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Ex dp trying to sabotage my diet

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Millieja · 26/08/2017 18:30

I don't know if low blood sugar is making me unreasonable here so thought I'd ask - I've got about 4 stone to lose, so a lot, and I'm very unhappy with myself at this weight. I'm trying hard to lose it by reducing carbs and calories in general which is difficult as I love food and haven't got the best willpower. I've lost about half a stone in six weeks.

Ex DP stays at my place about once a week to see one year old dd and spends the night in her room so he can do the getting up (she still gets up about two-three times a night) and while it's not what I would ideally choose, for him to be in my space, it's nice for dd. He and I get on ok, we do fall out about stuff but manage to work through it.

However, on the nights he stays over he invariably brings loads of carby snacks. He knows I'm dieting but he does it anyway. It's always loads more than he can eat on his own and it's virtually impossible for me to resist when I'm carb-starved and it's right there in front of me. I've asked him not to bring it but he does it anyway. Last time he 'joked' that he was deliberately trying to sabotage my diet so that I wouldn't get a boyfriend (we split 3 months ago, my decision, he's quite open about wanting a relationship with me still) so AIBU to think he's doing this on purpose and it's actually not kind and not funny (he laughs when I bring it up). Or am I just weak-willed and over sensitive? Tonight he's brought a big bag of hot cross buns, a packet of croissants and a massive pizza!!

OP posts:
LisaMed1 · 26/08/2017 22:43

Somerford in real life people can bring cake to be kind, to be helpful, to be polite, to make a point or to be manipulative.

It's not about the cake.

ForagingForFaerieGold · 26/08/2017 23:25

Absolutely go out. In fact invite him round 2 or even 3 nights a week. All that free babysitting. It's a valuable resource. Grin
After all, he's your ex. You don't have him there to see YOU.

I would feel quite determined to "spite" him myself, knowing what he's up to. And my willpower is very weak. But my spite is very strong. If I had to, I'd promise myself a smalk but lovely treat after he's gone if I could just resist in front of him. Would that help your resolve do you think? By the time he's gone you may not even want it anymore. But even if you do, it's one treat, not a lot of junk food you know you wouldn't have bought yourself.

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