Not to give DC a snack on way home from school?

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Quite happy to let them snack once we are home but my DD (9) has asked that I arrive at school gates to collect her with a snack. She's noticed other parents arrive with a snack and says she's hungry too at the end of the school day (often doesn't eat the fruit I give her for morning break though!) And doesnt want to wait the 15-20 min it takes to get her home. I suspect hunger doesn't come into it , she's just hoping she is more likely to get a bag of crisps or similar, rather than toast, if they eat on the way home rather than once we get there.
Today we saw a family eating a chocolate bar and small pother of Pringles on the way home which prompted the question (though not for the first time)
AIBU to make my DC just wait a little until they get home and suggest that they have something a bit healthier than chocolate and crisps?

No matter how well you feed your primary kids, it'll go out of the window at secondary.

DP and I were in McDonald's at lunchtime yesterday. It's about five minutes walk from the local school and sixth form college and the entire place was PACKED with college/school kids. Most of them had burgers/nuggets and fries, apple pies/donuts/McFlurries and coffee or milkshakes. Probably only cost them £3/4 each.

Not that I'm saying you should feed primary DC McDonald's everyday, but that there's no point getting too stressed about the odd packet of crisps or chocolate bar, or a snack after school. Expecting children to go from lunchtime to dinner on a tiny school lunch is a little unrealistic imo. After school care provide snacks, so I think parents should do as well, even if it's just a banana or a slice of cheese on toast or something.

If your dd is hungry then yes you are,if she just wants a treat everyday then no you are not. Hardly rocket science but then I guess what you really wanted is a thread that slags off all the bad parents who give their dcs snacks (How very dare they!) which you have been granted. Very good.

No Font if you read the OP it wasn't to do with criticising snacks but waiting until the child gets home to have it.

Pizza please, it's AIBU and true to form the thread has turned into exactly what it was always going to turn into. A thread bashing other people's parenting choices, this time snack based. It was never going to be anything else now was it.

Does it really matter whether they have it now or when they get home? Yes, my DS could technically wait without dying of starvation but I'll have him whingeing for 20 minutes in my ear every day. I did go through a period of 'forgetting' to bring the snack to see what happened and that is exactly what the outcome was. I even went through a period of bringing fruit. Again, same result. .He doesn't respond to discipline (makes it worse, in fact) and is persistent, doing it for days and days one end. And, at the end of the day, it's me that has got to listen to the whining, not you.

This thread only started because OP's child was pestering her for a snack because her friends got one. As a parent, you have to deal with this sort of thing all the time. Alisha can stay up to 10 pm, Joseph's dad says he doesn't have to do homework because it's a waste of time, Joshua watches TV for 4 hours every evening, Betty's mum lets her smoke weed etc etc.

You can't expect other parents to fit in with your values because you feel yours are right. There are different ways of doing things and that is it. Even if you got definitive proof that you were unequivocally right then people will still do stuff wrong

I'd have worse gandalf, as I said, I'd have to deal with a tantrumming 6yo on a 45 minute walk will 6 roads to cross. Fun.

Exactly Gandalf. I bet Betty will be snacking between meals too!

Certainly, if she gets the munchies

Exactly!

Font I think you've completely misinterpreted my post.
My point about other the other kids was that I doubt my dd would have asked for a snack had the other parent been dishing out apples or carrot sticks! As I have said, I have no problem with my children having a snack after school , but I wondered if others agreed it was not unreasonable to expect her to wait 15 min until we get home.
I've also said that I do take a snack on the days we are going straight on somewhere like swimming.
When she has not eaten her fruit snack from earlier in the day, of course it makes sense that she eats that if she is hungry!

Your thread went mad. YANBU. Call me old fashioned but all kids can survive a 20 min walk home from school. They don't need to be feasting on tubs of dips and sticks in that short time. Parents are using food as 'dummies'. Doing something else from school is totally different, fine to take a snack then.

I always used to bring a Snack. Usually a reasonably healthy choice, but some kids got given all sorts of sugary crap.

Fair enough Chained. I apologise if I've wronged you.

I think it's up to you.
Both my kids are starving when I pick them up. I take snacks, but it's always fruit. They are not allowed anything other than fruit until after tea.
They know this and accept it.

They see other kids with sweets etc and they have asked for sweets but I still only take fruit. If they don't want it, that's fine.
I always try and get them to drink any water left in their water bottles as they are usually thirsty rather than hungry.