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Nightscroller1 · 09/09/2017 04:20

My dp went out tonight, we have a 6 week old. He got drunk which is not an issue at all, it's been ages bla bla.

He came in and proceeded to ask if I'd be going back to the gym to get skinny toned as he thinks it'd help our relationship. And he'd like a thigh gap.

I'm just under 9 stone and 5.4.

So he then proceeds to climb over me 15 minutes ago practically on to the babies cot then grips round it again nearly falling in it to go to an imaginary toilet. He's then rude AF to me as I direct him and keeps pushing my arm away. She has now woke up.

He's now in the spare room and I've moved the LO stuff in here (changing feeding etc).

I want to go mad in the morning but doubt it'll even help...! So instead I'll rant on here AngrySmile

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Noideawhatelseicando · 09/09/2017 04:39

WTAF you just had a baby, going to the gym is gonna be the last thing on ur mind. Never mind the fact there is nothing wrong with your weight to begin with, the cheeky fucker.
He is being irresponsible around the baby aswell what would have happened if he had landed on the baby!!
If that was my dh I would be giving him the biggest bollocking in the morning as well as telling him tgf next time he wants sex.

GinUser · 09/09/2017 04:41

Well they do say that only drunks and children tell the truth.
I assume you are not married. Did he actually want children? Sounds like he is going through the resentment stage of fatherhood, which some men do (but not all).
However, I do not think he sounds a very pleasant person to be around and you shouldn't have to put up with this. An exception can easily become a rule. You definitely should read him the riot act in the morning about his behaviour and waking up your baby. I wouldn't mention the personal remarks he made, but consider whether you want to be with someone like that in the future and weigh up your options.

Sandsunsea · 09/09/2017 04:48

He's drunk. Unless he's an arsejole the rest of time than I would put it down to alcohol. Of course, tell him in the morning what he said and did and shame him with the facts. But to be raging about it is pointless. Unless of course, he is also a dick when he's sober.

Poshindevon · 09/09/2017 04:48

Its not an issue DP was drunk? Personally I think that is a very big issue. I dont care if he had not had a drink for ten years there is no need to get drunk.
To be drunk and behave like a complete twat around a six week old baby - he would definitely get an earful in the morning.

Sandsunsea · 09/09/2017 04:53

Posh, you're being unrealistic. People sometimes get drunk. Op says it's been a while so it doesn't sound like he has a problem with alcohol. He's drank too much and fucked up. It isn't ideal but it happens. He will be ashamed of himself tomorrow and it will likely put him off doing it again. Unless of course there's more to this story and the guy is generally a dick

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Nightscroller1 · 09/09/2017 04:59

I don't have an issue with him having a drink, he's certainly not an alcoholic (if he was maybe he'd have handled it better).

No we're not married, he loves the LO and is great with her - maybe he resents me though... we've been together a good few years I didn't 'trap' him, as such.

Thanks for letting me rant and the responses. I'll let him know he was a dick in the morning. Hope he has a STINKING hangover.

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AlmostAJillSandwich · 09/09/2017 05:59

Oh, also let him know that a womans ability to have a "thigh gap" is genetic, and even some very slim women have thighs that still touch, and would have to be severely underweight to get a "gap".

Monstersincq · 09/09/2017 06:04

What jill said. I weigh around 8 stone and am 5'7 and I don't have a thigh gap. What a weird thing of him to say. I don't want to derail thread but I find the concept of men liking the idea of a thigh gap really weird.

Rainbowqueeen · 09/09/2017 06:10

Does he have a 6 pack?

OwlinaTree · 09/09/2017 06:21

I'm guessing they were discussing thigh gaps on the night out then?

Mummyoflittledragon · 09/09/2017 06:23

Does he have a super dooper willy? Perhaps he needs to grow his by a couple of inches. What do you think Confused?

OwlinaTree · 09/09/2017 06:23

I could see that... Like if I was discussing man buns in the pub with mates and I got drunk I might come home and ask dh if he was going to grow one. Like I was carrying on the conversion.

Mrstiggywink49 · 09/09/2017 06:24

A thigh gap? A thigh gap!!!???? What a totally absurd thing to say to any woman let alone a new mum ...he needs a sharp smack round the head and no dinner for a fortnight! I'm an artist and when you've drawn as many naked women as I have you'll realise that humans come in ALL shapes and sizes and a 'thigh gap' is actually quite rare and usually only seen of tall very slim rangey women........

OwlinaTree · 09/09/2017 06:24

Still think he should apologise though.

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Gindingaling · 09/09/2017 06:28

Its worrisome how you're dismissing this twats behaviour. Do you really not believe that you deserve better?

MaximaDeWit · 09/09/2017 06:28

He's a prick. I think you should show him this thread in the morning. Hopefully he'll be ashamed enough never to consider saying something like that again. I don't care if he's had a drink - YANBU to be fucked off!

Needalifeoverhaul · 09/09/2017 06:36

He said that??? I'd look up the details of a gorgeous, fit personal trainer with a six pack and tell him you think he's right. Talk non stop about this PT, tell him you've booking some one to one sessions with him...all for DP's benefit of course! Keep saying how toned PT is etc and you can't wait for him to work his magic on you...
Honestly Op, at just over 9 st you must have a gorgeous figure already. Ignore your stupid, ignorant twat of a 'd'p and know that youve got a figure to be proud of.

Needalifeoverhaul · 09/09/2017 06:37

Sorry..meant just under 9st

Only1scoop · 09/09/2017 06:41

'And he'd like a thigh gap.'

Grin

I'd give him a large gap. About 2000 miles away from him.

What a twunt.

Only1scoop · 09/09/2017 06:42

Need

What a great idea

Shoxfordian · 09/09/2017 06:45

I was wondering if men could have thigh gaps when I first read your post

He's clearly an idiot; regardless of your size it's unacceptable for him to pressure you like this.

Quick way to lose unnecessary weight though is to break up with the waste of space

notanotherNC · 09/09/2017 06:55

Wow, what an arsehole. I couldn't be with a man who was so disrespectful.

CosmicPineapple · 09/09/2017 07:01

Does your landing not need hoovering OP? Specifically outside of the spare room.

Getting drunk would not bother me but the comment would.
Will you speak to him about it?

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