To suggest a MN surrogate scheme

[splendidisolation]

Whereby a MNer "with her shit together" can "adopt" a MNer who is #failingatlife, forming a supportive "mother and daughter" relationship that transcends geographical boundaries.

I'm not sure we'd be able to manage a 1:1 ratio, to be honest.

Puffin

How very co dependent.

YABU

It's a little odd.

What Puffin said. It's a lovely idea though. I haven't got my shit together, but I think I could be supportive to someone who has even less of their shit together. 😃

We could have a sort of shit-together pyramid scheme, with the togetherness filtering down.

I'd like to put my name down for the bottom layer, please.

I'll be about 3 layers up.

Yabu

Puffin I like the pyramid concept, I'll put myself near the middle, ideally my "daughter" would be teens/twenties

Nobody really has their 'shit together' though.

I have my shit together on a relationship front but I am still a teenager when it comes to household management. Anyone in the opposite situation who could do a getting-shit-together mentoring swap?

Anechdoche I would totally do that trade!!

I really, really need an organised person to come in and do that.

And I am very happy to chat to anyone and everyone.

This could work you know........

Not weird at all. I have previously mentored and mentored before and it can be very helpful for both mentor and mentee.
This concept can be recreated on mumsnet in a less formal manner .

I would be somewhere around layer 5 out of 10 :) ( child is ok, house is ok, career is ok) ( could work on fitness, well-being, meal planning and long term career plans)

I've got my shit together on the household management front in terms of paperwork, holiday and birthday organisation, bill payment etc, and I'd happily help someone set up systems to likewise in return for a bathroom deep clean or garden sort out

I can offer my services for how to look as if your shit is so together it's practically carbonite!

.. While continuing internally with your mass of raging insecurities and social terrors.

I feel this needs a MNHQ warning that whilst they are constantly awed by the generosity of MNers, they have to remind you that not everyone on the internet is who they claim to be, and that you shouldn't give more of yourselves, either personally or financially, than you can afford to lose

I mean, these people that are going to come along and claim they are good gardeners.... What happens when they pull your flowers and water your weeds, Agent, are you going to call troll?

schoolgaterebel

Nobody really has their 'shit together' though.

Plenty of people think they do though. It would make them feel even more smug and important.

Oh no Lana Anecdoche's mine. I'm hopeless at organising stuff but I'm utterly charming and could sort out any social issue.

@lougle - my garden is way beyond flowers and weeds. Think more along the lines of swamp and jungle 😂😂

Hmm, I think there might be a fight for Anecdoche .....

That's already been taken to an extreme by a poster on the relationships board who liked to get involved... I don't think it turned out well.

Not long before the 'together' ones will be accused of stealth boasting or 'controlling behaviour'.

I got really excited at the prospect of having my drawers sorted.
I don't particularly want to have to talk to people though. I don't meal plan. I'm a bit fatter than I'd like to be.
Shite, I think I need to go to the bottom too.