Please or to access all these features

Add post

Watch this thread

Save thread

Start a new thread

Flip thread

Hide thread

My feed

Active Unanswered threads

Getting started FAQ's

Unanswered threads Acronyms Talk guidelines

Hide shortcut buttons

Talk

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Flip

1 2 3 4

Original poster

Cafe ran out of food ..friend got her food and left me with nothing ..Aibu to be angry?

79 replies

Louisajohnson237 · 28/08/2017 12:36

Met a friend in city centre (we live in big city so lots of food places to choose) it was a warm day so I suggested a cafe that does nice sandwiches/jacket potatoes.
It was a busy Saturday plus football match on so was busy.
We got in and friend stood in front of me in the quee ..I said "looks like only one jacket potato left"
Friend says "yep il be having that"
Then the girl serving says "that's the last of our food left,only scones left"
I said to friend "shall we go somewhere else?"
Friend says "no I can't be bothered now we are here...il take the jacket potato please"
I look at her and say "what shall I eat then a scone for my lunch? "
(Don't even like scones)
She says "yeah why not and smirks"
We sit down and I'm pretty pissed off ..I say "what was the point in that? We are surrounded by other places to eat"
She then says "oh Louisa stop making a fuss over eating"
Then scoffs down her jacket potato as I sip my bottle of water.

OP posts:

Rhubarbginisnotasin · 28/08/2017 13:22

Op, never be friends with someone so mean in spirit.

diddl · 28/08/2017 13:42

"Friend says "yep il be having that""

That was the point at which to leave.

She should have offered to share or that you both go elsewhere.

chickenowner · 28/08/2017 13:46

I would have gone home, regardless of having tickets for something after lunch.

What a nasty, self obsessed bitch!

KirstyLaura · 28/08/2017 13:57

What a greedy cowbag. You should have laughed in her face and said see you later then - at ticket place.

FeelingAggrieved · 28/08/2017 14:04

Shit friend. Ditch.

HunterofStars · 28/08/2017 14:05

What a greedy cow. I would have left and ended the friendship. I would never treat a friend like that. I would have offered to share or gone elsewhere.

ErrolTheDragon · 28/08/2017 14:14

The incident is of course the fault of the 'friend' but I guess with some people you should never use a polite rhetorical question such as "shall we go somewhere else?", but always the assertive eg,'oh, we'll have to find somewhere else' and walk out immediately.

GwenStaceyRocks · 28/08/2017 14:16

I don't understand all these thread about awful 'friends'. If someone is a genuine friend and acts out of character then I'd be wondering why. If someone is always selfish and mean then they aren't a friend.
I don't know anyone with 'friendships' like this in RL.
Yet MN seems to be full of threads about 'bad friends' atm.

Aquamarine1029 · 28/08/2017 14:20

I certainly hope you are wise enough to never socialize with this "friend" ever again.

Sparklesocks · 28/08/2017 14:23

She sounds quite selfish OP. Maybe you should scale back the time you spend with her, and invest more in people who treat you with more respect.

gillybeanz · 28/08/2017 14:26

I also think people are too quick to call someone a friend.
I have few friends, very few in deed.
None of them would do anything like this and would have suggested somewhere else immediately.
Why do people accept such behaviour? Is it because they are so hard up for friends.
I'd rather be on my own.

witchofzog · 28/08/2017 14:30

She is a selfish bitch . "Stop making such a fuss about eating" while she stuffs her face. Fucking hell. She is a proper arsehole.

Show her this thread OP I dare you. She behaves like this probably because she is allowed to get away with it. If she reads all these comments, maybe she wont be so send centred in future

Sugarformyhoney · 28/08/2017 14:38

Reminds me of being newly pregnant and in the 'have to eat now' phase. A friend and I went to a pasty place- she got her pasty then refused to wait for the next batch to come out of the oven for me (approx 5 mins) in case her husband got annoyed waiting for her at home.
We weren't friends after this.

Squarerouteofsquirrel · 28/08/2017 14:39

She's treating you like that because you are allowing her to. You need to assert your needs, and if she still behaves like that then bin her off.

Thought I was perhaps too soft at times with friends, but Christ i could not be friends with someone that. I think I would be Internally crying if a 'friend' sat eating the last jacket potato in a cafe, whilst I sipped a bottle of bloody water. But I know one things for certain, it would be the end of a friendship if they did.

No company is really is better than 'any' company, be more picky over your friends.

Buxtonstill · 28/08/2017 14:41

I'd let the friendship Peter out . If she acts like that in front of you, what does she say/do behind your back? Life is too short to waste time with toxic people.

Jaxhog · 28/08/2017 14:42

Wow! She isn't much of a friend then us she. She didn't even offer to share?
I would have left her there, on her own. As she deserved.

Aeroflotgirl · 28/08/2017 14:43

More fool to you, I would have walked off and said, I am popping to pret and getting something then, see you. What a rude friend.

Willow2017 · 28/08/2017 14:44

Christ, reading some of the threads on here lately about so called friends I am glad I dont have any in real life who live close enough to dump their shit on me!

Happytobefree17 · 28/08/2017 15:03

If she is your friend, how do you let your enemies treat you?

Blodplod · 28/08/2017 15:07

I'm amazed at the amount of so called 'friends' and their twattish behaviour that people seem to be posting about recently.. if someone did that to me, especially with the patronising "it's only food Louisa' comment. I would have walked out of the cafe and gone home, regardless of any tickets to something else etc.. I wouldn't want to waste any of my time with someone so spectacularly selfish and rude. It's as much about self respect for yourself as it is being 'wet'. I'd rather have no friends in the world than bad friends who obviously don't value me.

Gemini69 · 28/08/2017 15:11

what a very ignorant thing to do OP... very ignorant... I'm appalled at her behaviour

Maelstrop · 28/08/2017 15:56

Unbelievable. I can't think of my of my mates who would tell me to stop making a fuss, in fact, they'd offer me the potato and take a scone. She was horrible.

FluffyPineapple · 28/08/2017 16:06

What is it with these MN posts about flaky friends recently?

You joined a friend at a cafe. There was one jacket spud left. She took it with no thought about the fact you wouldn't have lunch.

What's there to wonder about OP? 🤔

Decaffstilltastesweird · 28/08/2017 16:11

She sounds dreadful. Agree with pps. What is there to wonder about?

manicinsomniac · 28/08/2017 16:16

Wow - I'd be almost too bemused by that level of selfishness and rudeness to be angry. Is it out of character for her? If not - why are you friends with her?? It's not even really about lunch. I would happily go without lunch (in fact eating out is a major stress for me and I'd see it as a bonus if the food had run out) but I would be still be devastated at the lack of care and thought from someone I saw as a friend.

How was the rest of the afternoon? Did she just act normally? Or was she apologetic?

Flip

1 2 3 4