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WIBU to never tell the neighbours why I was admitted to hospital last night?

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WalkanTalk · 10/09/2017 16:35

I've realised the title sounds very ominous. It's not. Bear with, bear with.

So yesterday evening, with a 2 year old in bed and newborn twins on my lap, I started to notice a stabbing pain low in my tummy. Within ten minutes my boyfriend had had to remove said offspring from me while I crawled naked upstairs in agony. And ten minutes after this he was ringing an ambulance because I was mute with pain.

By the time I came downstairs for said ambulance, he had half the contents of our local pub in our kitchen taking orders on how to look after our brood, while I hobbled into the pain van, guiltily knowing I was taking with me my EBF newborns' breakfast, lunch and dinner. And leaving my toddler to wake to the neighbourhood and its mum (literally) downstairs.

Well, upon arrival at hospital, the pain actually soon subsided. To the point that I was sent home.
It was passed off as a medical mystery, and we could relieve our kind friends and family of their duties (and allow them the resume the birthday house party my boyfriend had also interrupted in search of babysitters, and re-park the cars he'd rallied while waiting for the ambulance).

Well upon waking today, I've pottered about, still in pain, confused and a little concerned, and sent thank you messages around.

Everyone went out about an hour ago, and left me with the newborns for a while. Thought I'd take the opportunity to go to the loo...

WIBU to never, ever tell the entire neighbourhood, the in laws, and my sweet, wharp speed boyfriend that it turns out it was all because of a massive poo?

OP posts:

calamityjam · 11/09/2017 18:47

Sadly a friends dsis passed away from a PE a few days after having had a CS. She had mentioned pains to both her midwife and doctor but both told her to rest. Seriously ladies, all postpartum pain should be checked out.

YellowFlower201 · 11/09/2017 18:50

Look up paralytic Ileus.... it's pretty common after giving birth. Incredibly painful as things start to...err.... shift.

Fence- what a stupid comment!

fluffiny31 · 11/09/2017 18:53

I had a c sec and very constipated whilst in hospital plus suffer from ibs i got given morphine until the iron tablets kicked in and made me go. Awful pain

heidipi · 11/09/2017 18:53

I fainted at a wedding when I was about 17, went proper hot and clammy then crashed to the floor in the middle of the service. Was helped outside, missed the reception and evening do as was lying down at the B&B moaning faintly - various family members popping in now and again to see if I was still alive. About 11pm I did a huge poo and immediately felt fantastic. I never confessed about my mysterious recovery - they probably thought I was just being a drama queen but that was better than the truth . Congrats on the twins and the poo OP.

knickerelasticgonetwang · 11/09/2017 19:08

I work in the NHS and the problem is mismanagement and not enough Indians and too many chiefs. Lack of credible information coming out about referrals etc Don't get me started

HistoriaTrixie · 11/09/2017 19:11

I had a hysterectomy and pelvic floor repair back in May on a Tuesday. It was Saturday afternoon before I did a poo (and I hadn't done one in the two days before as was on a liquid diet pre surgery). DH says I was only in the bathroom for half an hour but I'm pretty sure I transcended time and space trying to get that thing out. After I was done I immediately felt ridiculously better. It is amazing what constipation/faecal impaction can do in terms of how you feel in all your body systems. I'm religious about drinking liquids now.

Gingernaut · 11/09/2017 19:21

Anaesthetic can cause severe constipation and urinary retention.

stinky81 · 11/09/2017 19:30

You must NEVER tell them. NEVER. In their minds they'll all have worked it up into something far more dramatic than a massive shit.
But you also clearly have some lovely neighbors and friends

pollymere · 11/09/2017 20:04

Thought I was giving birth again, or at least broken something. Turned out to be compacted poo. You did the right thing as it could have been a burst cyst or your appendix. If people ask, say they suspect a burst cyst. It hurts like heck but as its an ovary thing, people won't ask further questions! I spent a week in hospital and they couldn't work out what was wrong once so it's not unusual!

SunshineLollipopsRainbows25 · 11/09/2017 20:06

Ive had agonising poos since the birth of my DD 3months ago I can't seem to go more than once a week lol I feel your pain

AtlanticWaves · 11/09/2017 20:48

I had severe abdominal pain 4 days after giving birth. Turned out to be a blocked ovarian vein and needed immediate treatment.

Fortunately I wasn't given the brush off otherwise I could have had a pulmonary embolism

dysongirl · 11/09/2017 22:14

After lying to the hospital that i had moved my bowels after delivering my 2nd child i remember waking my husband up in the middle of the night to tell him i had a poo
Sad i know but i needed to be in my own bathroom lol
And yes it hurt

SabineUndine · 11/09/2017 22:21

The same thing happened to me about 20 years ago. Taken into hospital by ambulance. Retching and hanging on to the walls. Couldn't give them my details cos I was in so much pain I couldn't think.

The only thing they could find wrong was a slightly inflamed colon. They asked if I'd been constipated. Nope. But 24 hours later I shat out a rock-hard triangular poo that was not that bit but clearly big enough to have caused a blockage.

maddening · 11/09/2017 22:49

Well fencesitter they have saved millions by sending a majority of new mums home with 5 hours of giving birth so a few returning with
Potential complications is to be expected, with a new mum who could easily be suffering internal damage it would be negligent not to.

nannykatherine · 11/09/2017 23:44

that's a bit unfair
op
was in pain and had recently had TWINS
...better to get checked out properly !!

Abbylee · 11/09/2017 23:54

It happens. May have happened to a lovely young woman on birthday holiday with recently engaged fiance. Whereupon after arriving back home, fiance turns to (me), hands me oxygen mask, says, " this is NOT the sign of a successful trip."

Lillyringlet · 12/09/2017 01:13

Better safe than sorry... I thought I just had really bad wind... Nope I had sepsis, ruptured appendix and was tacticardic. I ended up in hospital for 5 days and had to have emergency surgery.

With my chronic gallbladder attacks being passed off as back spasms for 4 months before someone finally did a blood test to find I was super ill, I know that I just need to go into A&E now to be safe.

CatchingBabies · 12/09/2017 02:15

Severe abdo pain post birth should be treated as a medical emergency until all sinister causes have been ruled out. Sepsis kills, if there is any doubt it's best to be seen.

Obviously we would prefer people were not using ambulances and A&E for non emergencies but the time wasters are those who use resources they KNOW they don't need, not those in agony with no clue why.

Oh and I'm a midwife in case the username didn't give it away.

Zsuzsika · 12/09/2017 05:25

Fence it is clear you have had no children and I might even ask if you're a bloke?? Only a bloke would come up with a comment like that!

She's done well to seek help, imagine if it was for a lot more serious reason? Should she have not gone just in case it's not so serious so she won't waste anybody's time?? You are a jerk fence and you need to pray that something like this won't happen to you in the future

OP congratulations and if I was you I'd keep it a mistery in front of others in case others think like our fence guy here!
And fair play twins and breast feeding I take my hat off!
Good luck to you and your bf xx

honeysucklejasmine · 12/09/2017 06:12

Skint I laughed so hard at your comment I was in danger of waking the toddler. Currently 36w with #2 and not looking forward to the "holding the walls in agony" post birth poo I experienced last time.

Purplealienpuke · 12/09/2017 08:13

I had my huge poo experience the day before I gave birth... set me up for what was to come! Dd was 14 days late .
I had too many stitches to count inside & out & as I'd refused blood the hospital insisted on iron pills. Didn't take them for long!!
Fencesitter my dgd has been in hospital with constipation. Several Drs misdiagnosed it before we were finally sent to the hospital.
She also had pneumonia on a separate occasion that was misdiagnosed. We were only sent that time to the hospital as she complained of tummy pains!! By your reckoning neither of these pains would have warranted a&e treatment as they were just tummy pains! Go and give your head a wobble

Sweetpotatoaddict · 12/09/2017 08:24

fence I'd love to see your evidence for 5 out of 6 A&e attendances are inappropriate
OP I think you did the right thing, but absolutely do not ever let slip what happened. You'll have made the day of everyone in your neighbourhood, nothing like a good hospital drama to excite people!
May your next poo slide out easily and quickly

VeryFoolishFay · 12/09/2017 08:32

I ended up in hospital with the worst stomach pain I've ever had only to find out that it was colic. My brother laughed at me for going to hospital with wind, but it worse than labour pains.

I had this - thought I was dying. Now I knew why my DC's had screamed with it!

Butterymuffin · 12/09/2017 08:44

There have been quite a few posts on here lately aimed at making people feel bad for going to A&E or the walk in centre. One yesterday was telling someone not to take their under 5 to the doctor as they were a 'well child'! I know there are some egregious examples of A&E being abused, but if people feel they can't use it when in severe pain, then we've already lost the NHS, as the finger waggers tell us we will. A&E is there as the failsafe for people in pain and need - if not, as someone said earlier, for people with hangnails...

leighb23 · 12/09/2017 08:46

I had awful trapped wind after having my bundle... my friend who just happens to be a midwife recommended peppermint cordial. Gotta say it works!

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