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Would it be rude of me to?

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Crackalackingg · 01/09/2017 15:13

I worked a nightshift last night, today is dd 4th birthday so had an hours sleep before she woke and have been up since, had lots of visitors and I'm knackered, I'd like to do tea and have a bath and get into bed.

Have told dp this, but he's saying how I should sit downstairs for when his parents arrive at 7pm, we see them often so it's not as if I barely see them. Surely they would understand and it shouldn't be a problem.

I'm just dying to crawl into bed, would it really be that rude of me?

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TittyGolightly · 01/09/2017 15:15

Go to bed.

Chuffingchuff · 01/09/2017 15:15

If you see them often and would understand like you say then no I don't think it would be rude. I'm sure they wouldn't mind considering you had to work all last night.

m4rdybum · 01/09/2017 15:15

YANBU.

I'm sure they won't take offense and if they do, tough tits to them.

Bluntness100 · 01/09/2017 15:16

Go to bed, have a couple of hours kip then get up and socialise briefly.

krustykittens · 01/09/2017 15:16

Go to bed or tell him you will go insane with sleep deprivation and take him with you!

InDubiousBattle · 01/09/2017 15:16

Of course not! They must understand that a person needs more than an hours sleep in 24+ hours! I think you've done well to last this long

ScarletForYa · 01/09/2017 15:17

No way is it rude! Your husband needs to have a think!

if he moans ask him if he likes to stay up all night tonight and make chat with visitors in the morning??

FNAF · 01/09/2017 15:17

Yanbu, get some sleep.

PinkHeart5911 · 01/09/2017 15:19

I think I'd say hello to them and then explain due to my nightshift I needed to go to bed.

Notreallyarsed · 01/09/2017 15:19

Having done nights for many years, YANBU. Ffs you've had an hours sleep, would he be sociable with anyone after an hours sleep?

dollydaydream114 · 01/09/2017 15:20

If you see them often and they know you work nights, it wouldn't be rude at all for you to go and get some sleep.

Liz38 · 01/09/2017 15:20

My in-laws would tell me to go to bed. They are people! I'm sure yours are too. And if they are so unreasonable as to judge you for being dead on your feet after a night shift, 1 hour's sleep and an over excited 4 year old for a day then they aren't worth listening to.

ChelleDawg2020 · 01/09/2017 15:21

Yes, I think it would be a little rude. Can't you just have a sleep, get up about 6:30, have a polite conversation with them for a few minutes, but explain you are not feeling too good. If they are reasonable people, they will have no problem with you returning to bed.

CaptainHammer · 01/09/2017 15:21

Not rude, you need sleep.

Nuttynoo · 01/09/2017 15:21

Just fall asleep on the sofa.

RonSwansonsMoustache · 01/09/2017 15:23

No, go to sleep! Fuck that - you've worked all night, slept for an hour and stayed up all day catering a 4yo's birthday - he should have invited his parents' earlier if he wanted you to see them.

Get some sleep.

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Crackalackingg · 01/09/2017 15:31

Nutty no chance of that with his mums laughBlushGrin. I'd love to just get into bed an have a nap now before they come but dp has an appointment now an then there's tea to sortHmm.

If it was my parents coming around dp would have no worries about going upstairs to have a bath/sleep/ or play on his PS4, my mum wouldn't care or notice either.

Once I've sorted tea I'll be going to bed, I said to him surely they won't mind I feel like shit, they will understand?! And he just said yeah alright. Even if he didn't say ok I think I'd still have to, I'm sat on the sofa struggling to keep my eyes open an aching, they are the type to probably think something Hmm they used to go on about not feeling welcome in the past god knows why she felt that way I don't know.

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BackforGood · 01/09/2017 15:31

YANBU. It comes with the territory of working night shifts, which they must grasp.
Different if this were an annual visit, but you say you see them regularly so go to bed now and catch some zzzzs.

happypoobum · 01/09/2017 15:32

YANBU

He probably just doesn't want to have to entertain them without you or something. Go to bed and forget about it Flowers

BitOutOfPractice · 01/09/2017 15:35

If oy've worked a night shift, you really need to get into bed for a few hours. You must be knackered.

As for tea, chippie tea, DH sorts it, or have a sandwich. Sorted

RolandDeschain · 01/09/2017 15:38

Any reasonable person would understand that after a night shift and being up all day you need some sleep - go to bed!

implantsandaDyson · 01/09/2017 15:38

No, it wouldn't be rude of you, night shifts are murder if you don't keep to some kind of sleep routine. My husband works shifts including nights and what you're suggesting comes with the territory. You must be dead on your feet Brew, is there a reason he can't do tea and bath?

BlurryFace · 01/09/2017 15:40

Not U at all, we often go to IL's house and find that DSFIL is napping after a late shift.

Hissy · 01/09/2017 15:40

Get your DP to take the DC and his parents OUT so that you can recover from the nightshift.

its utterly unreasonable to expect you to stay up, and it's inconsiderate to have people over today when you are so tired.

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Crackalackingg · 01/09/2017 15:40

Bitout that's exactly what I'm thinking Smile

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