Hi All
I've just had a fall out with my sister in law. I'm currently 4 months pregnant with an 8 month baby, my husband and I are doing it all alone, we have no family support so its just the two of us with our DS the majority of the time. As you can imagine, we are both beyond exhausted.
My brother in law and sister in law were round at the weekend and the topic strayed onto baby names. My sister in law mentioned she liked the name Arya, to which my DH said oh we liked that two, it was one of our favourites. (Whist we did like it, it wasn't our front runner as we always keep that secret until the baby is here).
My sister in law got really upset and said to me, we've talked about this quite a few times, how can you not remember. I seriously have no recollection. Apparently we were in Nando's which I know has to have been at least before my DS was born.
The next day I text her apologising saying I hope we didn't upset her. I got a really awful text back saying how I made her feel like shit and she can't believe I couldn't jog my memory and there is no mutual respect between the two of us. I was so shocked and upset because I genuinely now still cannot remember this conversation. I apologised again saying I didn't do this on purpose, I forgot and still can't remember and I'm upset she would straight away go to such a bad place with this, she should know I'm not a horrible person and wouldn't deliberately make her feel bad. I said I've been exhausted for 18 months and being pregnant with umber 2 has made my memory bad. Again I got an upsetting response back saying we won't see this the same way, she doesn't know what its like to be pregnant but I don't know what its like to undergo IVF (they are currently on their second attempt)
She has been short with me before and I've not told her I was upset because I was trying to be sensitive to the fact they are trying via IVF. So when she does have a go at me I try not to say anything being mindful of what they must be going through.
Moreover a few weeks ago when we were all reminiscing about the birth and we started talking about my c section being awful she said she had no idea I had a c section. And I KNOW we've talked about that on more than on occasion, its on our group text message for a start. I don't want to be catty and retaliate with "well you didn't remember my c section and I didn't make a big deal so why are you making me feel so bad for forgetting a conversation months ago about a name"
Anyway, I know I am exhausted and hormonal so I just want to ask, AIBU for forgetting? AIBU for being upset at how strongly she has reacted? Please go easy on me, I didn't do this deliberately to upset her, I genuinely cannot remember this conversation....