I know there have been a few threads like this. My DM just can't stop herself from making 'suggestions', which I supposedly don't have to do (why would I think I did have to??)), but she just goes on and on about it. She also can't believe it when we don't follow her advice.
We've just come back from a lovely holiday and my DM cat sat for us, she is very kind which makes me feel awful for my rant, then she said we should stay two nights with my DH's family for more of a break. I said we couldn't as it was too short notice and we were going home as planned but she still assumed it would happen because she had suggested it. (Never mind whether it was convenient for anyone else!!)
She then left an important bag behind because she only twigged late on that she wouldn't be staying away a couple more nights as she suggested so it was a bit of a rush. We had to arrange to meet her to hand it over (quite funny in a way).
She still refers to us as her 'children', I'm 48 and my DH is 52, and we're both worn down by her. I feel awful because my DDs love her and she really does mean well, but I'm seriously pissed off, I just want her to back off!!
So it will be a cattery next time anyway!!