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To think that 7am on a work morning is not the time to "call in"

71 replies

Frillyhorseyknickers · 08/09/2017 07:57

I actually get on quite well with my FIL but sometimes he is a complete fucking cockwomble.

They live about a mile down the road and him and DH work together in the family business. Occasionally he forgets it's 2017 and he can call DH to find out what he's planning to do that day, although today that wasn't necessary as they already knew what everyone was doing.

So why does he stride into my just mopped kitchen unannounced letting all the fucking dogs in, move all my cushions out of the window seat to accommodate his arse at 7 o fucking clock in the morning when he knows we're both busy getting shit together before work, I'm usually in various states of undress and at just under 38 weeks pregnant, not in the best of spirits.

And then the fucker says "what have you got there, a coffee?" Yes, yes I fucking have and I'm not offering you one, I'm sure you've got your own hot beverage making facilities at your own fucking house, off back to which you can fuck.

Argh. I feel sorry for my MIL on days like today. I'm in a bad mood now.

OP posts:
JakeBallardswife · 08/09/2017 07:59

7 am! DH needs to have a word or two!

MissMogwai · 08/09/2017 08:01

That would piss me right off. Lock your doors from now on.

The way you've written that is very funny though, so cheered my morning up Grin

AlternativeTentacle · 08/09/2017 08:02

How is he striding in in the first place?

Lock the front/back doors and remove any key he has.

KirstyJC · 08/09/2017 08:02

So did you tell him this isn't on and to please leave? Does he have a key - if so, get it back!

If you can't tell him then DH needs to.

Inertia · 08/09/2017 08:02

Yanbu. I wouldn't have opened the door.

Sparklingbrook · 08/09/2017 08:02

Lock the kitchen door?

StereophonicallyChallenged · 08/09/2017 08:06

He probably knows you're already up and about......who on earth mops floors pre 7am Shock Grin

Sorry! It's probably not as funny a situation as you've made it sound!

LakieLady · 08/09/2017 08:07

I would be apoplectic with rage!

I hate people calling round unannounced, I'd go bonkers if anyone just let themselves in, and no way would I want any visitors at all at 7am when I'm barely conscious and trying to get ready to go to work. I'd probably go into screeching banshee mode while running a master class in extreme swearing.

Definitely ask DH to speak to him. At the very least, he can say he mustn't do it once the baby arrives, which won't be long now.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 08/09/2017 08:08

I'm impressed at the 7am floor mopping too!

iseenodust · 08/09/2017 08:09

YANBU. Tell DH he has to set some boundaries and now. When you're sleep deprived he might get the coffee over his head otherwise Wink.

Coastalcommand · 08/09/2017 08:12

You could have offered him a drink though.

peekyboo · 08/09/2017 08:12

The dogs were out so OP wouldn't have had the door locked anyway, and if she had locked it, the FIL would've been hammering on the door yelling, 'Did ya know the dogs are out? Helloooooo??'

SexLubeAndAFishSlice · 08/09/2017 08:12

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SandysMam · 08/09/2017 08:13

YABU for mopping the floor at 7am while 38 weeks pregnant and off to do a day at work!! You make the rest of us look bad Wink
On a serious note, if this is your first baby, you need to nip this in the bud now or FIL will be popping in at all hours unannounced to see the baby.

zzzzz · 08/09/2017 08:13

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ijustwannadance · 08/09/2017 08:14

Fuck that. If he has a key, take it back.
Tell him he is not to pop round without phoning first, especoally at 7am!!!!

You wait until he does it just as baby has settled for a nap.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 08/09/2017 08:15

Farmers?

RollingGreenMarble · 08/09/2017 08:17

YANBU thats way too early and he sounds way too comfortable.

Lonecatwithkitten · 08/09/2017 08:25

Your DH is a farmer? You live in one the houses on the farm? Forget privacy I grew up with this. Only when my parents had been married 31 years and they retired and left the farmhouse did my mum ever feel her home was her own.

JWrecks · 08/09/2017 08:29

Completely unacceptable! I'd be fuming.

Go round stark naked (or wearing just as little as you can stand) one morning and make it awful for him. Shout across the house to your DH about vomit and farts and body hair and 'rhoids and wee and every single thing you can think of that would make him uncomfortable. It might teach him that adults need a bit of privacy in their own home while they're getting ready in the morning.

And if that doesn't work, throw an absolutely unholy tantrum fit for a toddler and demand that your DH forbid him about interrupting his very pregnant wife's morning routine and how inappropriate it is to invade on what is, for everyone else in the world, and very busy and very personal, private time of day.

And as PP have said, lock the doors and take any keys he has off him, or change the bloody lock, as this can only get worse.

chocatoo · 08/09/2017 08:39

YABU for mopping the floor at 7 am. Tell him to help himself to coffee. Give him jobs to do: 'oh FIL great to see you, you've arrived at just the right time to ...' When the baby arrives, immediately hand baby to FIL and disappear.

Catsize · 08/09/2017 08:41

'A coffee? Yes, it is FIL. I see there's nothing wrong with your eyes or ease of smell, just your manners'.

RonSwansonsMoustache · 08/09/2017 08:42

Lock your door!

NoSquirrels · 08/09/2017 08:43

Careful OP. I did some rather obsessive mopping at 38 weeks & had the baby before the end of the day.

(And then could precisely answer the question about when the floor had last been mopped for months weeks Grin)

Scrowy · 08/09/2017 08:47

my FIL (farmer) does this. Drives me mad. Used to wander round the house looking for paperwork when I was trying to breastfeed apparently oblivious that I had no top on.

He has got better after some very stern words from DP but still forgets that he doesn't live here any more from time to time. I don't mind him coming in, but like a pp said it almost feels like it's never really actually going to be my home.