For not covering up?

[Nelly1727]

Genuine question? At what age would you stop walking around naked in front of the children? We have a naked house, I'm not saying I sit and watch TV naked but my husband and I will happily Walk from the bedroom to the bathroom with no clothes on and think nothing of it. If I need to nip downstairs (and curtains are closed) I would think nothing of quickly running downstairs before putting clothes on. Kids will jump in bed with us in the morning etc. I have 3 boys 6,7 & 8. My friend was astonished we do this and think the boys are too old now and I should start covering up. What are your views? My eldest has started getting more private closing the door when in the bath etc, only changing in his room which we respect and make sure the younger ones also understand he wants privacy. Am I scarring my kids for life as my friend suggested by letting them see my husband and I in our birthday suits at this age?

When the kids are uncomfortable with it. Then just cover up then

From.someone growing up in a similar household, I would say 9/10. I'm not scarred for life, in fact it was very useful to see a normal woman's body given how much sexualisation goes on in the media (even worse these days).

My 10yo would be horrified and gas probably been more private with showering, dressing etc for a couple of years now, but if they aren't uncomfortable then I wouldn't worry. They will soon let you know when they are!

I would think covering up is pretty standard, culturally, in Britain. Some other countries are different. If your DC are uncomfortable and your OP suggests they are beginning to be, just wear a dressing gown.

Once they start displaying a need for privacy you should cover up. Depending on all your personalities and your relationship he/they may not be comfortable in telling you they would rather you had your clothes on.

We all went to school with "that" kid whose parents did it and not one of those kids liked it, in fact the opposite. The parents seemed either not to care or were oblivious.

I never get the big thing about nudity that some folks have. It's like "look at me, I'm just so unreserved" . It takes two seconds to shove a t shirt or dressing gown on.

When either party gets uncomfortable.
Modesty and privacy happens naturally with kids. DS2 (8) doesn't mind me seeing him naked and vice versa, but he now prefers to be private in the loo.
I sleep naked. He gets into bed with me but I'm just lying there, not showing anything.
Just as long as you respond to your kids' feelings.

We are the same as you, DC are 8 and 11. It's just bodies. If/when they get squeamish about it, we'll change, but at the moment they still come it to talk to me/DH while we are showering, so clearly not bothered.

My family are very naked! Even now as adults really.

Mine are now 14 and 12. My 12 yo ds has not wanted to see me naked for some time now so I have started shutting the bedroom etc when I am getting changed. It really has been led by what the dc feel comfortable with.

Bluntness100 we certainly aren't look at me! In fact outside of my own house I am very uncomfortable getting even half undressed in front of anyone I.e group changing rooms, in front of friends. Am actually pretty ashamed of my post 3 baby body. However in my own home feel comfortable. None of he kids show any signs of being uncomfortable with us being naked although my eldest likes to cover himself up sometimes. Sometimes he forgets this and will still just strip off. I guess as people have said if they start to feel uncomfortable we stop it.

When you mention being naked then refer to them getting into your bed, I presume you mean you're naked in bed which I can only assume means they're getting into bed after you've had Sex? That is a bit inappropriate in my personal opinion.... I worry about my 2yr old seeing me naked. Def won't happen once she reaches 4/5. But then I'm overweight and have a very large chest!

DS13 has just had a 10 minute chat with me while I was putting on my bra.
Not a care in the world that my boobs were on show.
His need to explain his plans and demand money with menaces promise of doing chores was more important apparently

If your bedroom door is shut you have privacy and people knock.
We dont wander round naked as such but we dont hide away unless you want to iyswim.

HappylandToysEverywhere

I think you'll find that it's perfectly possible and indeed normal to sleep naked without sex coming into the equation. DH and I don't possess any nightclothes and nor does DS, 15.

I always have to wear something in bed in case one of the kids jump in with us., I would never be naked with them there. I really don't think kids are scarred for life because they see you in the nude though! I wouldn't walk around the house, but in my bedroom or bathroom, I can't see the problem. If they get embarrassed, they should not come there - or learn to knock (which they are already pretty good at , to be fair to them)

Good on you for respecting your child's need for privacy.

What i find utterly cringing is mums in the nude or semi-in the nude on the beach, with teens and teens friends! It's so disrespectful. I don't think mine would be too impressed.

I am also quite free with my laundry in the garden, underwear not on show but not hidden either, but I do make sure my teen daughter's items are not there. She might be embarrassed when her older brother's friends are around, so that wouldn't be fair. My little ones are still at the stage where they are proud to show their pants if they like them, bless them.

Why would they have to have just had sex to be naked?! I was wondering this exact same thing the other day OP. I grew up in a naked house and it had absolutely no effect on me. I fins it a bit odd that a PP mentions discussing it with friends.

Happy- a lot of people sleep naked

My two (10 & 7) will chat to me while I'm getting changed/in the shower etc. Neither are particularly body concious although the older gets changed under a towel at swimming now.

I was brought up that nudity is not anything special or to be ashamed of but it is also private. The point you choose to be private from your family is up to you.

Happy, wtf, what the op means is they sleep naked surely ?

I think being prudish causes far more problems than it solves. I have friends whose parents were naked in front of them and they re not damaged by the experience. If anything it can give people body confidence.

Thanks for all your responses. HappyLandToys As for kids jumping in bed after us just having sex chance would be a fine thing! After 18 years together and 3 young boys the chance would be few and far between. Being naked in bed does not equal sex in my opinion. Strange conclusion to jump to!

Dh and i sleep naked and so do my kids (age 10 and 13). Sex doesn't have to feature just because you have no clothes on. Neither of mine seem bothered by lack of clothes. We all have dressing gowns too for moving around more of the house

Like someone above, I'm quite happy for my 4dds ages between 5 -10 to see what a 'normal' women's body is like. Dh covers up more in front of them, and dd10 will generally cover up in front of him. I will take direction from them, when they are uncomfortable seeing me naked, then they may actually stop barging in on me when I am naked in my own Bedroom!

I have just woken up, naked. As has DH. I can assure you we haven't just had sex!

Happyland I'm a little bemused by your assumption. Has it really never occurred to you that some people just sleep naked? Or that some people dress up for sex?

Nelly as one DC is beginning to cover up, then it's probably the time to start to build new habits that restrict nudity (perhaps starting by keeping it upstairs)

Some DC speak up when they think you're getting embarrassing (in alarmingly frank terms) but others don't and you need to be alert to the possibility your eldest is one of those.

coddiwomple

Did I read that right? You modesty check your washing line?

I love threads like this : an insight into ways of thinking one would never imagine!

Bluntness no we're not saying look at us. Our sons left home ages ago and we reverted straight back to being naked. So there is now no one to know and therefore no statement being made. We find it comfy.

We were always naked around our 3 boys until we just knew that things had shifted and they were not comfortable.
You will know.
The boys are now adults and left home ages ago, however we reverted straight back to our nakedness. Its just more comfy.
I usually wear a t-shirt because I feel the cold but husband takes all his clothes off the minute he gets home, usually in the hall !

As others have said, as long as you respect your DC's cues all is well.

I wander naked from bathroom to bedroom, have an open-door policy when in shower or bath, and DH similar. Everyone knocks on a closed door, though. Both DC so far still at the all-clothes-off stage but once they want more privacy they can have it.