To be pissed off with my mother for ironing so much?

[Cailleach666]

We live together. She is a martyr to the iron. She is ironing right now my OHs shirts, She says I shouldn't send him to work in an unironed shirt.

Yanbu. My mum wasted her life ironing and doing other unecessary housework when she could have spent quality time with her kids.

I like your mother. Mostly because I hate ironing. Is she single?!

YABU. If it makes her happy leave her to it. Maybe she likes to feel useful. I wish someone would do my ironing.

Perhaps she should have taught him how to iron...
Or is that incompatible with ownership of manparts?

YANBU. Ironing is the pits and people waste their lives on it.

Leave her get on with it and encourage her to open an ironing service she will make a mint !

yes single.
Also spent a lot of time scrubbing front steps with Ajax and Vim.

I don't send my oh to work with un-ironed shirts. He takes himself to work in un-ironed shirts or will occasionally iron his own if he had an important meeting.

Ameliablue exactly.

My mother is a surrendered wife.

I quite like ironing. I'm not always very good at it though.

I'd just be glad someone was doing it for me!

I guess it is her expectations, the fact that I am not quite the "whole woman"

Not the whole woman because you don't iron? Wow, that must have been a painful birth for her, you coming out with an iron attached.....

Just let her crack on with the ironing and ignore the comments.

Or you can send her to my house to do mine for free. After coming back from a holiday I have loads, that my wonderful ironing lady will collect tomorrow night.

my DM finds it disgraceful that I don't iron, but not disgraceful that my DH doesn't iron. I tell her life is too short to iron but really the issue is about roles and we are making a point to each other about how we each view women's roles

Or is that incompatible with ownership of manparts?

Not unless something odd has happened to my anatomy and I haven't noticed. DW has not ironed my shirts in years. There are one or two of her blouses which she insists only she can iron and it's her call so she does.

Could she come to my house?

I have a lovely lady who comes in once a week to do ours. But if your mum does it free...?

My mother wasted her time cleaning and ironing. Mind you it's probably all for the best as she was a right bitch to me! I'm wasting my life in bed chronically ill. So also not getting as much quality time with dd as I'd like. But she knows I'd rather be with her and dh.

If your mum is feeling wanted and needed and this is what it takes, leave her to it. Just make sure when/if you have kids that you are in charge.

My SIL irons babygros. What a waste of her time.

YANBU. I very rarely iron! My mother used to iron hankerchiefs, pillow cases, underpants, and SOCKS. And towels. Fucking towels FFS!

It's a generation thing, older people iron a lot more than younger people. I find it hard to iron even my own blouses. At work, when talking about it, it proves the guys are ironing their own shirts these days.

OH loves ironing, so I leave him to it. He is an ironer of towels unless they are removed from the basket. You sound as if you are having a bit of a bitch, a la stroppy teenager. Let her do what makes her happy, it's a small thing. When are you and OH leaving?

I despise ironing. DH does his work gear, I will sometimes help him out and do it for him if he is really late off work, he works in the Ambulance service and is NEVER off work on time (which I'm not at all bitter about)
He also Irons the DD's school clothes because they are a little to young to do their own. I go un ironed because I have much better things to do with my time and I refuse point blank to become the martyr my mother did.

I remember my great gran telling me, 30 odd years ago, that you won't remember the cleaning, ironing etc (she actually called it woman's work!) but you will remember the time you spent with family & friends, or the good book you read, or the nice place you visited etc.
It has always stuck with me, my mother hates that I don't iron and that my house isn't sparkly clean......TBH my mother hates that I am not made in her image full stop!

I spend about half an hour ironing every weekend. Sometimes a bit longer. I like my work clothes and bedding ironed. I've always thought I may as well iron everyone else's clothes while the iron's hot. As soon as my kids were working rather than studying, they did their own ironing. I still iron for DH because I do it well, and he's rubbish at it. He puts the bins out and looks after my car amongst other things. Come December, I'd rather be ironing than doing all that outside stuff.

When I was younger, my mother would come and stay. She would always do my ironing - when I was at home with small children, it was the only time my iron was ever hot. I was grateful for the help.

Ironing is something that you do when you washed the PE kits on Sunday night and realise they're not dry on Monday morning isn't it?