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Don't like my new job!

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par05 · 31/08/2017 22:36

Hi all, so started a new job, 2months ago, and still hate it!! Have tried but just not getting it so to speak! Really bad day today, was just picked on literally by one of the employees! Therefore I kept making more mistakes, only good thing about this job is its walking distance from where I live, and weekends free! But feel as if I'm slowly losing myself! Have worked all of the holidays! Feel sorry for my kids as haven't been able to do much with them at all due to work!

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Original poster
par05 · 31/08/2017 22:38

Sorry my aibu is would Ibu if I was to start looking for another job now or should I stick to it a bit longer in the hope of it getting better!?

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Grilledaubergines · 31/08/2017 22:39

Losing yourself in return for a short commute is a sacrifice too great. Make the decision to look for something else and get your cv out there. Sometimes the job and the person just aren't the right fit. It happens. But if after 2 months it's making you unhappy, you've given it enough time and should move on.

LEMtheoriginal · 31/08/2017 22:42

Life is too short - don't do what I did and end up having a mental breakdown because I didn't listen to myself and walk away

DD0314 · 31/08/2017 22:42

Definitely time to job hunt. No job is worth being miserable for, no matter how close to home it is.

KC225 · 31/08/2017 22:49

I've usually known straight away if a new job is going to 'work'. 2 months is plenty of time to reach a decision. You need to start job hunting.

I do feel for you OP - it's not even the time you actually spend in a job you hate, it's the deflated drain of when you leave it to go home. And pit of growing dread in your stomach as you approach it the next day.

You will find something better. Good luck OP

SabineUndine · 31/08/2017 22:51

Find something else asap. I was you 25 years ago and I still regret not leaving within weeks.

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par05 · 31/08/2017 22:55

Thanks for replies! It's just that I was the perfect job or so I thought ! But just can't get to grips with it I started off really good wanting to please, and now I just feel like I don't want to work there anymore! There's one employee whose moods determine how the day will go, and since she been there so long she gets away with it! And if she take against you like today with me it's awful! It's like being back at school she's a bully who likes her own power! I feel if I say something it'll cause an atmosphere and I don't want to do that ...

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par05 · 31/08/2017 22:58

Your right it's the dread in my stomach in the mornings and its draining me , I feel deflated especially today I just wanted to burst in to tears!

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certainlynotsusan · 31/08/2017 22:59

The people can make or break a job.

I left a job I adored because of a couple of horrible colleagues. Took a promotion to a different part of the business to a job so hard it nearly made me very very ill, but the people just made it bearable/doable and were lovely and I'm still there.

Shankarankalina · 31/08/2017 23:01

Are you scheduled to have a job chat soon, or can you request one?

GreenTulips · 31/08/2017 23:04

I've walked in a similar situation (lucky DH didn't mind and a job landed in my lap)

Do what you need to do - CV can be cleared later

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par05 · 31/08/2017 23:04

No I don't think so, as it's a small run company and only 4 work there plus boss, who only seems to talk to this other woman who's been there for past 15yrs, she's seen a lot of people out tho!

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RB68 · 31/08/2017 23:11

Life is too short to stick it out - get out and find something better

Belindaboom · 31/08/2017 23:12

You never know what a job will be till you get there. Life's too short for a crap job, start looking. If it gets better you can stop looking.

grandOlejukeofYork · 31/08/2017 23:14

Look for a new job.

(and stop using !! when you need full stops instead)

Italiangreyhound · 31/08/2017 23:16

Get your CV out there. If between now and finding a new job you decide you like it, then stay.

Speak to your supervisor about an employee picking on you.

In many jobs there is a six month probationary period, so after six months you or they can decide not to keep company' (so to speak).

Good luck.

Belindaboom · 31/08/2017 23:19

Grand that's unhelpfful

grandOlejukeofYork · 31/08/2017 23:22

I don't think it is, I think it's excellent advice. These things matter when applying for jobs, and in general.

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par05 · 31/08/2017 23:23

Thank you all for replies, I will start looking for a new job, will grin and bear this one until I find a new one, just didn't want to seem ungrateful, felt like on paper it was the ideal job, and was happy when I got it and was telling everyone ..

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Timefortea99 · 31/08/2017 23:25

Concentrate all efforts on getting a new job.

LondonNicki · 31/08/2017 23:31

You're doing the right thing - good luck in your search. That job sounds like it will only bring you misery. I work in HR so I would just advise be prepared to justify why you left so soon (something like the hours didn't suit you) or leave it off your CV altogether if you leave soon enough. Never tell a prospective employer that you didn't like the people/the company as thats a red flag for interviewers.

user1471498016 · 31/08/2017 23:36

Yes look for another job!!!!!!!!!!!

GypsieQueen · 31/08/2017 23:37

I feel for you. I hate my new job too. Its also one hour's commute from where I live and it means I don't collect my two yr old daughter until 6pm each night. I'm looking for something else.

Arealhumanbeing · 01/09/2017 01:17

You should walk as soon as you can.

Don't mention the reason for leaving to prospective employers but do tell your current one.

Keep it factual and unemotional with an example or two. Maybe use the word toxic?

Goingslowlymad1 · 01/09/2017 01:24

I've been in a similar situation - and I would say leave quickly if you can- it's easier for something to drop off your cv than explain 8 months somewhere! Also for your wellbeing it's draining - I did it for 18 months it really affected me quite profoundly -