Ds visit after years nc

[CheeseAndWine71]

DS is coming to visit after years abroad. We are nc and the reason for the visit is to see a family member who is very sick. She has borrowed money for the travel and I have been asked to accommodate her for the visit, about a week, as she can't afford hotel etc. Reason for nc is related to child welfare issues which still make me angry. I don't want her in my house but don't want to make situation worse for sick aunt. They have no room for her and no other family nearby. Aibu to say no? Or should I just agree and keep the peace somehow?

I would share blankface's suspicions that your sister could be only interested in receiving an inheritance from your aunt, especially as she's broke. If it's just about seeing her aunt before she passes away then she can talk to her by Skype.

Losing your aunt is enough stress to be dealing with. Your sister is not your problem. If she wants to come, she can come and arrange to stay in bed and breakfast and the cost is up to her.

I won't advise anything about the estrangement, you know the reasons and that's entirely your decision. Sometimes there's been too much water under the bridge.

Its not your problem, she didn't even have the balls to ask you herself but tried to emotionally manipulate you into a horrible situation via a dying person. Grim.

The expression 'blood is thicker than water' means blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb, meaning the opposite to what people think that saying means. 'But she's your sister'-and what? You're not obligated to do anything, if she can't arrange her own accommodation or pay for a b&b or airb&b then she won't be able to come.

Rtwt now, yes obviously that would be very hard to forgive. How do her ex and her DCs feel about it?