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Non-veggie evening food?

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boredboredboredbored1000 · 25/08/2017 16:50

I'm planning a wedding and, despite my best efforts, have blown my modest-medium sized budget already. It's an evening thing, ceremony at 530, dinner after, "evening" guests arriving at 9. There will be canapés, dinner, wine and an edible wedding favour for those invited to the whole thing. The "evening" guests will get a welcome drink, then everyone can have some wedding cake (I've bought 3 big tiers in different flavours) at the celebration afterwards. I'd also like to get a "pork pie wedding cake" from M&S (3 pork pies in decreasing sizes, stacked and decorated to look like a wedding cake) as additional food in the evening (cost about £80, I'm allowed to bring this to the venue as it's another "cake"). The alternative would be a cheese board from the caterers costing £520 (can't afford this, also means I can't bring my own cake of stacked cheeses). It's been suggested that the pork pie thing is not fair on vegetarians (we have about 4 coming). I can't find a veggie friendly version, or alternative veggie tier. If I don't get the pork pie cake I won't get anything else. Would I be unreasonable to get it for non-veggie people?

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oslolou · 25/08/2017 22:46

You need to watch the greedy meat eaters who will pile up the pork and then eat the veggie option as well - drives me crazy!!

OwlinaTree · 25/08/2017 23:03

Honestly, I'd not be worried about this. Tell your 9pm guests that they are invited for dancing, drinks and cake. If I had an invite that said that it would be pretty clear to me that there was not a buffet involved and i would eat before arriving. You could write please eat before you arrive as we will not be serving a full meal, but there will be cakes if you wanted to make it totally obvious.

You could do actual cake, cheese cake and pork pie cake, that would be loads especially if the cheese is veggie. Put some individually wrapped mini veggie pies around the pork pie.

As an aside, I went to a wedding one and they brought out bacon butties at about 12pm. The veggie option was cobs with ketchup!

SuburbanRhonda · 25/08/2017 23:12

What, sweet corn cobs with ketchup? That sounds shit.

Tinkerbec · 26/08/2017 00:17

Who can really be arsed to start their night out at 9pm!?

Agree! Unless you are getting married in Vegas I would not see the point in going for 9pm.

I went to an evening reception that had cheese and cracker cake. Looked good but even that was a bit shit. Everyone kept getting my dd to get them chicken gougons, chips and mozzarella sticks from the kids buffet.
We still talk about doos that had bad food and equally those with amazing buffets. Rightly or wrongly so.

As a veggie I would love a veggie " pork pie" cake with booze is too sickly . I would probably still be hungry after though if I was drinking. I would want some crisps at least.

Tinkerbec · 26/08/2017 00:19

What, sweet corn cobs with ketchup? That sounds shit.

Probably just ketchup on bread. I had this on a school trip. Gross

MidniteScribbler · 26/08/2017 02:02

You need to rethink the whole event and it's obvious that you can't afford it. It sounds awful.

Someone who sent me an evening only invite that didn't start until 9pm could go to fuck. Bloody rude. And a cash bar to boot. I'd stay home, they aren't someone who genuinely wants me to celebrate their marriage with them.

TittyGolightly · 26/08/2017 02:12

As an aside, I went to a wedding one and they brought out bacon butties at about 12pm. The veggie option was cobs with ketchup!

Yep. Had this several times. It's brilliant when you don't eat bread.

And don't get me started on hog roasts.........

I've taken my own food (and even flasks of tea for outdoor weddings) to weddings for years now.

TittyGolightly · 26/08/2017 02:12

OP, I though the whole point of a late wedding was to avoid the seperate evening do. I'd rethink the whole thing, to be honest.

FloweryTeapot · 26/08/2017 02:22

gosh 9pm is very late to have guests arriving

I've struggled to take this thread in at all - I can't concentrate on the food issue because I can't get past the 9pm arrival. 9pm? At night?

FloweryTeapot · 26/08/2017 02:32

I know it's at night, obviously. If I was invited to an evening do that started at 9pm I'd be a bit pissed off. I even think it's ever so very slightly rude.

SuburbanRhonda · 26/08/2017 08:55

Bread rolls with ketchup? That's even more shit than I thought.

I've had some crap served to me as vegetarian food but never a sandwich with no ingredients

Lokisglowstickofdestiny · 26/08/2017 09:05

I'd just go for the cheese (make sure some or all of it is suitable for vegetarians) and drop the pork pie idea. There would be a fair number of carnivores who wouldn't eat it - I wouldn't I think they are vile.

BakedBeans47 · 26/08/2017 09:07

I just had a look at the M and S pork pie cake and it only serves 30/40 portions, is that going to be big enough?

I wonder if you might be best knocking the food on the head and just having cake at night. Agree also with the points re a 9pm start to the evening do.

RiversrunWoodville · 26/08/2017 09:14

The Quorn pork pies are actually nice and it's either Linda Mcartney or Sainsbury's own veggie range do a pork and apple one which are really nice (similar packages so can't remember) and as you say just a wee tier to separate I'd be delighted

InfiniteSheldon · 26/08/2017 09:20

The evening guests aren't coming til 9! Cake is fine.

hibbledobble · 26/08/2017 09:24

It doesn't sound like you are providing much at all for the evening guests, regardless of whether they are veggie or not. Turning up at 9, getting one drink, a slice of cake and maybe a bit of pork pie. Lots of meat eaters think they are vile.

Do you need to have evening guests? It sounds like it needs a rethink.

SuburbanRhonda · 26/08/2017 09:53

Maybe it's just me with the vegetarian pork pies.

Cold pie is hangover food in this house!

Ijustwantaquietlife · 26/08/2017 10:17

Gosh op no offence but it sounds like an awful event!

harshbuttrue1980 · 26/08/2017 10:30

Holland and Barrett have mini veggie pork pies in the chilled aisle. Get them one each, and balance them on the meat pies (making sure there are layers of paper between so they aren't touching the meat pastry - as a vegan, I would be funny about this, as meat pork pie pastry often contains lard).

SuburbanRhonda · 26/08/2017 10:33

harsh

Moanyoldcow · 26/08/2017 10:43

I think OP has gone...

burnoutbabe · 26/08/2017 10:46

I eat meat
I find pork pies disgusting, would never eat one.
I also would assume a 9pm evening guest invite meant no food served anyway.
(and i personally wouldn't bother attending unless it was say a 10 min walk from my house, would just send a card and good wishes)

littlemisssweetness · 26/08/2017 15:36

I'd move the canapés untill after 9

Crunchymum · 26/08/2017 15:40

How many people do you have agreeing to come at 9pm? I would be giving that a huge swerve.

grandOlejukeofYork · 26/08/2017 15:41

Could you add a fourth tier and put a vegetarian pork pie on top for the veggies?

Since there is no such thing as vegetarian pork, no.

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