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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Deary me. Housemate didn't think this through.

64 replies

MrsCrabbyTree · 09/09/2017 06:33

A couple of days ago flatmate parked 1 of his 3 motorcycles blocking the garage door so I couldn't get my car out. There is about 5 other spaces in and around the front garden where it could have been parked, or even in his side of the double garage.

I went to go out at 10.30am, found driveway blocked. Knocked 3 times on his bedroom door before a grizzly housemate opened it and went to move his bike.

Later, at 4.30 ish, he asked me to move my car out of the garage as he wanted to tidy the garage. No problem and thought he planned to re-organise his bikes and tools. But he re-arranged the lawn mower, gardening tools plus a couple of boxes so nothing was even an inch over his side. Not much was on his side to begin with as it was mostly on my side and in front on my car. My personal boxes were moved across to the garage side wall. My car still fitted on my side, though I wouldn't have been able to open the car door.

So I re-arranged everything again so I could park in the garage and still not have anything over the 'line'.

Silly thing is .... the way it was stored, before he passive aggressively re-arranged was more convenient for him. Now I can only drive my car in far enough for the door to close which prevents housemate from working on his bikes as easily and with the security he desired. (He has lost the 2 foot gap behind my car to get to the power point and internal access door - which is one the side wall beside my car)

Sorry everyone, this got rather long. So AIBU to NOT offer to move everything back the way it was OR wait until he asks? I know he is pissed out with this situation.

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KnowsStuff · 10/09/2017 18:35

He does sound a prat though. On 2nd thoughts just maintain perfect old school manners and otherwise let him stew.

Sarahrellyboo1987 · 10/09/2017 20:57

Buy him some sudocream and write a note saying "sorry you we're so butt hurt over being asked to move your inconsiderately parked motorbike. Here's something to make it feel better"

missymayhemsmum · 10/09/2017 22:52

Oh ffs. Talk to each other, and work out how to arrange the stuff so you can get into your car and he can store his bikes. Yes, he is being a prat. So are you, sorry.

Abbylee · 10/09/2017 22:56

Things escalate and he is home when you are not. Converse.

flowergrrl77 · 11/09/2017 16:03

Wait, did I read that right? @abigailgabble saying YABU to park a car in a garage

I do hope that was tongue in cheek :P

Drink the beer!! :P

5rivers7hills · 11/09/2017 16:09

Yes, he is being a prat. So are you, sorry.

How is she being a twat?

HM doesn't want any communal stuff on his side
OP arranged the boxes so she could get out of her car AND comply with his wishes that he has no stuff on his side.

OP is fine.
HM is a dick.

Is there something else going on?
Why did he start all this? Does he think you've done something else wrong and is punishing you for that?

5rivers7hills · 11/09/2017 16:10

If the OP was petty, she woudl move the beer out of the fridge and onto his side...

MrsCrabbyTree · 12/09/2017 02:10

abigail. Your comment made me laugh, do we have the same humour perhaps?

(It is so much easier to fit a car in a garage when the kids (and their bits and pieces) have left home.)

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MrsCrabbyTree · 12/09/2017 02:35

There has been movement again in the garage.

He has moved my boxes back to between my car and the side wall after changing where the fridge is. I am not happy about the fridge for two reasons. Firstly, it will now be in almost full sunshine when the weather gets warmer so not ideal and secondly, it blocks the entrance to the back garden. The lawn mower can't fit through the gap he left. Who wants to go through extra effort of moving a fridge before mowing?

My boxes would be okay .... except the box containing breakables has been turned onto its' side. Hoping nothing is broken. And the really cheeky thing is he has placed his massive radio (the size of a huggies nappy box) on the top of the other box squashing it a little. So apparently it is quite fine for him to have his things on my side of the garage!!!

Other housemate is not sure, but believes she has had some food items taken. Not much, so hard to tell. Think - few slices of bread, breakfast cereal and washing powder etc. (The bread left her short, not able to make lunch to take to work.)

We also think he has lost his job. Because of this and losing his licence we not saying anything, hoping he will move out of his own accord. It feels wrong to kick a man when he is down, no matter if he is a CF.

Thank you everyone for your opinions and perspective. It helps.

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Hissy · 12/09/2017 07:46

I bet he's planning to move into the garage! Make sure there are no hidden voids...

I do wish you and the other housemate would grow up and ask him what the fuck is going on and ASK him if he needs help or anything

If he has lost his job/marbles, he has an excuse to be irrational and petty somehow. You (and the other housemate) don't

MrsCrabbyTree · 01/11/2017 02:26

I know this has been a while but just to tell what eventually happened.

Flatmates behaviour was due to his drug taking, which I eventually suspected, therefore we chose not to call him on his garage fixations as sometimes he was moody and aggro. He had lost his job and luckily for us he decided to move out to live with his father so problems solved.

His room was left in a dirty mess and he left rubbish in garage which we had to organise to be taken away. He also took a few thing that were mine. Unfortunately, I was assaulted by him while signing his bond release form. He believed he paid a lot more than he did and he lost his temper, shouting and hitting me once.

On Monday I had a text from him apologising for his behaviour and also that he was in rehab.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 01/11/2017 03:28

And you called the police on him I hope? If you didnt, why the hell not given that he stole from you and assaulted you?!

Shadow666 · 01/11/2017 04:33

Sorry things ended badly but glad to hear he is gone. He he can sort his shit out.

flowergrrl77 · 01/11/2017 08:20

Sorry to hear that he assaulted you :(

Glad that he has gone, let’s hope the new tenant in the room is more respectful of other people’s spaces and belongings :)

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