To wonder if this is normal re sex drive

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So I've now been separated from exh for 2 years. While with him I had absolutely no interest in sex for 6 years of the 8 I was with him, ie it was all pretty disastrous and I kind of clammed up after two years. Then spent a year single, no interest. Then had a boyfriend for a while, really really enjoyed sex. Now single again and it is honestly the case that I feel almost incapacitated by the weight of my sex drive. don't want one night stands as they do my head in, wouldn't have thought a fwb would be a good idea either for me as I get too involved , but if I'm on a date I have to restrain myself from general clothes rippage, make sure I leave early and sober.
What on earth is going on !! It's like living with a bowling ball between my legs!! Please don't flame me for that I'm actually worried I need medical help. Is this normal??

Can I ask how old you are? When I hit my 30s my sex drive went through the roof!

39 would have thought it was a bit late for this?!

Maybe it was just me then!

All I can say is this has been going on since Feb of this year, I have never known anything like it, it isn't great as I don't have a partner and I've no idea where it's come from!!

Yeah it's hormones, your body knows if it's gonna use it's last eggs it needs to get on with it lol! Mine hit me in my late 20s and is still going strong at 41! I really enjoy it and dread the menopause hitting in case it stops my drive.

Same here - very similar, lost it with husband, now separated. Had a snog with someone a year ago and it has escalated from there. I'm 43 and acting like a teenager - all hormones and no emotional maturity. Desperate to enjoy it though, knowing it might be fleeting!

Totally normal and hopefully it will last for many, many more years! Sex only gets better the older you get in my opinion.

Ok great words there. But how do i handle it?! I'm single and dating and would like to be in A relationship but I keep getting totally obsessed with the idea of having sex! And not having it because I'm trying not to be too sexually available. Do I need to find myself a fwb that I'm sure I don't want anything else from? So confusing!!

Just wait till you hit your 40s op.... Bloody hell, your libido will be rocket-fuelled then.

Good lord, but seriously, what do I do with it?? Seriously how do others cope??

I've been wondering myself recently. I'm 44 and was discussing it with my 45 year old friend. I said it's like a weight in your midriff and if this is what it's like for teenage boys then no wonder they don't concentrate at school. It's so bloody hard!!!!! Arghhhhhhhhh

Get a vibrator. It might help take the edge off.

Okay I'm the exact same except I'm 27 but I have a 2 year old! I've never been like this before it's so strange the last time I had sex to be fair though was the day I conceived my son. It was the last time I had contact with a male? Maybe that's it

I'm 44 and completely off the scale sex mad. And newly single so having a bloody whale of a time. Long may it continue and nope it wasn't the same with dear XH unfortunately.

Yes yes like a weight round your midrift, or for me literally as though I am carrying something between my legs literally all day. I don't have a vibrator, maybe I should buy one, any recommendations? Yes my god if this is what teenage boys go through I have a new sense of sympathy. To those who are delighted about it, are you playing the field? How do you continue to feel good about yourself after sex, if it's just sex? I feel like I can't see the wood for the trees. It's as though my major bargaining chip when men has gone- which sounds awful - but now I am driven by something I wasn't before which means I am, frankly, desperate. Any advice welcomed.

I think it's also about supply & demand, especially when you come out of a dull LTR

Would putting myself out there to find a sex friend be a really bad idea? I would almost rather pay a nice friendly good looking consensual non trafficked man in his late twenties for a weekly massage and safe sex service. Have I entered the realms of madness?!

Omg why would you consider paying someone? Gross. There is nothing wrong with a FWB situation.

I feel as though with this level of desperation attached I'm never going to find a boyfriend with whom to have the loving, fantastic, respectful sexual relationship that I think would make me feel OK about how much sex I actually want. Last boyfriend in his late thirties could not really match my sex drive and I was mortified when he wasn't interested.

Am I a sex addict??

Ok but how do I go about finding one?

Thenaze, yes ltr was utterly utterly unsatisfying. I never ever came when we very very occasionally did dtd and felt totally sexless. Now it's on my mind all. The. Time.

Maybe I just need to use a vibrator twice a day. Time consuming!!

Girl, you're on heat!

I'm 42 and i've had it for the last couple of years, last gasp of the baby factory.