About BF and Ex and going away

[Mar84]

So am prepared to be flamed but I am angry and prob over reacting.
I go away Monday and a 15 night business trip that's been arranged for months. BF has his kids 50/50 so haven't seen him since Tues and the plan was to spend Sunday together before I go and we have made plans, bought tickets etc. Ex has phoned him and booked tickets to same event so he has agreed to having kids wed-Sun instead of wed-sat so we can't see each other (she won't allow it) before I go away and have to cancel our plans.
I am furious as I understand he needs to see his kids but it's the only day we get and we had plans so don't know why he couldn't just said sorry we have plans so I can't do it!
He thinks I am out of order and I feel that she knows I am going away and I don't want to spend forever being second best to her plans with her boyfriend

You absolutely should go to this event with a friend. See what happens when you get back after the three weeks. Hopefully he might have seen sense by then. Be quite cool with him. He's not done the right thing this time.

Yes leave it until you get back and have little to no contact with him. This will give you a chance to think clearly and him some thinking time to. Go to event with a mate have fun.

Yeah see I get that he has to be there for his kids but actually he's messing you over to let her have a social life. Your only two arguments and they've been about her? Add the double standards of you not meeting the kids despite her fella of approx a third of the time you've been dating your man having done so... I'd be walking an leaving him to it.

Sorry if I missed this, but do you have dc yourself? Cause if not, I'd not hassle yourself with this.

Yes I have 2 DC myself.
I have told him we both need to some time to stop and think what we really want as if he can't understand why I am upset then I don't think it will work out. There will be no contact at least for a few days as I need to honk as my heart says I want him but my head says don't do this to yourself

Go to the event with a friend. Don't miss out because he's cancelled on you.