Don't like my new job!

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Hi all, so started a new job, 2months ago, and still hate it!! Have tried but just not getting it so to speak! Really bad day today, was just picked on literally by one of the employees! Therefore I kept making more mistakes, only good thing about this job is its walking distance from where I live, and weekends free! But feel as if I'm slowly losing myself! Have worked all of the holidays! Feel sorry for my kids as haven't been able to do much with them at all due to work!

Been up way to early, bad head and dreading going in to work, shouldn't feel like this, even more tired than yesterday, wish me luck, just got to keep thinking it's Friday!

Hope you find a new job soon. I've been in a similar situation and it us horrible. I was often sick with dread before going to work. I got out though and you will too

Oh it's so miserable when you dread work nearly the weekend - and look for another job!

Thank you, I've just never felt this way about a job before, so do know that it's not normally how I am, loved my last job from day 1, but the place closed down, so was happy when I got this job.

Just think of it as temporary money/security. In order to not get more anxious - Don't let the negativity affect your performance or professionalism. Smile sweetly at the other colleague and react matter of factly to any jibes from her - look a little perplexed or smile and say Oh I'm so sorry you feel that way. Make an effort to be personable and professional with anyone senior and any other colleagues, as well as her. Try not to think about the office until you step into it in the morning - if you find yourself thinking about at home, firmly tell yourself its home time.

don't keep thinking on the dread hun.noone deserves that.start looking elsewhere straight away.just because its giving you income desnt mean you should suffer for it.there is hard work hard jobs then there is emotionaly in doable hard ones.thats when they are bad.it shouldn't be hurting you emotionaly.itl inpact on all the rest of your life,kids,mood.
but don't feel like a failure either.swtich that thought round to "hey I gave it a good go,well done me"
instead of drained think "I'm really brave to stick this through until I get anew job."
when the people are being fools "ok so I wont let anyone make me feel small.im getting away from you so try your hardest I dare you!"
if you don't do your best know your trying.spend time with the kids if you can even if its just sitting with them.they need your time more than they need activities.thatl mean so much to just be in your presence all ok together.
any time you get make it enjoyable so you have a stock of happy thoughts to come to when you stressed.
when your not at work your not there hun.it isn't in your home it isn't anywhere as soon as you leave the building.when you shut the door you've left it leave all thoughts and worries too.see the clouds the shops the walk journey home as leaving it alone.
if you worry it will take over.if you constantly think of it it will stop you seeing the good bits in your life.
find somewhere new.and if that doesn't work.keep going.there is a job for you.and it takes guts to find it.not failure.bravery.

Thank you nearly cried reading that, I will follow your advice, will try and leave all thoughts of work at the door and enjoy with my kids, it's Saturday tomorrow and should make the most of it, here's hoping today goes quick!

If it's not salvageable at all, then start the job hunt this weekend. It might take you a little while to find something else.

Do you get a leaving interview when you go?

If so, make sure you tell them why exactly you are going.

Hey OP. Is it your lunch break now? Hope you're doing something nice for yourself. Quick walk outside or a posh sandwich somewhere?

Soon be home time. 💐

Hi all, so glad it's Friday :) was a long week, today wasn't as bad, head down and did my work, i tried my best to stay out of the way of the queen bee colleague, and tried not to make mistakes! Am definitely going to look for another job though, need more flexibility, tired all the time working full time and trying to do things with the kids and take them, to all their activities after work, house is a mess and just can't seem to get on top of it as there's always something else to do! My mum's not well worrying about that too, just arrrrrghhh sometimes. Sorry for the moan.

Have a lovely weekend OP

Thank you I will, you too :)

You never know until you start working somewhere. I used to go with an agency as a temp, before becoming permanent. Helps to not commit to something until you like it and they like you.

Here we go again :( had lovely weekend with the kids now filled with dread again.

Zombie thread!!!!

OMG I've only just noticed it's from 2017 [blushed]

absolutely find a new job! I did the same a year ago - and i knew i hated new job a month in - it was absolutely horrible- was miserable

Found something new within a few weeks, handed my notice in and was gone! I love the new job so much phew

I have left the short job off my cv and when i was interviewing for new jobs while in the horrible place - I said I was a temp which is why i was looking for a new job