to still be Mrs. as a widow?

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I've just rung to candle a surveyor about solar panels.

I said I was unwell.

Firstly he said I didn't sound unwell.......dick

And then he said can't your husband deal with the app.?

I said no hes dead...I don't beat about thw bush and hed already annoyed me.

And he said 'oh well we have you down here as Mrs. Shall I change that for you?'

I said no thanks and rung off.

Yadnbu

He sounds like a rude prick

The correct response to "my husbands dead" is "I'm sorry" or similar. not to be even ruder than you were before

Love it!

No Ostentatious, it isn't. He was just being a dick.

What a tool.

I'd complain and take your business elsewhere. Make it clear to his boss that his insensitive twattery is the reason.

Get well soon.

Lol - Supreme Commander, I bow to you!

I'd also complain that he asked if your husband could deal with it in the first place none of his bloody business!

Supreme Commander . Nice one.

You are still Mrs and he is an evil man.

Every widow I know is still Mrs. Don't know any who is Miss. He's crackers.

If you want to be Mrs then there is no reason why you can't be. He's a prize dick.

What on earth was he going to 'Change' you too ?? I'm actually quite curious...

yes he's twonk x

Lucky escape there OP, what a cheeky so and so. Of course you are still a Mrs.

He is a prize dick. I would be letting his boss know exactly why I wasn't going to use them now.

He;s a dick and a misogynistic dick. Who on earth, when they are trying to sell you something says; 'You don't sound sick' and 'You can't be known whatever way you wish to be'.

I'm liking Supreme Commander. (Although once I was filling in forms for a US-based thingie and it had 'Princess' as an option. I put that just for laughs. ).

I'm quite shocked that anyone would think that the death of a husband means that you can no longer be called Mrs.

HMFIC
head motherfucker in charge

He seems to have dreadful people skills! Of course it stays Mrs after death. Some people are just a bit thick.

That Duke who died yesterday - his son is the middle of but not yet divorced. His soon to be ex wife still gets the title.

That's really awful and it could cause terrible upset to some people. My MIL lost her DH (my FIL) in a car accident a few months after my DH and I married and that sort of thing would have been a real source of upset to her.

What a prat!

What an absolute insensitive arsehole. I am not one for complaining about staff (they have a hard enough job dealing with customers), but for that, I would have logged a complaint.

ONCE married - even if you get divorced, you are entitled to permanently use the title Mrs.

My grandma has been Mrs J- 23 years after being widowed, woe betide anyone who dares challenge her on it
Interestingly, my DDad is recently widowed, what should he be addressed as according to nob-ed solar panel man?

YANBU. He sounds like a knob.

And, as far as I'm aware, you're a Mrs. even after your husband passes away and remain so, unless you choose to remarry or drop the name for whatever reason.

Also, interestingly, if your husband happened to have a title, you would still be "Lady XX" after his death or if you divorced, until such time you remarried or passed away. Lady Colin Campbell for example, gets to keep that title even though she divorced her husband.

He's a prick.

This will out me but this is my work mug - my boss knows who is really in charge!

Sounds like a total dickhead. Firstly to assume that a man has to deal with these things and secondly to be so insensitive as to suggest changing your name from Mrs!
I recently dealt with a lady in work whose letters from us were always incorrectly addressed as Miss but she said her husband had died recently and she found it a bit upsetting. So I did what any non-arsehole would do: I apologised for our error, said I was sorry for her loss, and updated her records to Mrs then and there.

I hope they call back to rearrange and I hope you tell them exactly why they won't be getting your custom.

He sounds as if he was deliberately being an arsehole. That would really piss me off.