Taking my baby to a wedding....

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Posting in AIBU for traffic! Need advice on how to manage the day....

DH, myself and 9 month old baby have been summoned to a short-notice family wedding.

I wish the baby wasn't invited but the bride and groom like the baby more than they like me and are insistent that all kids must be there and dressed in fecking peach (for the photos - stick needles in my eyes now).

Here's the details:
The wedding is a casual small beach wedding (I'm in Australia). It's a bit of a hike to get there.

On Friday morning we will be driving 5 hours to the nearest airport, getting a lunchtime flight (2 hours) then jumping in a hire car to drive 4 hours to the town where the wedding is located. Spend night in a hotel.
Saturday morning the wedding "starts"? at 9.30am on the beach for photos. Ceremony at 11am. Lunch at oceanside restaurant at 1.30pm. End at 3.30pm. Escape at 3.31pm and repeat travel details in reverse.
How the hell do I keep my 9 month old from melting down by lunchtime? How do I get a nap squeezed in? Will have a small pram but obviously can't take it on the beach.

The family members getting married are a nightmare and will be deeply offended if and when I try to sneak baby off to nap (these are people who think I am selfish for breastfeeding because it's hogging the baby). Augh I don't even think any of you can give me any advice I just don't know how to handle the day.

Baby has a temp and doctor says no travel as might be infectious so not allowed on a plane or mingling with guests.

Relax

You do whats right for your baby. which means one of the following:

• Not going (baby isn't well enough to fly)
• BF when you need to (regardless of what other people think)
• Taking a nap when baby needs to

Personally? I would choose option 1.

Don't go, that sounds like the journey from hell. Poor baby being stuffed in a car seat all day then a flight, short haul so likely to be worse on her ears?

If you are in NSW, Influenza A is doing the rounds as well...

Don't go - baby has ear infection and can't fly.

BUT..

DH go and wear the peach shell suit mentioned upthread!!!! If you're going to be cut off, may as well do it in style!

"oh dear, we have all come down with noro virus and are shitting and puking like there's no tomorrow, soz

''Tis a shame cause all that bf to keep baby quiet and trying to get off to sleep would have nicely been picked all over special outfits when they jigged and hogged the baby

I'm curious where the wedding is being held with all of this driving. Is it because the bride and groom live in Quilpie (or some other out of the way location), or just where they are trying to hold their ceremony?

If they're that insistent the baby goes to the wedding they should be having it somewhere more accessible.

That is a lot of travel for 4 hours.

I wouldn't bother, can your husband not go and say you're staying back with baby?

Gastro is going around... it's in all the papers. It's a fabulous reason to skip the peach frock!

Fuck that! Def stay home, thats a ridiculous amount of travel

I'd stay home. However if you're going a baby carrier could help the nap issue no needing to fight her in to the car seat yet again. She can bf, cuddle, and nap all in one and no fighting a pram oversand.

I would literally look forward to the next spell of cutting off if i were you OP

Saves you going NC. Honestly - it's not a good relationship where you actually cannot tell the truth about something as basic and mundane as not wanting to drag a young child across a continent. Their loss in the longest run.

So if you decline you'll get 5+ years of peace?

And you're considering going because?.