To think this is bad parenting?

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Jjgg456 · 26/08/2017 23:09

As well as my own 2yo DD I also have a 6yo SS who stays with us 2/3 nights alternating weeks. His mum is single. She likes to call SS when he is staying with us to wish him goodnight and a recurring question she often asks him is "Do you love me?"

It creeps me out every time I hear her say it. I can never imagine asking my child such a question. AIBU to deem this emotionally damaging?

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Italiangreyhound · 27/08/2017 02:20

OP has already said "... the phone convos happen on speaker phone..."

Pengggwn · 27/08/2017 06:05

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SpareASquare · 27/08/2017 06:48

I see more of an issue with the fact that these phone calls take place on speakerphone. Why?

PennyTentiary · 27/08/2017 08:22

I'd be more concerned about having the conversation on speaker when it should be private and is nothing to do with you. Sounds like you just want to be the "best mum ever" and make her out to be emotionally abusing her kid. All kinds of wrong. Consider why you feel the need to be like this.

MoonfaceAndSilky · 27/08/2017 11:34

Yes it's a bit weird the calls with his mum are on speakerphone. Maybe that is why he feels awkward saying he loves her, with you listening in, and why she has to prompt him?

PovertyPain · 27/08/2017 11:39

I think you're doing the child more harm, by not giving him any privacy. The child is going to start worrying about saying the 'right thing' with you looking over his shoulder. I don't think the mum is the one with issues, TBH.

MsGameandWatching · 27/08/2017 12:57

Sometimes he anticipates the question and he says it as a way to get through the phone conversation quickly.

How do you know that? Has he told you that?

MsGameandWatching · 27/08/2017 13:00

I agree. He sounds embarrassed and awkward and probably his mother senses he's not being himself so asks him. Stop listening to his calls. Why on earth would you? As an adult I would feel s of conscious, even worse for a child. And stop putting your interpretation on his conversation.

MsGameandWatching · 27/08/2017 13:04

Sorry missed your last message

Maryhadalittlelamb12 · 27/08/2017 13:05

Oh ffs. I often ask my daughter how much she loves me. It's a little game we play. Sometimes she'll say 'as much as cheese' or ' to the ends of the universe and back'. Or ' more than I love tortoises'

Stop interfering and allowing the poor woman some freedom to be the mother she chooses to be.

It's none of your damn business.

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