To not want to reserve baby names?!?

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This is weird I know.... but in a nutshell my sister and I have never gotten on. We didn't speak for a long time after I gave birth to my daughter because when I told my sister her name she went batshit.. the day after I gave birth, which wasn't straight forward by any means.
The reason for this was apparently I 'stole' her baby name. She wasn't ttc at the time, we didn't EVER discuss names because I strictly told everyone I wasn't talking about it. I wanted zero opinions on names.
You would have thought after a late miscarriage previously and difficulty ttc she would have just been happy for me!
Fast forward to now, she's ttc and she knows I would like another one anytime in the near future. She wants to reserve baby names so that I don't 'steal' anymore but I think this is batshit and I'm not going to be told I can't have any baby names from a list as long as my bloody arm?!?
AIBU to tell her that this won't be happening?
Thanks in advance!

She's not batshit, she's feeling hurt & envious as you've got what she hasn't (so far) it might not be nice to hear from her but cut her some slack!

Don't do it!

Me and my sister get on fantastically, but she reserved a name I wanted for dc1, despite her not being pregnant at the time. I let her have it...

...Then she didn't bloody use it

Oh fgs just tell her to name her kid the same thing if she wants to! I have relatives who did this! Really hasn't caused any harm

I don't get why they can't have the same name. Plus what happens if sister never has kids (my sister hasn't)
It seems a tremendous fuss over something fairly trivial, especially if she hasn't event just got 1 favourite name but a long list.
1 name I could understand, although even then if either of my sibs had told me when I was pregnant I wasn't to use this and that name as it was "theirs" if/ when they had kids I'd have thought they were very unreasonable.
It's all the wrong way round. First have the baby.

I agree with this ^

If I were her, I wouldn't want to give you the list of names in case you hear one you've not considered before and fall in love with.

Your sister is a bit daft probably due to jealolusy.

Reminds me of an episode of Say Yes To The Dress (bridal shop in NY). Two sisters, one getting married. The other sister announces she has picked out a wedding dress and told her sister she was not allowed to try it on or she would no longer be her MoH, wouldn't attend wedding etc. The thing was that she wasn't planning a wedding, she wasn't even engaged, in fact she didn't even have a boy friend!

I wouldn't pander to your DS.

Pffft let them have the same name. I know first cousins with the same name. They have the same surname too, and with only 10 months between them they were in the same year at the same school. They even look pretty similar. They both chose slightly different shortened versions of the name and no-one ever batted an eyelid. Really!

Tell her where to shove her list.
I think you always get nervous when people are pregnant that they are going to use the name you picked.
Bizzarly my daughter went to primary school with someone who has the same name AND the same birthday. It doesn't matter really.
Plus tell me one parent that doesn't stutter through their other dc/pets/random names until they come to the child they are actually trying to speak too

I agree wholeheartedly that no one reserves names, two cousins can be called the same thing, and that both OP and her DSis are being faintly ludicrous (sorry OP) but that perhaps DSis with her list is being ludicrouser

Just be thankful and celebrate all the babies. And SheSaid sort of has it right - DSis might come up with a wonderful name that can be STOLEN .

As any teacher knows, names go in some sort of mystical generation - - there were hundreds of Sophies and Lauras years ago in one local class (just slight exaggeration) and James and Harrys - but now we have Roses, Poppies, Freds and Berts. Anyone for Ethelred?

Your sister is quite the piece of work. Don't give in to her fucking ridiculous demands. What a nutjob.

Your kid, your naming choice. The same goes for her. Nothing wrong with cousins have the same, or similar, names. It's not "stealing a name"; it's both having similar likes and preferences which is really not that surprising given that you both share genetics.

You are both being unreasonable to get this hung up on baby names when the world isn't going to fall apart if you both use the same, or similar, names.

YANBU. No one will tell me what I can and can't name my children.

My sister and I both like the same girls name. Whoever has a girl first will get to use it. The other one will just have to love their nieces name! It's not a big deal.

To clarify I definitely didn't ever hear her mention the name of my DD, DH and I discussed the name when we were on holiday years ago as it was the waitress's name and we loved it. Also to clarify I'm not getting hung up on anything! I don't care if her children have the same name as mine- her baby, her choice. She has a huge issue with any future children having the same name-God knows why we barely see them!
Thanks for all the opinions, I'm just going to stick to my guns and not even entertain it.
I would be a lot more sympathetic if she wasn't so aggressive when she found out. She screamed down the phone at me and said she didn't care to meet her. At that moment in time I'd just had a major haemorrhage and come out of surgery. I will never forgive her for being such a bitch and trying to dampen my mood hours after having her!

Sarah Ferguson stole my babies' names.

Bizarre. Like little girls naming dollies - not grown women naming small human beings.

Well, I'd let her choose one girl's name and one boy's name, unless there's a relative's name or something one or the other of you wants to choose.

Alanna - never reason with crazy.

She's being ridiculous. You can't 'steal' babies names, they're open to everyone, unless, of course she's planning to call her child some stupid made up name in which case you probably wouldn't want it anyway. Does she think she's never going to meet another child with the same name as her child.

In my class at school, out of about 24 girls (girls' school) there were 5 other girls with the same name as me.

Nothing wrong with cousins having the same name either.

I also have no idea why cousins can't have the same name. It's not like they're sisters. I know a few family with about 6 Williams of various ages. Nobody seems to mind.

Anyway, yanbu. She is being ridiculous imo.

*i know a family with...

When I had my twins, I named one after a girl I went to school with years ago, it was a name I loved for years and it was similar to my mil's name, who died some years ago. No problem there.
We had about a million thoughts re twin 2, couldn't decide but I wasn't letting dh ring the family until we'd picked a name. I was recovering from a section under a general anaesthetic, he said what about name and I didn't care by then ( addled with drugs and pain!), said yep that'll do so she's been known as " *** that'll do" for years!
She thinks it's great.

Let her send you her list and reply 'Thanks for the suggestions!'