To wonder if this is normal re sex drive

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So I've now been separated from exh for 2 years. While with him I had absolutely no interest in sex for 6 years of the 8 I was with him, ie it was all pretty disastrous and I kind of clammed up after two years. Then spent a year single, no interest. Then had a boyfriend for a while, really really enjoyed sex. Now single again and it is honestly the case that I feel almost incapacitated by the weight of my sex drive. don't want one night stands as they do my head in, wouldn't have thought a fwb would be a good idea either for me as I get too involved , but if I'm on a date I have to restrain myself from general clothes rippage, make sure I leave early and sober.
What on earth is going on !! It's like living with a bowling ball between my legs!! Please don't flame me for that I'm actually worried I need medical help. Is this normal??

Hull dad Brian of the yoni massage?! Maybe I need to track him down!!

And then does it stop once the meno pause starts in others experience?? Should I just get out there and make the most of it?

Thanks for the vibrator tip, will get onto it

Love that auldspinster!!! Im the same age, married to someone with a nonexistant sex drive (he has depression). Ive tried a vibrator but it just feels like its the really lame alternative to a human. Probably havent found the right one.

I found that fabswingers.com was a good place to meet guys for sex. You need to be very, very selective, as there is a lot of bullshit on there, but you will find a decent fuck buddy in no time, especially if you live in a city. Otherwise if you have any sort of kink/fetish then Fetlife.com is also good.

Embrace it, find someone who will help you meet your needs (there are plenty out there who have high sex drives but no time/energy/headspace for a relationship).

Don't feel ashamed or embarrassed. Just have loads of great sex. It's so good for you. Good luck and pm me if you want any advice with the sites I've mentioned above.

OPEN, another sympathiser here. It was like a switch being flicked after 7 years of zero desire. Quite literally overnight I became obsessed with getting some(I am 31). Bloody annoying!
I can second getting a you, really helps taking the edge of.
Or Yoni massage is always on the cards

Bloody hell, must switch autocorrect off!

It's OP, not OPEN
TOY, not YOU

Get on tinder! It's very useful for things like this :) you've just inspired me to text a man I know and suggest a casual meet up thanks

no one have a good at me as I'm unaware of the details but on some sites for dating aren't there groups for you know hook ups.
or go out "clubbing" like you used to(or some do still) and just meet a nice person where you both know your going home to have sex.no pressure.and what if it turned into something then even better.but there are still people at your age who go on dates or out for nice sexual no strings nights.
don't pay.just go out and sleep with nice man on night out.dont they exist anymore...?

I have a friend who does this.ok she might be nice and offer have breakfast etc but its very equal they both have fun,are friendly,have fun for the night.both know where its going or not going should I say and then its oer she says goodbye and both leave eacohter happy.
she the most unseediast person I know.

Brian
Ohhhh Brian ......

Hmm so it's not seedy? The men aren't rapey? I won't find all my hormonal switches going into needy love mode (main reason for not having sex currently). I kind of hate the whole idea of sexual intimacy without all the other nice stuff , maybe I just need to get over that.... but worry that if I'm having casual sex in any way that it will just upset me in the long run. Maybe some women can handle it but some cant?or do I just need to get a grip, pull my big girl pants on and start having no strings attached sex?

I'm the same, but more than happy to have casual sex. I can disassociate love and intimacy and sex, as, to me , they are very different things.