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Original poster

Or is my mum?

35 replies

Sparrowlegs248 · 06/09/2017 21:33

Ds2 has recently started weaning. He was gnawing on a carrot stick the other day (raw, he's teething too) and he dropped it on the floor. The kitchen floor. Now, I'm not precious and would have picked it up, looked at it and handed it back to him.if it looked OK. Or, just given him another.

My mum picked it up, put it in her mouth, sacked on it and went to hand it back to him.

I rather sharply said "don't do that!" as he was grabbing for it.

The reason being, there were fresh ones on the table, AND she had a mouthful of food. Ham, boiled egg and beetroot to be precise.

She got huffy with me.

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KarateKitten · 06/09/2017 21:35

You were. I can't even figure out what your mum did wrong unless you're uncomfortable with her mouth germs?

backintown · 06/09/2017 21:39

Grim. I would had a massive issue with that. As an aside it sounds like you were at a 1970's buffet!

backintown · 06/09/2017 21:40

(But in summary YANBU!)

lostfrequencies · 06/09/2017 21:40

backintown Grin

FenceSitter01 · 06/09/2017 21:41

Do you gargle with bleach before you kiss anyone? Worse things will be going in his mouth, I presume he's crawling if he's weening - so hands for one thing.

Izzy24 · 06/09/2017 21:42

Just rinse it under the tap?

But not in a mouth?

PuffinNose · 06/09/2017 21:42

Meh. Maybe not hugely polite but similarly not hugely big deal.
You were happy to give him food off the floor (said with absolutely no judgement) but git unhappy about her giving him a carrot she'd bitten? Presumably she kisses him and he isn't allergic to any of the other food she was eating?

Mum2jenny · 06/09/2017 21:43

Not unreasonable at all as there were fresh carrot sticks available for him to have.

Bluntness100 · 06/09/2017 21:45

I find it a bit grim sucking s carrot stick off the floor when your mouth is full of food to be honest, then giving it toa small child when fresh carrot sticks were available.

Allthewaves · 06/09/2017 21:45

Er yuck, no thats grim

Aquamarine1029 · 06/09/2017 21:46

That's disgusting. YANBU.

Shumpalumpa · 06/09/2017 21:46

I can't believe you were going to give him the carrot without rinsing it first! Shock

But yes, someone should have rinsed it in sink, not in their mouth.

user1493413286 · 06/09/2017 21:48

I wouldn't let my mum do that either; if someone did that to my food I wouldnt want to eat it so why would your child.

Nuttynoo · 06/09/2017 21:50

Yabu as your hygiene doesn't seem much better.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 06/09/2017 21:52

It was the fact that she was midway through chewing her food and put the carrot into her chewed up food, in her mouth, that I had a problem with.

70's style salad is what she was eating!

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Chocolatecookiesandmilk · 06/09/2017 21:53

What user said. I'd eat something I dropped on the floor if it looked ok and was on a clean floor but not something someone had sucked. That's gross. Yanba

minoandolphin · 06/09/2017 21:54

I've sucked on a dummy before giving it back to Dd before but crucially, not with a big mouthful of food. Because for one thing, ew; and also, there's a bit of a difference between giving a weaning baby a large carrot stick to chew on, and a large carrot stick covered in tiny food particles that can get in the throat or windpipe.

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Sparrowlegs248 · 06/09/2017 21:54

Is the (clean, no pets, recent mopped) kitchen floor considered as bad as someone else's chewed up food?

As for allergies, I don't know, he's seven months old and hasn't had egg yet (a common allergy in his cousins) although that wasn't my first thought.

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Witsender · 06/09/2017 21:55

I wouldn't bother rinsing if it was off my floor tbh, but would find the sucking a wee bit gross.

OverOn · 06/09/2017 22:01

Ewwww. I'm all for sharing drinks, germs won't kill you, etc etc.

But the thought of all that half chewed food going on the carrot - yuck. YANBU.

chockwockydoda · 06/09/2017 22:01

Yanbu there is more bacteria in her mouth than on a clean floor. Shoulda just rinsed it off under the tap

OverOn · 06/09/2017 22:03

Also I would completely eat food if it fell onto a clean floor (and, erm, the not so clean floor in my house). But the half chewed food thing makes me feel a bit sick.

Maelstrop · 06/09/2017 22:05

Euw, she was unreasonable and disgusting, YANBU.

MmmmDonuts · 06/09/2017 22:07

Yeh that's rank, I would have scolded my mother for that.

PollyFlint · 06/09/2017 22:11

The half-chewed food thing tips this one over into the 'gross' side, I think.

A lot of people seem to suck dummies that kids have dropped before they hand them back, which always seems a bit weird to me (although probably harmless I suppose) so I expect that's where your mum was coming from. But the half-chewed thing is really grim and (while probably also harmless) would probably repulse me, I must admit.

And I'm not a squeamish or germ-fearing person at all who will happily eat stuff I've dropped on the floor, so ... yeah. Gross.