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To want to leave the group. . .

73 replies

Boatmistress17 · 09/09/2017 14:34

Message on what's app for - leavers group 2018. Add or report as spam. .
Thinking it was to do with dd and leaving 2017 with a misprint. . Maybe a thank you to all who organised it etc (not me but did cough up the £30 demanded-through my car window as pulled up at after school club pick up - for pizza hut +jump 360+multi named jumper - might add what's app group began in March but naff all actually booked til 2 days before the agreed date!! Wtaf!!)
But no......
It's to start the planning for next years leavers which will include my other dd!!
No way am I even thinking about the mugs /tops /hats /trips suggestions already landing in my whats app box!! Obviously removing myself from the group is the easy answer but have they got nowt else they can be doing for the next 10 bloody months???!!!!
Considering nowt actually for booked til the week they left school it's a total waste of time anyway!!
Rant over.
Still smarting from the £££££ spent on school uniforms to think about parting with any more anywhere near the school gate!!

OP posts:
CoffeeBreakIn5 · 09/09/2017 15:23

highinthesky that's a really nasty thing to say.

SoupDragon · 09/09/2017 15:23

The OP wasn't that hard to understand.

LairyMcClary · 09/09/2017 15:24

Of course it makes sense, not sure why everything has to be written perfectly before it's deemed understandable

It doesn't make the slightest bit of sense. It's not understandable at all.

Shakey15000 · 09/09/2017 15:27

I made sense/got the gist of it, it's not that indecipherable Hmmand certainly no need for some of the comments.

YANBU, way to early. Leave and rejoin nearer the time or hide/mute etc?

CoffeeBreakIn5 · 09/09/2017 15:28

Well, it seems that the OP has been added to a Whatsapp group to organise leaving activities for her daughter's class, she's already been asked to pay money and they don't leave until the end of the year. She's asking if she would be unreasonable to leave the Whatsapp group.

That's how I understood it anyway.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 09/09/2017 15:31

Some of the responses on here are just rude or down right patronising.

SoupDragon · 09/09/2017 15:32

It doesn't make the slightest bit of sense. It's not understandable at all.

It's perfectly clear to me.

raviolidreaming · 09/09/2017 15:32

OP was added to a what's app group for leavers 2018. Initially, she assumed the date was a typo and that the group was to acknowledge the 2017 leavers efforts. OP is still arsed off about being apprehended for money for activities / jumper etc and that plans were finalised so late.
But it wasn't a typo. The group is for the 2018 leavers, which is the younger DD. OP isn't sure whether she is unreasonable to leave the group chat now and save herself 10 months of planning.

What I don't understand is how so many people replying think they're so clever because they don't understand.

OP, YNBU.

Aquathest · 09/09/2017 15:34

I made sense/got the gist of it, it's not that indecipherable and certainly no need for some of the comments.

YANBU, way to early. Leave and rejoin nearer the time or hide/mute etc?

^^ This

I would put the group on mute so that you still receive the messages but you don't receive the notifications every time someone responds. Then you can read the messages at your leisure, later on in the school year, without missing any relevant info.

AlternativeTentacle · 09/09/2017 15:40

It is perfectly clear.

Also, just leave the group. What's the worst that can happen?

AnnieAnoniMouse · 09/09/2017 15:43

It makes perfect sense to me.

My clarity might come from having just been through the trauma of the 'Leavers' crap.

SO different from what went on when I left Primary & went to SS and personally I think it makes too much of the transition & makes some of them more nervous moving up. That said, the kids LOVED it all. Multi named hoodies & all the rest.

If anyone started banging on about Leavers 2018 they'd be lucky to get out alive.

LairyMcClary · 09/09/2017 15:44

It's perfectly clear to me

Bully for you, have a gold star.

ElizabethShaw · 09/09/2017 15:52

So you were in a WhatsApp group last year to organise your older child's Year 6 (?) Leavers gifts/activities and it all got done at the last minute.
Your younger child is leaving this year, and a WhatsApp group has been started to organise gifts/activities already?

If you're not interested at the moment, can you mute the conversation?

WillowWeeping · 09/09/2017 15:52

It's perfectly clear but jaw droppingly rude.

Last year didn't meet your expectations. Despite fact you did nothing to help you are critical about efforts.

This year someone is trying to be more organised and you're again being critical.

Last year obviously wasn't totally last minute if your DD got a hoodie etc. Enormous amounts of work goes into leaving events (hoodies, gifts, party, parents dinner etc).

I don't do much as I work FT but at least have the good grace to pay on time and be eternally grateful that there are parents who take this stuff on.

Aeviternity · 09/09/2017 15:56

Please, get a hobby beyond this over-involvement in childrens' nonsese.

becotide · 09/09/2017 16:05

Boatmistress, I'm having no problems whatsoever following your post and cannot understand why anyone else is. It's up to you whether or not you leave the group but be aware of mummy politics when it comes to the end of year, which comes round sooner than yu think. these groups can also be a good support during SATS

Mummaofboys · 09/09/2017 16:14

I don't understand, can you rewrite your message in sentences that make sense please, it's really difficult to read and understand?

MrsOverTheRoad · 09/09/2017 16:17

Mumma haven't you read the thread? People have explained the OP's post already. It's really not that difficult.

Notonthestairs · 09/09/2017 16:33

Yes I can see why it would feel a bit ridiculous to be planning leavers events now. But there is a contradiction in your post - last year was frustrating because it was left so late and now (possibly having learnt from last year) some overexcited parents are getting in early and that annoying for you too.
Mute the whatsapp group, let them get on with a bit of planning and join in after Christmas if you want to.
Totally agree that the £ of school events etc can feel never ending.

DerelictWreck · 09/09/2017 16:42

Guys it's not exactly hard to understand! How about drop it and try to answer the OP?

OP you are not unreasonable at all! But as others have suggested, maybe mute the group rather than leave it to avoid awkward requests to rejoin it next summer Grin

balsamicbarbara · 09/09/2017 16:44

The original post reminds me of the experimental cut up fiction of William Burroughs Grin

scrabbler3 · 09/09/2017 16:44

Around here, the venues need to be booked in September because there's loads of pressure on the mid/late July dates. However, planning the nitty gritty starts after Christmas. Mute the group until January 1st OP lol.

SisterhoodisPowerful · 09/09/2017 16:48

Ah. Mumsnet. Where everyone bangs on about how anti-racist/classist they are, but automatically go to whistle dog racism & classism when a poster fails to write like Dorothy Sayers. Hmm

I'm in a similar situation with an after school activity. Feels like my phone is always vibrating. I check the message 2-3 times a week for a quick scroll and answer as needed. It's best to keep an eye as final year stuff can easily get out of hand.

hairymaryquitecontrary · 09/09/2017 16:51

Oh ffs, saying you don't understand a word isn't being rude when you don't actually understand a fucking word you know!

hairymaryquitecontrary · 09/09/2017 16:51

and what the fuck has that got to do with racism?