Rant

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My dp went out tonight, we have a 6 week old. He got drunk which is not an issue at all, it's been ages bla bla.

He came in and proceeded to ask if I'd be going back to the gym to get skinny toned as he thinks it'd help our relationship. And he'd like a thigh gap.

I'm just under 9 stone and 5.4.

So he then proceeds to climb over me 15 minutes ago practically on to the babies cot then grips round it again nearly falling in it to go to an imaginary toilet. He's then rude AF to me as I direct him and keeps pushing my arm away. She has now woke up.

He's now in the spare room and I've moved the LO stuff in here (changing feeding etc).

I want to go mad in the morning but doubt it'll even help...! So instead I'll rant on here

That comment would upset me. I'm 5 1 and 50 kg (not skinny but I keep fit). I eat healthily and run every day and a thigh gap would be nigh on impossible for me, I'd have to be malnourished to achieve it.

To ask a woman with such a young baby to become skinny is totally unacceptable.
I'm sorry but he sounds like a massive dick.

It's not the same as asking him to grow a man bun as a pp said, because you saw one out and liked it... man buns don't require you to malnourish yourself and workout to ridiculous levels with a tiny baby... you just don't cut your hair.

I'd be gone next morning.

A fucking thigh gap. Ugh. There is not a big enough eye rolling emoji in all the world. What a crock of shit a thigh gap is. Why would any man want his DP to have a thigh gap? Sorry, I just cannot stand that shit, stupid trendy dangerous body trends like that. A thigh gap ffs. What a child.

I do hope you've lost or run out of tablets in the morning and just happen to have loads of painfully loud housework you simply must finish right away.

He sounds like an utter cock. Drunk or not, although I don't think I'd be too pleased if my DH came home that drunk only 6 weeks after our baby was born, his comments are rude, mean and ridiculous.

Definitely wake him with the hoover this morning.
Kill it with kindness as they say and in general happy chit chat say you appreciate his comments on how he would like you to have a thigh gap and go to the gym to tone up. You've been thinking about it and his offer to pay for the gym membership is lovely and you will accept it and then casually drop in that whilst your both on the honesty chit chat he could join too as he could also do with toning up. Far more pleasing on the eye
Just apologise and say your sorry you can't stretch to funding a willy extension but he could start learning some new tricks. Anyway it's not the size of it but what you do with it as they say
And then change the subject into something normal

I'm outraged there's not more outrage on this thread OP. Drunk or whatever I'd be absolutely angry if any man commented on my weight, not least 6 week post partum.

That is not a man you want to be influencing your child's upbringing. Absolutely appalling behaviour.

(And yes my DP does enjoy a drink with friends but would never utter such a crass comment because he's not an arsehole).

He is a dick. Agree you should hide all painkillers and let him suffer. Am I the only person who thinks a thigh gap looks awful and is nothing to aspire to? I do appreciate that naturally thin people may be built that way.

Unless he's falling over himself with remorse when he wakes up I would leave him. As pp said, what kind of grown adult man even knows what a thigh gap is never mind tells his partner just after giving birth to get one?! Show that you respect yourself more than he does and get rid of him. Uggh but I doubt you will, these threads are so depressing. It feels like there are so many women out there willing to settle for absolute dickheads. Makes me sad.

You should LTB. Then he can use his amazing personality to attract someone with a huge thigh gap

I think the PT idea is genius! Do that! Plus the hoovering.

Seriously though I can't believe he said that to you when you've got a 6 week old baby! But it would be the falling over the cot that would piss me off most

Mine would have been pleased with an ankle gap. Appallingingly unsupportive thing to say to a new mother. I hope he's some sort of Adonis? I'd definitely be 'going to the gym' aka gossip over a glass of wine with a friend four times a week and leave him with the baby. Help your relationship probably means he just wants more sex again - tell him it's extreme tiredness and again four evening week leave him with the baby, come home and moan he hasn't done the ironing or washing up. First thing tomorrow (today) Hoover on loud, coffee with two teaspoons of salt and his debit card to buy a very nice piece of Jewellery or new outfit to help you feel better about yourself.

Crumbs Debit card? Jewellery? That's theft!!!!

SoConfusedandUpset definitely not HE has to make the purchase not me - to facilitate him showing true remorse. Sadly, he's very rarely unpleasant so I don't get much!