SIL/IN LAWS - Entitlement

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More of a WWYD really.

My DD's first day at a new school today. I took the obligatory picture of her ready to go and shared it with my MIL and SIL. Over here children wear their own clothes to school and it was early and quite nippy.

SIL messaged me back saying awwww, nice. My DH just came home and told me his sister messaged him to complain how my DD was dressed.

I am upset. Angry. Tired of their continual involvement. Another nice day tinged with hassle.

So, if you were in my position, what would you do?

What did your DH reply? Surely he pulled her up on her rudeness?

Depends on your dh. Will he back you up? He should be telling her where to go. I would probably text her saying you were trying to be nice and include them but won't bother in future.

What was her complaint?

Stopping sending photos would be first. Then I would just stop engaging. If possible, challenge them on it, face to face rather than texts. "SIL, DH said you mentioned something about how DD was dressed". She will have to answer you. And tell your DH to tell them to knock the twattery on the head asap.

And couldn't your husband keep this between him and his sister? Why does he want to stir up trouble.

In your position I'd block my in laws from social media, and tell my dh not to pass on any messages and thank God I didn't actually have to see them

What did your dh respond with ?

She had a pair of tights on and cotton dress on at 8am in the morning. Early and cold. She was there for two hours before I collected her. She had a change of clothes too. But again, that's my concern.

My DH replied to his sister 'don't you worry'. His sister replied complaining again and he again said 'don't you worry'.

DH told me he thinks his sister is out of line but saying 'don't you worry' when you really mean it as 'none of your business'.

@Pengggwn she had nothing to complain about and no place to do so, I feel anyway

God they are so depressing to deal with.

ridiculous reply from your husband. no wonder she repeated it.

Stop sending them pictures that's the only way to try stop their comments

....so stop dealing with them OP! it really is that simple. you don't have to have them in your lives. if there involvement continually pisses you off or stresses you out, tell them. tell them to stop once and if it carries on give a final warning. and if it carries on, that's it.

people behave this badly, they cause arguments between partners, they make people miserable because they can. because you keep letting them do it, you are enabling them.

so just stop. write back to SIL - politely this is my child, it was cold. tell her that what should have been an exciting and happy day has been made less so by her comments and ask her not to do it again. when she does, tell her the consequences and just do it.

adults don't have to put up with this crap from other adults.

She said DD was dressed too warmly.

Tell them to mind their own fucking business.

Honestly I have the same issues . Nothing I do is ever right or good enough and they always slag me off behind my back . I am no contact now (huge huge story and very good reasons why Iv cut contact with them) . The advice I will give you that I wished I'd heard before going nc was to stop all texts and limit personal information I share with them . Only tell them what you want them to know and never discuss you or your dp relationship , finances and personal issues . Least they know the less they have to complain about

I would text her and ask what the problem was and why if it was so relevant, she couldn't have directed it at you, the person who dressed her - interfering cow

Don't even bother saying anything. Just don't send her any more pictures. She's just a troublemaker. I agree stop dealing with them. If your DH complains say when they learn to behave then I'll engage and not until.

You don't need them to approve of how you dress your child. It sounds like she's oblivious to hints so your child's father needs to tell her that she probably has her own affairs to attend to, if she can spare the time from this nonsense.

In the meantime, no more photos from you until she apologises. She can go through her brother for further contact.

ridiculous reply from your husband. no wonder she repeated it.

No it wasn't, he was politely telling her to fuck off.

Next school day swimsuit pic it is then. . .
Then block and let your dh deal with them.