a new home together.

She doesn't change her name
She allows you to move in with her
She chooses to have a baby with you
She is happy with her changing body
Your child's surname is double-barelled
Together you run a home,
Bring up your children
And then retire and enjoy life as a sucessful couple.

Post that as a response.

Clearly nonsense but the regular tribe will be along to tell you how men are the oppressive class and we need to fight the oppressors in every way we can.

It's a bloody awful 'poem'. But many many women live like this and almost no men. That implies there is something other than a completely free choice going on.

Anyone who does all of those things is an idiot.

Martyr is right.

While this may be the reality for some women, it's definitely not for all. It's certainly not my reality. I guess it is for whoever wrote it though. Or maybe not. Maybe she's just trying to be provocative. Either way, she's wrong and I feel a bit sorry for her.

Half the mums and wives I know all have their own hobbies and lives outside of the family home.
This is a bit martyr like and really a bit sad.

I think you should reply "U ok hun?"

Do it, OP...

Ode to doormats

Much prefer MrsOverTheRoad's take on it, although it makes me fucking incensed sad that some women feel the original post reflects their realities.

MrsOverTheRoad is right! I have never changed my surname to that of my husband (in 2 marriages now).

Like I have never chosen to get pregnant?!!

My son's name is double-barreled and he is nearly 12.... I refuse to let my surname die just because I marry someone.

I know a woman who lives with her DH and her mother has recently moved in. She and her mother have named washing up gloves each. I said, "where's your pair, Bob" and they all looked horrified.

It's a bloody awful 'poem'. But many many women live like this and almost no men. That implies there is something other than a completely free choice going on.

I think MrsTerryPratchett has hit the nail on the head.

I think it sweetly pretty.

Valium, anyone?

MrsTerry Today I spoke to a woman who told me that her son (in his 30s) pops around to her house every morning to collect the packed lunch she makes him.

She makes him said packed lunch because his DW is too busy getting the kids ready.

When I asked why said grown man couldn't make his own lunch, she looked at me like I'd grown another head

Unfortunately I have many friends that would nod their head and agree with this 'poem'
I feel like shaking them!!

I used to work in a place where every so often, we would all bring food to share for lunch. One time a new employee, a 30 year old man, brought some delicious curry. We all said it was lovely and asked if he had made it. He shame facedly admitted his mum had made it. He did not live at home.

what a load of shite.

sorry to hijack but hello Hully

Hello there Gin, how's it hanging?

YABU to call that a poem. It's a crime against humanity, calling that a poem.