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AIBU to think Coleen Rooney should divorce Wayne Rooney

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user1497997754 · 04/09/2017 07:45

I think you could maybe forgive him the once but he continues to humiliate her with his womanising....if she leaves him tho will he just end up like George Best...you thoughts

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Chestervase1 · 04/09/2017 10:38

It is Colleen's business and her decision. It's not really easy to leave with three children and another on the way. For everyone who is saying she should leave what if he's a great dad and his children would be devastated. Perhaps there is more to come out. I wish her well and don't think she should make a decision about the rest of her life down to this random girl.

WomblingThree · 04/09/2017 10:41

FFS Serenaballerina37 what planet are you on? Poor sad little single mother gets overcome with gratitude about being chatted up? I think I need to vomit.

I'm sure she knew exactly what she was doing. Being female doesn't make you stupid and incapable you know. WR isn't exactly unrecognisable. Women don't chat up men in bars?? God almighty, which century did you escape from?

And why are you blethering on about family photo shoots? If you don't want to see them, don't look. I can't remember the last time I saw a posed picture of all five of them!

As always on here, victim blaming rules. Not that I actually think Coleen is any sort of "victim". Could just be that she's thought about it and made her own mind up?!

Serenaballerina37 · 04/09/2017 10:41

Aderyn yes I agree.

The OW in this case didn't behave decently, IMO, because a) she knew for sure WR was married and b) because she sold the story (and possibly set up the story??).

So I agree. Not decent. However I've known young women who have got caught up in these situations in the past. It annoys me that society comes down so heavily on them when they are usually the ones being lied to by promiscuous men. I believe WR would have to tell big lies about his life to get women to go home with him. He is the one creating the situation and if it hadn't been that OW, it would have been another one in that bar that night.

Serenaballerina37 · 04/09/2017 10:43

WomblingThree see my latest post.

So bored of MN and the madonna - whore complex!!

Aderyn17 · 04/09/2017 10:43

I guess whether he is a great dad, depends on how you define great. I think being respectful to their mum is a good start. I also think that good dads think about how their actions will affect their children and maybe don't do things that their kids will read about in the daily mail!

MsLumley · 04/09/2017 10:47

My 'D'F had an affair while my DM was pregnant with my brother. She stayed with him due mostly to Catholic guilt and (unlike CR) because she couldn't afford to leave him. And he carried on and had affair after affair until eventually she found the courage to kick him out. By then we all hated him for the damage he'd done to our family and I haven't seen my father for over 20 years. I know my mother bitterly regrets not finding the strength to boot him out years ago and the damage he did to her sense of self worth was shattering and will stay with her forever. Wayne Rooney will cheat again, he's too stupid not to. She should get rid and walk away with some dignity.

Lovingmybear2 · 04/09/2017 10:48

No one should judge another's relationship as none really knows the boundaries and behaviours other couples have.

The drunk driving however was disgraceful and far more important. Us normal people get taxis and he could afford a driver ffs. He seems to think he's above the law so hopefully he will be well punished and not by a fine

pigeondujour · 04/09/2017 10:51

Even if he was really respectful of his marriage he won't be 'a great dad' in any way that he couldn't still be if she left him. He won't be physically around enough.

IClavdivs · 04/09/2017 10:58

Liinoo: If she follows the rules of her church she can't divorce him.

I too am a practising Catholic and was always told that there's no problem getting a divorce, it's that you can't re-marry in a Catholic Church unless you have an annulment granted by the Church.

In fact, after her divorce, my cousin was advised by her parish priest to consider seeking an annulment - she did have what seemed to be grounds - just in case she wished to re-marry sometime in the future. However, she couldn't be bothered as she felt she wouldn't want to marry again and she had children.

Andrewofgg · 04/09/2017 11:03

Lovingmybear2 What had you in mind? If he is convicted or pleads the Bench must follow guidelines. That will be a fine based on means - but the maximum is fixed by law and is chicken shit to him - and disqualification for at least a year; how long depends on how far over he blew in the machine. The CPS will ask for a standard figure for costs - it does not cost more to prepare a case because the defendant is well known.

If you mean prison time forget it - that is reserved for repeat drink-drivers who are very highly over. The Bench cannot jug him because he is too rich to notice the fine - that would be as unfair as banging people up because they cannot pay a fine.

Everton could show him the door but they won't.

The fact is that if his wife divorces him and takes half of what he has - and she won't and shouldn't get more - and he never kicks another ball they can both get by very comfortably until the end of their lives.

SilverySurfer · 04/09/2017 11:04

My mind is boggled that anyone would marry the ugly little oik in the first place. It's up to Coleen, maybe money is more important than feeling loved and respected.

DeleteOrDecay · 04/09/2017 11:08

For everyone who is saying she should leave what if he's a great dad and his children would be devastated.

If he was such a great dad he wouldn't have cheated on the mother of his children in the first place and put her in the position of having to even consider leaving. Anything that happens as a result of this and his other 'antics' is entirely his responsibility.

I feel for her, yes they have money etc etc but surely there's more to life. She could be heartbroken for all we know.

He's a complete arse, always thought he was. Over rated as a footballer too.

WomblingThree · 04/09/2017 11:10

What Madonna-whore complex are you talking about Serenaballerina37?

Anatidae · 04/09/2017 11:10

Great dads don't expose their kids to bullying and teasing at school. Nor do they cause distress to and disrespect their wives by shagging anything that moves and drink driving.

If she was a generic mumsnet user asking for advice it'd be LTB. Money doesn't give you a perfect life - it sure as hell makes an awful lot of stuff easier but it doesn't stop people from being cheaters, or boozers, or hurting each other.

I'd be serving him with divorce papers, taking my allotted half and settling back for a nice life. And looking after the kids, who are no doubt getting hell at school.

Weebo · 04/09/2017 11:30

I had never heard of Bel Mooney until this thread but she can fuck right off.

Idiot.

YorkieButtons · 04/09/2017 11:32

I'm from where CR and WR grew up and went to the same secondary as her though I'm 9/10 years older.
The school had a reputation for being extremely religious back in the day and we were taught by nuns.

Now, it's just a normal girls catholic school.

Let's face it, she's hardly Mother Teresa is she? If she wanted out of the marriage then I'm sure her religion would not be a factor.
She has probably done things that go against catholic teachings and she certainly doesn't respect herself enough by continuing in this marriage.

My ds has Rooney on his new Everton shirt, he's massively respected here and it's sort of accepted that footballers do get attention just because of who they are and how much money they have.

I've heard so many rumours over the years that have never made it to the papers.
Only CR and WR know their relationship though so all of the speculation under the sun won't make a difference.

Let's not forget that CR is successful in her
own right with perfume and clothing lines, she's hardly one meal away from the job centre.

MsGameandWatching · 04/09/2017 11:56

It's up to Coleen, maybe money is more important than feeling loved and respected.

I bet not even half of those on here condemning CR and trumpeting about self respect have a marriage or relationship where they feel loved and respected as much as they would want to be "although studies vary research has shown that almost 60% of men and over 45% of women will cheat at some point in their marriage, affairs affect 1 out of every 2.7 couples, which is almost one third of all of us"

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/are-we-meant-to-be-monogamous-why-people-cheat-open-relationships-and-life-after-an-affair-10097811.html

Some of you are being cheated on right now even if you don't know it or are doing the cheating.

I think pulling this woman apart for remaining in her marriage (if she decides to) especially as she's pregnant and has three young children, is just disgusting.

Chestervase1 · 04/09/2017 12:23

Last week there was s post whereby a family friend called in on the husband after midnight and slightly drunk. The husband let her in, she stayed the night and the woman told the poster the next morning that her marriage was on the rocks. The poster had been in hospital with their sick child at the time. The husband was defended and was a "good guy" for not turning the woman out and was a deemed to be naive. Double standards somewhat

DeleteOrDecay · 04/09/2017 12:30

I think pulling this woman apart for remaining in her marriage (if she decides to) especially as she's pregnant and has three young children, is just disgusting

I agree. I also dislike the notion that she doesn't deserve sympathy because she's well off. Regardless of wealth she's still a victim of his shitty actions. He is the one who should be condemned here.

TracyBeakerSoYeah · 04/09/2017 12:31

Random musings - Coleen & Victoria Beckham should get it on together.
Now that would be 'brand' Wink

StrumpersPlunkett · 04/09/2017 12:42

He has been a complete arse and has put her up to public scrutiny.
People judging HER for what she does next.
Pregnant with 3 boys probably with little urge (until current events) to end her marriage. Status quo and pretending it hasn't happened is somehow easier. Keeping up appearances for their vulnerable boys.
Or
Showing that women don't have to put up with this shit. Kicking him out and showing her boys that they shouldn't ever treat women so badly.

Totally her choice and no judgement from me on which path she chooses

Anatidae · 04/09/2017 13:48

Exactly - all all the judgement and scrunity on her... when he's the idiot.

Whether she's the Queen of Sheba or poor as a church mouse is irrelevant- she's deserving of sympathy. Money gets rid of a lot of life's problems, but not the ones that are hardest to solve (affairs, health, etc.)

That bel mooney article is disgraceful. Utter misogynistic shite (and poorly written to boot.)

BattleaxeGalactica · 04/09/2017 13:52

By almost anyone's definition money will certainly be 'growing on trees' for him and his family for the rest of their lives

Depends if he can resist gambling, boozing and womanising it away really. Time will tell.

Andrewofgg · 04/09/2017 16:00

Money gets rid of a lot of life's problems, but not the ones that are hardest to solve

In the immortal words of Spike Milligan: Money can't buy you friends but it can get you a better class of enemy!

MargaretTwatyer · 04/09/2017 16:39

I'm not completely convinced he was actually going to cheat on this occasion. The girl involved clearly set him up, photographers were on scene to take the pictures when they don't seem to have been around earlier in the evening so weren't following him. Clearly they were tipped off, as were the police.

Given she and her friends seem to have been prepared to do that I could find it fairly easy to believe they could have manipulated a situation where he felt obliged to drive but not for the purpose of cheating necessarily.

The drink driving is inexcusable. The other stuff is more of a grey area really. Only he and her know what happened, and she doesn't seem a very reliable witness.