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to be happy DH is out tonight?

96 replies

Kronutpearl · 08/09/2017 13:00

DH is out for work drinks & dinner tonight. I love him but I am delighted. I intend to put DS to bed, eat a fish finger sandwich for dinner and read my book watch shite TV

According to my colleague this is weird and loving couples shouldn't want to spend the evening apart ever Hmm

Surely I am not BU?!?!

OP posts:
ILoveMillhousesDad · 08/09/2017 13:26

*bunny wunny

cudeatahorse · 08/09/2017 13:29

I'm jealous.
I'm a firm believer that couples need space.
Absence does make the hear grow fonder and I find I enjoy DH's company much better when I've had a day of breathing space.

amusedbush · 08/09/2017 13:29

My DH is a real homebody and rarely goes out by himself. I recently came home from work to find him putting his shoes on. He was very apologetic about having been given a ticket to the football at short notice and I almost shoved him out the front door, urging him to not rush home and stop for a kebab if he wanted Grin

The dog and I watched crap TV with Dominos pizza. Bliss!

Liskee · 08/09/2017 13:32

I LOVE it when DH (very rarely) goes out. Doesn't mean I don't love it when he's there too, but a wee night of own space is bliss :)

BestestBrownies · 08/09/2017 13:33

Nope. She's the weird one OP, not you.

DP will be out for most of today doing cinema & pizza with his kids. I have the day off and am very much enjoying having the house to myself.

Original poster
Kronutpearl · 08/09/2017 13:36

Excellent, we don't need to book into relationship counselling then

I guarantee tonight will be the night DS plays silly buggers at bedtime though Hmm

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Eliza9917 · 08/09/2017 13:39

I said no and outlined my reasons namely fishfinger sarnie and shite tv and she said "I think that's really weird when you're in a loving relationship. I always want to see my DH."

She sounds co-dependant. I love my h2b and love spending time with him obv, but I wouldn't want to spend every waking minute with him, and he doesn't me.

That's normal imo.

IHeartDodo · 08/09/2017 13:42

Def NU!!
I love my DP but when I have an evening alone I tend to eat junk food and watch something he doesn't like!
Once he was meant to go out to his hobby straight from work but came home early to pick something up, and caught me in my PJ's eating pizza and watching downton abbey (at about 6pm lol)... he said "can't you have an affair or something"!

NannyRed · 08/09/2017 13:42

God grief! You are far from unreasonable, I've just spent three days home alone as DH had 3 days work in London, I loved it.

It seems far more unhealthy to me to want to be in each other's pockets.

Enjoy that fishfinger sandwich and possibly a Gin or Wine

gamerchick · 08/09/2017 13:43

My husband rarely goes out on an evening but now and then he'll tell me 'it looks like fishing weather ' and I frog march him to the bait shop while it's still an idea in his head Grin

Does them good imo.

Underparmummy · 08/09/2017 13:44

I love it when DH is out! He is also normally away overnight when out as well.

Eat with the kids so all the food stuff is DONE. Open some wine, watch made in chelsea, location, ex on the beach, big brother, bake off. All the stuff he never wants to watch.

Then have a boogie to MTV two glasses of wine in.

Wax my bikini line.

Trundle off to sleep starfished in the bed.

NotQuiteJustYet · 08/09/2017 13:46

Your evening sounds AMAZING. I really want a fish finger sandwich now.

Colleague, on the other hand, sounds co-dependent on her DH.

cudeatahorse · 08/09/2017 13:47

My DH is a real homebody and rarely goes out by himself. I recently came home from work to find him putting his shoes on. He was very apologetic about having been given a ticket to the football at short notice and I almost shoved him out the front door, urging him to not rush home and stop for a kebab if he wanted

Ugh, mine's become like that.
If he goes out he says ''I won't be long''
Inside I'm screaming ''take as long as you like''
Do Not Rush Back.

sm40 · 08/09/2017 13:52

Sounds fab. The worst thing is when they come home early and you've just started on the bag of popcorn/glass of wine!!

CadleCrap · 08/09/2017 13:52

My DH was away for 4 weeks. I changed the sheets every second night. New bed smell.mmmmmm.

Didn't miss him one bit, yanbu

pinkie1982 · 08/09/2017 13:56

I love Thursday and Sunday nights when OH is out. I look forward to them.

UrsulaPandress · 08/09/2017 13:56

You have clearly missed the threads on here where many posters get excited when their DH goes away and they change the bed then relish being alone in the clean crispness.

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 08/09/2017 13:57

DH and I lived 4,000 miles apart for 7 months last year (long story) and I barely missed him Blush

In fact when we were back together again under one roof it was a huuuuuge adjustment.

DudeHatesHisCarryOut · 08/09/2017 13:58

I was annoyed yesterday because DP only decided to go out for the evening halfway through the day. If I'd known in the morning I'd have got some beef out of the freezer for my dinner. He hates beef so I have it rarely.

I was annoyed he came back earlier than I'd expected, though, as I'd just put on a chick-flick. But never mind, I left it on and he ignored it! Lol!

Mummaofboys · 08/09/2017 14:06

Enjoy it, sounds fab! I love an evening to myself, pick a box of chocolates up on your way home to scoff whilst reading!

Moanyoldcow · 08/09/2017 14:06

That's beautiful - my DH is out too. Crap TV, nice bubble bath, hair treatment. Woohoo!!

Have a great night OP!

amusedbush · 08/09/2017 14:33

cudeatahorse

Right?? No rush at all...!

Mustang27 · 08/09/2017 14:41

Not remotely weird, I love my own space especially since having kids it's so rare not to have to cater to someone else's needs it's pure bliss. I love him no less because I like a break.

IHeartDodo · 08/09/2017 14:41

Ooh my DP is away for the weekend now and I'd forgotten about bedding... gonna change it tonight and have 2 whole nights of lovely clean sheets without horrible man farts in them

Minstrelsareyum · 08/09/2017 14:47

It sounds bliss op.
My DH goes out evening time ONCE a year for his Christmas work drinks. That's it. And we have one 'reception' room. Nowhere else to hang out.
However I am a SAHM mum and part time cleaner so have the house to myself daytime. The occasional evening would be good due to being able to slob, watch crap tv but hey ho. He is who he is and I love him.