To ask the house party opposite to keep the noise down (10pm)

[Milkshakebelly]

At what point is it reasonable (or unreasonable) to ask someone to keep the noise down?

House party opposite, 17 year old been left on her own and she's having a party. Music blaring and they are out in the garden swearing etc.

It's so loud I can hear it all over the tv. My two young DC's are in bed and keep waking up. I know the "rule" is 11pm but will I look like a cunt asking them to keep it down??

I can't believe I'm saying these words but you're being really precious. The world doesn't revolve around your children. Your Op was posted before 10pm ffs. People are perfectly entitled to have a party at 10pm. Kids are adaptable. My neighbours are quite fond of a summer party and my dcs learned to sleep through it.

There was an absolutely massive party near us the other night. Woke up at 3am and they were still going. I was lying there wondering why none of their neighbours had complained/ called the police and started noticing the music. All hilarious 80s/90s disco songs. I could hear the music but also the talking and laughing. Then I hear what's clearly someone on a loud speaker (couldn't hear the words), some crazy cheering and then "I Will Always Love You" comes on even louder. I was literally laughing my head off at the cheesiness and embarrassingly recalling my first snog.

Song ends. Music stops. Everything goes quiet. Clearly it was the finale.

Eventually I decided no one had complained because the entertainment value had just been too high. I had visions of it being someone's 50tb and everyone was letting lose for the first time in years .

I think leave them be for a bit longer.

You only closed the windows when it got smoky? Is that maybe why it was loud and kids woke up? In your circs, if it was a one off I'd close the windows and put in earplugs if you have them, otherwise earphones with some music or white noise playing and chalk it up.

Ah this reminds me of our student parties when I was a student nurse four student houses on a row and we always invited the other houses to our parties and vice versa non of us complained

Hope its not a tall figure , of a man, made of wicker being burned there next door OP

No the kids bedroom windows are always closed. They are still at it and my elderly neighbour has just been over and asked them to keep the noise down and was told to "Fuck off". Nice. They are all driving as well - let's hope they don't drive home

ChazsBrilliantAttitude

I didn't know the time was in the noise act.

I thought that it was a misrepresentation of rule 112

You MUST NOT use your horn
when driving in a built-up area between the hours of 11.30 pm and 7.00 am

Milkshake I thought you were my neighbour at the corner with the twins until the reference to school staring back this week (we are in a scotland).

11 pm just fine to complainit's when the noise curfews kick in www.gov.uk/guidance/noise-nuisances-how-councils-deal-with-complaints.

I completely feel your pain - the home alone 17 year old facing me has had a party tonight - spilling out in to the front garden, fighting and shouting the odds and has had ned after ned driving up and down the street tonight. There's been loads of her young, pished mates maurauding up and down the street screaming and shouting - when it eventually got out of hand (i.e. Stuff getting chucked at houses and 'deliveries' being made from cars coming and going in the street) we called the police - they arrived after everyone had gone - just hope it's scared her enough - as we could have another decade of her living at home!

If it's a one-off on a weekend night, get over it. People are allowed to have parties. You might even want to do it yourself one day.

Well just an update on what happened. The police were called by one of the neighbours at around 12.30. Considering they were all underage drinking and most of them driving I think they were in trouble.

So seems like I wasn't being unreasonable and so precious after all 😏

Also for the people saying it's a "one off get over it" - do you realise that you can have a perfectly good house party without causing great disruption to your neighbours? It's called CONSIDERATION. Maybe look it up in the dictionary if you do not understand what that means 😉

@milkshakebelly

Well just an update on what happened. The police were called by one of the neighbours at around 12.30. Considering they were all underage drinking and most of them driving I think they were in trouble.

So seems like I wasn't being unreasonable and so precious after all 😏

Also for the people saying it's a "one off get over it" - do you realise that you can have a perfectly good house party without causing great disruption to your neighbours? It's called CONSIDERATION. Maybe look it up in the dictionary if you do not understand what that means

WOW! Slow round of applause from the whole of mumsnet.

Well done you. You must have your chest puffed out so far, that it's totally bursting out of the window!

Your neighbours are incredibly lucky to have you as a neighbour

They weren't under age drinking - there IS no under age in a private house.

And unless they got into their cars, driving over wouldn't have been a problem either. (Id imagine they were staying over).

So no, I doubt the police did any more than say keep the noise down!

From your last post you sound even more delightful 🙄

Gonna go against the grain here and say it's absolutely fair to ask them to keep it down past 10pm, unless they've asked permission prior to the party and you've given it. It doesn't matter what time of day it is if it's loud enough to disturb neighbours. You could have young kids who need naps or be a shift worker or excessive anxiety that's stoked by extreme noise or any number of reasons not to want to be unable to relax and sleep in your own property. 10pm seems more than fair to me.

I used to have a neighbour across the hall in our tiny apartment block who'd have insanely loud lairy all male drunk parties every single weekend until the early hours. They'd spill out into the communal area and make comments if they saw me like trying to pressurise me to go and join in, it felt very unsafe and we grew to dread the weekend. To make matters worse our direct downstairs neighbour thought we were causing all of the noise and keeping their baby awake, and tried to break in one weekend to assault us as a result.

In the end I called the police every time it happened and if they wouldn't come for noise I'd say I heard an assault in the flat (which wasn't technically a lie as they were so loud and aggressive it often sounded like a fight). And moved asap. I have zero consideration or respect for noisy neighbours who think their right to party trumps everyone else's right to exist in peace.

I wouldn't complain about the noise at all if it's a one-off - certainly not at 10pm and probably not in the early hours of the morning, either. I certainly wouldn't call the police for a one-off noisy party, not just because of the noise.

However, if the behaviour of the kids at the party is massively antisocial/dangerous/abusive, then I might be inclined to call 101. Really depends on the situation; I think you have to be there to judge. The smoke would be a worry if there's bunch of paralytic teenagers in charge of a bonfire. We had some nightmare neighbours for a few years and their frequent parties used to involve guests having fights in the street, trespassing, climbing on other people's cars and setting off alarms, smashing empty bottles against other people's front doors etc.

i wonder what the answers would be if the people making the noise where 80 years old instead of the ' you were young once' which seems to mean they can do whatever they want.
I would also be pissed off and go over there at 12 to tell them to shut the f... up

I hate when people say "my DCs can't sleep" - if it's a one off get over it. If it was every night then you have every right to complain.
People think everyone's lives should revolve around their kids' sleep patterns
I'm looking forward to all the miserable gits moaning in November about fireworks... one woman I knew was kicking off about some being let off at 7.30pm

Also there's no such thing as "underage drinking" in a private residence JS

So seems like I wasn't being unreasonable and so precious after all

Well, yes you were, because you were fussing about it at around 10 o'clock, whereas at least your neighbours waited until gone midnight.

And unless the police actually caught any of them getting in their cars and driving, then they weren't in trouble for that. Parking outside someone's house isn't a crime, as far as I'm aware.

I don't see why a party has to ruin everyone else's night (and following day)
I think it's unreasonable that you should sit in a detached house with all your windows shut and still be unable to hear your TV or sleep. In my opinion that is infringement of your rights to enjoy your property and is unreasonable at any time.
As pp said, there is a middle ground.

Ickle preshuses need to learn they don't live on a desert island. Outside swearing in that terribly mature way deserves a bucket of water. They can turn the crappy doofy doofy doof shit down too.

But I see from the end of the thread that many of mn are bringing up similar little shits!

We need a dedicated city for all the selfish shits and their parents. They can deafen each other all night that way.