WIBU to never tell the neighbours why I was admitted to hospital last night?

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I've realised the title sounds very ominous. It's not. Bear with, bear with.

So yesterday evening, with a 2 year old in bed and newborn twins on my lap, I started to notice a stabbing pain low in my tummy. Within ten minutes my boyfriend had had to remove said offspring from me while I crawled naked upstairs in agony. And ten minutes after this he was ringing an ambulance because I was mute with pain.

By the time I came downstairs for said ambulance, he had half the contents of our local pub in our kitchen taking orders on how to look after our brood, while I hobbled into the pain van, guiltily knowing I was taking with me my EBF newborns' breakfast, lunch and dinner. And leaving my toddler to wake to the neighbourhood and its mum (literally) downstairs.

Well, upon arrival at hospital, the pain actually soon subsided. To the point that I was sent home.
It was passed off as a medical mystery, and we could relieve our kind friends and family of their duties (and allow them the resume the birthday house party my boyfriend had also interrupted in search of babysitters, and re-park the cars he'd rallied while waiting for the ambulance).

Well upon waking today, I've pottered about, still in pain, confused and a little concerned, and sent thank you messages around.

Everyone went out about an hour ago, and left me with the newborns for a while. Thought I'd take the opportunity to go to the loo...

WIBU to never, ever tell the entire neighbourhood, the in laws, and my sweet, wharp speed boyfriend that it turns out it was all because of a massive poo?

What lovely neighbours you have! Don't tell them, though. :)

With both mine I had uterine contractions that were as full on and painful as established labour. Proper breathing through teeth crushing husband's hands pains. One isolated episode for DC1, a few episodes on consecutive days for DC2.

If I hadn't had the experience of the first time round I would have pitched up to A&E with the second ones. No question.

Pleased you are feeling better OP. And that you have a good support network!

Ok. I have twins. About the nakedness. She was probably sitting downstairs naked because she was feeding them. Surely. It's easier to feed newborn twins at first without clothing everywhere.

Fencesitter

My DH disagrees with you. Oh yeah - forgot to mention... he's a paramedic.

DD1's appendicitis was confused with trapped wind.

Pain is very similar apparently. We saw a surgeon who said she didn't think it was appendicitis but she had been wrong in the past.

She was wrong again

Not slagging the NHS off just trying to say they must be easily confused.

Oh man the gut pain after twins.... If you think about it you've had a whole extra person occupying the space where a pregnant person's intestines are supposed to be squished to... Agony.

Also, I was briefly readmitted for excruciating afterpains once my milk came in after twins. No-one had warned me about them. I didn't get them with my singleton. Mutter, "it's a twin thing" and people will leave you alone.

Enjoy your babies. (and hopefully some normal poos).

Fencesitter unless you've actually ever suffered with this (or trapped gas) be aware that the pain is immense and pretty bloody scary. Back on your fence love.

The one and only time I went to hospital with agonising lower-stomach pain it was fucking sepsis fencesitter

If you're in that much pain, much better to get it checked out. Far better to than to risk death. 99% of the time it'll be nothing but that 1% ... How was I to know what it was, at the time? How was the OP?

Although I'd be not admitting to the truth either, OP :D

i have a relative who also went to hospital in an ambulance for the same reason, just needed a big poo!!!

I had something similar once. Not birth related but at wprk suddenly felt a twrrible burning stomach pain and after about half an hour got up to go to toilet only for my legs to gove way so I collapsed on floor whimpering. My boss drove me to hospital where after some lovely strong pain killers they finally diagnosed.... constipation! Mortified!!

Move, change name, different country even....

I had this once - you're not alone! My dad called a dr and I got an emergency appointment. I had an internal examination etc, sent home with some painkillers. Got home, did a poo and all was good again.

Hm no. Tell a lie.

I went twice. The first time they diagnosed constipation. It was agony. 3 days later I went again - and it was sepsis.

You did the right thing getting it checked out. Definitely mumble something about women/post birth thing and people won't really want to know.

My DH went to A&E withs severe abdominal pain. Was told it was IBS. A few months and many boxes of Buscopan later he was having the rotten remains of his appendix sucked out. He was extremely ill. Too embarrassed to go back to A&E after the first visit.

Severe abdo pain post-partum? YWNBU going to A&E for observation. The paramedics don't take people to hospital on a whim.

If you have to tell anyone anything, tell them it was the uterus contracting or women's trouble.

Common after childbirth, especially after twins.

Glad you're feeling better, OP.

I think you should tell your boyfriend. He might be worried you've got something seriously wrong with you that the doctors haven't diagnosed yet.

I had a few days of passing frankly enormous logs, about a week after giving birth.

Heading home from holiday a few years back, we were in the process of trying to locate the nearest A&E because I had sudden onset horrendous chest pain, my heart rate went through the roof and I went as white as a sheet with blue-tinged lips. I honestly thought my number was up. DH stopped in a car park to look at maps and work out whether he could drive me to a hospital or whether we should be calling an ambulance, and if so, where to (this was before Google maps and smartphones with GPS and we were hundreds of miles from home and driving through rural Scotland). I very shakily got out of the car to get some fresh air, and as I stood up I let out the most enormous a belch and was immediately as right as rain

I burst my stitches with my first post birth poo. ''Twas like coal, and hurt more than the breech birth I'd been through 6 days previously

Thank you for posting this OP- put a proper smile on my face!!

At the time I bet it was horrendous, rest assured, you did exactly the right thing in your situation and I'm glad your issue was, er, resolved!

Congratulations on the twins!!

Lactulose for the first couple of months post-birth should sort you out.

Mine was retained products 5 weeks after I had the baby

@FenceSitter01

How do you know that is not serious until you go to A&E?

I went there with severe abdominal pain end of 2015. It eased, I went home with paracetamol and ibuprofen.

A month later I was back, turned out I had a 4.8cm benign tumour on my ovary. By your argument I shouldn't have gone the second time, and maybe not the first time either but I was, unknown to myself and the doctors, at risk of ovarian torsion and the need for emergency surgery.

Oh OP. You take that secret to your grave. No one needs to know.

I had the opposite happen to me. Had a long day of stomach pain; figured it was just gas or a big poo. Eventually my mum took my toddler and told me to call my dad to take me to A&E. what I thought was a brewing fart turned out to be appendicitis. I still felt a bit of a fraud, even post-surgery.

Totally not the point of the thread but just dropping in to say you rock for EBF'ing twins. Awesome job. 😀