To feel a bit frustrated by holiday mate?

[doricgirl]

On holiday with a family we are friends with - initially met through both wives working together and since both had kids - theirs now preschool, ours just toddling.

I know preschool is a tough age too and am totally prepared to be told IABU but finding it hard that dad if preschooler is so focused on him that there is no thought for anyone else. My husband had to leave separately to us to come home as he's going via a conference so am currently standing on train to airport with baby asleep on my back having lugged all our luggage here myself. Focused dad has a seat, and when one came free gave it to the preschooler...my friend who can't really carry things due to disability has offered to help loads but focussed dad not once though he has a walking kid and one bag...

Kind of compounded by earlier in the trip he asked is to give him the group train ticket so they could go ahead and definitely get the train as he didn't want to be on there without a ticket... me, husband and baby were in a supermarket queue and would have had to buy a new ticket...

So although overall I've had a lovely time AIBU?

I'd leave it go now and not wreck your friendship by bringing it up again. She has apologised, has a young child, sulky PA Husband and ongoing health problems. Her DH was being a dick but no one can undo his behaviour. She has a lot going on and she may feel under pressure if you keep pushing about her DH. You learnt from this holiday, you won't make the same mistake again by holidaying with them again. You'd be best letting it go or you'll risk losing your friendship and tainting the good memories of your holiday.

It's very difficult sharing holidays with other families and some people aren't well suited to it at all.

He does sound like a bit of an arse but to be fair to him perhaps he was looking forward to spending lots of time with his DC and didn't expect it to be diluted. Also re the bus/taxi thing - their bus journey would be longer and more uncomfortable than your taxi ride so I can see the logic of him heading off rather than feel the need to wait especially as having a non working mobile phone in this day and age could be construed as being a bit flakey.

I wouldn't read too much into it but I wouldn't go on holiday with them again.

Thanks fivestar and rookie - you're both right and I value my friendship more than my pride! I would have been catching the same bus but they did me a favour as I just thought fuck it and got a taxi instead which as you said faster and more comfy!

Yes best not to repeat the experience or mention it doricgirl.

We go on holiday with my SIL and their family.

Personally I find that I'd struggle to be married to my BIL as I find him rather selfish ( sat playing on his computer every morning whilst DH or I cleaned the kitchen and emptied the dishwasher is a small example or the time he was staying at ours when he whipped up a batch of pancakes for himself and didn't offer to make them for anyone else) but SIL is lovely and seems happy enough, so I feel it's not my place to comment.