What do I say to this?

[teaandakitkat]

Ds wants to do an activity with 3 friends for his birthday then go to Pizza Express.

I texted round all the parents and got this reply from one of them.

"Dd would love to do the birthday activity but does not want to eat in Pizza Express. She deeply opposes large corporate chains and prefers to support locally owned eateries. Would you consider eating in xyz instead so that she doesn't feel excluded?"

This kid is 9.

Wtf? Sometimes something is so bizarre you're not quite sure how to respond.

I want to say "Sorry, birthday boy has asked to go to Pizza Express so that's what we are going to do. You can collect your dd before we go in if she won't join us".

AIBU? I'm not, am I?

Surely you either go to the party that's on offer or you don't? The host doesn't arrange the party to suit individual guests?

I would text back "good one, lolz! See you in Pizza Express x

That is insane.

let's pretend for a min this is the child's belief. The parent should say 'well it's xx's birthday so we have to say yes please or no thank you. what would you like to do?'

the mum is crazy. Perfect responses OP.

I was shopping with DD age 19 yesterday and suggested a coffee at Costa as it was just nearby and I was gasping for caffeine.

She asked me if they pay their taxes. I wasn't sure so we went to a local coffee place which was just as near. I actually felt quite pleased she thinks about things like that. But 19 year old students are old enough to have their own strong opinions.

I feel so sorry for the little girl, her mum has punished her by stopping her going to a fun birthday party for her friend because she doesn't agree with large corporate chains. It won't be the first or last time either. She's 9, for fucks sake. :(.

Omg! That poor child, what a that her mother is. Well done op for not bowing down to her ridiculous demands

Poor kid. Hope her mum tells her the reason that she can't go so that she doesn't think it's just that she isn't invited.

Just... wow!

Surely at their age they will talk about it at school.. her mum has probably given her a script to rehearse so the mum doesn't look a complete twit for pretending it's her daughter with the PE issue.

In case nobody else has said it (just about to rtft) this has Daily Fail lifting all over it.

Bigbluebus I thought this too. Most early teens I know think a trip to Nandos is the height of gastromomic sophistication, somehow an earthenweare bowl of locally sourced tofu and quinoa with a yummy fresh kale topping doesn't have the same appeal.

Sorry I'm laughing my head off !! What the actual ??? Wow

Has anyone popped over to netmums to see if the mum has started a thread on there ?

That is ridiculous! I am left speechless!

OMG LOL Poor child! She'll know about it, and know she's been removed by Mummy!

For Gods sake make sure your youngster lets her know she was invited! Don't let Mummy make up lies!

yes, just as well. i bet her mum doesn't like pe, her dd does and she cba with the argument. you're well out of it.

We had two odd requests from parents once!

One said that as their weekends were family time (fair enough), the entire family would need to come to the party (mum, dad and childs 3 siblings) and could they possibly have their tickets and food paid for by us as the invite has 'spoilt their plans'

We also had a 'what birthday cake is birthday girl having?' so we said 'We don't know yet, she's asked for one with one of her favourite singers on' and we got 'Oh, my DD hates cakes like that. She finds them tasteless and tacky, a little common in fact. She wont be attending at all if that's what's on offer. My DD has asked if you could get one specially made?' - The child was five. She didn't end up coming, but on her own birthday, brought a one direction cake into school!

Hope your son has a great birthday!

wow!

Seriously?!!! Really?!
How bloody rude! If she doesn't like the choice of restaurant for her poor railroaded kid why didn't she just say no!!
All I am saying fast forward two years she will be a major embarrassment to her dc if she isn't already! Her dd will ditch her ( and her values) at the earliest opportunity. Nothing wrong with a dislike of chains but to put this on someone else at a birthday party is unforgivable. Feel so sorry for dd.

Well, fuck me, that's a new one! Poor kid, though.

If she texts then I assume she's not opposed to Vodafone, o2 etc although they are much bigger.

Please don't ever invite them again. Pizza express is fabulous my dc love going there, and would be grateful for the invite. Such high handed vile behaviour

Did they text on a small independently sourced phone network using a reconditioned artisanal Nokia? Or on an evil iphone/Samsung etc? Just wondering how far it goes

What a ghastly woman! Dodged a bullet there.

People are so ill mannered. Great text from you OP!

I've just had to read it again! Bloodyhell what a stuck up pretentious arse ! That's totally her view not her child's no 8 year old I know would give a hoot about supporting local businesses! she's sounds like a total dick... I'm guessing she or her daughter won't have many friends behaving like that... which is a shame for the child x

OMG that is so breathtakingly rude and twatty