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AIBU?

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Original poster

To not work an extra Saturday?

29 replies

PrincessyDoll · 31/08/2017 19:08

Okay so... I work 5 days a week 8.30-5 with one in 3 Saturdays 8-4. I worked last Saturday and have just received a message from a co worker saying he booked a city trip and forgot it was his turn and can I come in for 4 hours...

I want to say no. I am dying for a lie in and I've only just done last week. I DO NOT GET PAID ANY EXTRA for doing this. Plus it will be my turn again in a couple of weeks and I'm pretty sure I won't get let off for that. I've ignored the message so far. AIBU to say no? I know my name will probably be dirt but I just don't see how it's my problem. And I can't help feeling that if it was me who'd booked something when I was supposed to be at work I'd just get told tough titty! What do you reckon?

OP posts:
MoodyOne · 31/08/2017 19:09

Can you say you are sorry but you already have plans?

booellesmum · 31/08/2017 19:10

Reply saying you'll swap and he can do the next one you're scheduled to do?

mickeysminnie · 31/08/2017 19:12

As booellesmum says. Swoon outright with him or not at all.

RumAppleGinger · 31/08/2017 19:13

Nope.

"Sorry I have plans this weekend."

Colleague is a piss taker, he didn't forget. This is his problem not yours. Do not take his shift.

mickeysminnie · 31/08/2017 19:14

Swoon??? Swap!

Vonklump · 31/08/2017 19:15

Would you be able to hold your own and say you can't help if he can't/won't swap?
If so, offer a swap.

If not, "Sorry, I can't help."

Original poster
PrincessyDoll · 31/08/2017 19:16

It's probably worth noting that I am not a great fan of this person. Multiple times they have tried to get me into bother behind my back, running to managers etc. He's very sly. I would swap but I'm absolutely desperate for a morning where I don't have to get up at 6.00.. plus we've just had a bank holiday weekend.. he could have gone away then.. because he was off!! I on the other hand was at work Angry he is definitely taking the piss.

OP posts:
Vonklump · 31/08/2017 19:17

Sorted.
Sorry, I can't help.

ToadsforJustice · 31/08/2017 19:20

I wouldn't even say sorry. Text back - "No".

imokit · 31/08/2017 19:21

Sorry you have plans, or yes you can come in but he'll do yours on xxSaturday (ie a swap).

CherieBabySpliffUp · 31/08/2017 19:22

Another vote for "sorry, I have plans"

blackteasplease · 31/08/2017 19:22

Either offer a swap or say you have plans. Don't just say yes!

goodnessidontknow · 31/08/2017 19:23

I agree, "sorry I have plans I can't change, hope you get it sorted"
You have no obligation to cover. If it was for someone who is willing to help you out when needed then you might choose to but why put yourself out for someone who won't appreciate it and wouldn't do the same for you?

87patshad · 31/08/2017 19:24

Just say no I can't, I have plans this weekend. Hmm I

Glumglowworm · 31/08/2017 19:25

If it was someone who would do the same for you, it'd be nice to swap

Otherwise just say no you have plans

It's his problem, don't let him make it yours

Allthebestnamesareused · 31/08/2017 19:27

In that case (your last update) just say "Sorry unable to help you out as I have plans that can't be rearranged">

MagicMoneyTree · 31/08/2017 19:27

I wouldn't apologise either. How about "Already have plans this weekend. No can do." That's if you can be arsed replying

Merida83 · 31/08/2017 19:33

I'm afraid I can't help!
End of.
No sorry, no reason needed just a I can't!

Brittbugs80 · 31/08/2017 19:34

I wouldn't offer to swap, he sounds like he's the sort to say, "yeah great let's swap" and then say he can't do your shift when it comes to it.

If you would won't get paid for those 4 hours, I wouldn't bother.

WishingCarrot · 31/08/2017 19:38

Magic's response is a good one. No apology, direct but not unfriendly

verystressedmum · 31/08/2017 19:38

So he still gets paid for not doing less hours but you don't get paid for doing more hours?

verystressedmum · 31/08/2017 19:40

Sorry, he gets paid the same for doing less hours and you get paid the same for doing more hours?

Ttbb · 31/08/2017 19:46

You're not getting paid so no. If you feel like doing him a favour you can get in touch with your supervisor and explain the situation asking whether it's ok for you to swap so that you do this shift and te does your next shift (so that your coworker then has to pick up your next shift).

Allgirlskidsanddogs · 31/08/2017 19:51

After the original post I was going to suggest swapping Saturdays. Then, after your update, "No, I alrewsdy have plans." Don't apologise!

HunterHearstHelmsley · 31/08/2017 19:53

Just say no!

If you swap he'll deny all knowledge and you'll be stuck doing both.