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defintelyNCForThisOne · 07/09/2017 14:42

Too late to tell me what to do (as it's all said and done), but a little confirmation or education could be appropriate.

Today a younger child (Year 4) told her male teacher she'd begun her first period. In our 4 form entry school, he works with 3 other men and felt this was more appropriately dealt with by a woman so took her to a female teacher (head of Year 5) and said something along the lines of "Mrs X, could you have a little chat with Lucy here? Thanks"

He buggered off sharpish and didn't think anything more of it that a friendly "are you okay now Lucy" after lunch.

He's mid-30s with nearly a decade's experience.

I've since had a shitty email from Mrs X asking why she was interrupted, why she was calle dupon when it isn't her job and if someone as immature as Mr X should be in his position.

Surely actions were fine or am I seriously out of touch. Mrs X is a fine member of staff. Not at all 'on a crusade' generally and her comments have been enough to make me wonder if my quick dismissal of her concerns was misguided.

Thanks

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gobster · 08/09/2017 10:44

Steppemum, I do appreciate that but as there is no policy in place the school does need to decide one and I'd like to think she can be compassionate enough to realise the situation was unusual and should be pushing for a proper procedure to prevent any female being disturbed again while teaching

Mind I suppose just guessing at the tone of her email and she might have 😃

I suppose I just feel for the little girl and the fact she would have been more comfortable with a female teacher

Trb17 · 08/09/2017 10:48

It was absolutely more appropriate to find a caring female staff member to help this young girl. A man has never had a period and is less likely to understand. Sympathise maybe but not empathise.

My own DD by year 4 understood periods but didn't want to chat with her Dad about them and they are close. I think it's very natural for a young girl to feel better with female help on this sort of thing. Especially if she was in need of clean underwear etc.

It's gender neutrality gone utterly mad if we put young girls in uncomfortable positions just to be seen as PC. Utter madness and doing a disservice to the child who, at the end of the day, is the only person who really matters in this situation.

steppemum · 08/09/2017 11:52

gobster, I totally agree, hence my long email a few posts back

steppemum · 08/09/2017 12:55

email???? post I mean

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