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Non-veggie evening food?

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boredboredboredbored1000 · 25/08/2017 16:50

I'm planning a wedding and, despite my best efforts, have blown my modest-medium sized budget already. It's an evening thing, ceremony at 530, dinner after, "evening" guests arriving at 9. There will be canapés, dinner, wine and an edible wedding favour for those invited to the whole thing. The "evening" guests will get a welcome drink, then everyone can have some wedding cake (I've bought 3 big tiers in different flavours) at the celebration afterwards. I'd also like to get a "pork pie wedding cake" from M&S (3 pork pies in decreasing sizes, stacked and decorated to look like a wedding cake) as additional food in the evening (cost about £80, I'm allowed to bring this to the venue as it's another "cake"). The alternative would be a cheese board from the caterers costing £520 (can't afford this, also means I can't bring my own cake of stacked cheeses). It's been suggested that the pork pie thing is not fair on vegetarians (we have about 4 coming). I can't find a veggie friendly version, or alternative veggie tier. If I don't get the pork pie cake I won't get anything else. Would I be unreasonable to get it for non-veggie people?

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chitofftheshovel · 25/08/2017 17:53

Give every single guest a gift to open on the night. Wrapped up. Some get big wheels of cheese, others get savoury biscuits, others get quiche, others get tin foil platters. What the guests do with those gifts do with those gifts on the night is up to them just ensure there is a free table for an impromptu buffet, just in Case!

indigox · 25/08/2017 17:57

Even as a non veggie I wouldn't be particularly impressed by a piece of pork pie.

Nuttynoo · 25/08/2017 17:58

Pork pie at 9pm doesn't sound very appetizing tbh. You should just go with a tea/biscuit theme- a macaroon tower with edible bride and groom at the top. Any baker can manage that. M&S do it too.

Moanyoldcow · 25/08/2017 18:10

Just reading your post again:

How on earth can you fit all that in?

Ceremony won't be over until 6.00, photos minimum 45 mins even if you are fast - there are groups, family, just the two of you etc. Canapés and welcome drink 60 mins, then dinner and speeches and hour of you are SUPER fast takes you to 8.45 and I think that's really tight.

If I were you I'd seriously drop canapés pre dinner and have them post 9.

Again, I'm not trying to piss on your day, but I think 9pm is way too late for evening guests.

I had a late ceremony but had no evening guests so everyone was in the same place. Unless your venue was round the corner from my house I wouldn't go at 9pm.

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 25/08/2017 18:16

I would be tempted to move the canapés and ask the caterer to do some bowls of chips, platters of garlic bread etc.

tigercub50 · 25/08/2017 18:18

Staggered at over £500 for a cheese board!!

PickAChew · 25/08/2017 18:21

M&s do s cheese celebration cake, suitable for veggies
www.marksandspencer.com/cheese-celebration-cake/p/p60015694?&mcptredirect&pdpredirect

MakChoon · 25/08/2017 18:22

Holland and Barrett have veggie (and also vegan) pork pies. Smile

NapQueen · 25/08/2017 18:24

Who can really be arsed to start their night out at 9pm!?

PickAChew · 25/08/2017 18:24

I can fair put away a good pork pie after a few glasses of plonk Blush

SuburbanRhonda · 25/08/2017 18:43

makchoon

Vegetarian pork pies? I wonder why no-one else has mentioned themn on this thread?

Hmm
Ameliablue · 25/08/2017 18:57

I'd be inclined to just make it clear on the invites that it will just be cake served on the evening, then evening guests can be prepared. Also maybe check if the bar will sell things like crisps and nuts, so anyone feeling peckish can have that.

welshweasel · 25/08/2017 19:16

Also agree you're going to be v tight on time. We had a 3.30 ceremony (in same venue as reception) and had very few photos (by choice), we still didn't make it through dinner to the first dance until 9pm and that was with the venue jollying us along at all points.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 25/08/2017 19:29

Mini asparagus puff pastry tarts
Spicy vegetable empanadas
Spinach and goats cheese filo triangles

I'm a meat eater and can't stand pork pies. The pastry is too stodgy and the jelly makes me feel sick!

SuburbanRhonda · 25/08/2017 19:34

We went to an evening do (9pm) and the food didn't come out for ages because everything overran.

Luckily we had eaten pizza in the car Grin

Monkeypuzzle32 · 25/08/2017 21:06

Well suburban you're obviously eating the wrong ones then

SuburbanRhonda · 25/08/2017 21:11

Are there any others than the Holland & Barratt ones?

If those are the ones you mean, they're dry as fuck because there's (obviously) no jelly and whatever it is they use for the filling tastes like it isn't meant for human consumption.

Cailleach666 · 25/08/2017 21:14

So you can only serve food if it is "cake shaped"- is that right?

Hence the pie architecture.

And what is a "vegetarian pork" pie?

Surely that's a vegetable pie?

Or that's a bit like saying you are serving aubergine free aubergines.

Many meat eaters find pork pie gross. Full of gristle, fat lard and jelly.

This thread is funny for all the wrong reasons.

ethelfleda · 25/08/2017 21:32

I've got a great idea! Vegetarian pork pies Grin

SuburbanRhonda · 25/08/2017 21:33

Oh sweet Jesus, there's more than one kind of vegetarian pork pie?

Shock
troodiedoo · 25/08/2017 21:39

I'd have a rethink on everything, it's obvious you're trying to cut corners wherever possible.

Cailleach666 · 25/08/2017 21:42

How about a cake made from pork pies?

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