To think you don't call someone at 1:30am?

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Unless it's an emergency?!

Had a fall out with a friend, she is very much in the wrong and knows it. She then decided to call me at 1:30 last night .., it woke me up and I had to be up at 5 this morning.

When I told her she just said - I wanted to sort things out. Aibu to think she may be the most thoughtless person ever?

Had she been on the sauce?
That's the sort of thing that sounds like a good idea four gins in...

Nope you're correct.

Hate late night/early morning/wee small hours calls!

I always think it must be bad news!

I bet she had been drinking . No sober person would ever ever do that

Been a few threads over the years about late calls and the general consensus is that apx 10pm is the cut off time for non emergency calls. Earlier if there's a new baby in the house.

So YANBU OP

We tut a bit when MIL someone calls after 9.30ish here :)

Being generous, perhaps she was genuinely feeling bad about your falling-out and couldn't sleep on it? I wouldn't appreciate a call at that time either though and would be very short/snappy - I don't take kindly to being woken up!

Very thoughtless but in our house we gasp in horror if the landline rings after 6pm.

That is the kind of thing I stop talking to people over. What kind of monster does that?!

No no normal person does that. That is why my phone is turned off at 10 pm

Definitely not on! I wouldn't dream of ringing someone at that time unless it was an absolute emergency e.g. serious illness, death in family etc.

I would assume someone was seriously ill/dead if my phone rang at that time. It would seriously panic me.

Not on. People ring me at odd hours because they know I will be up but that's different!

10pm is the absolute limit, unless it's an emergency or prearranged....

She is indeed a silly billy.

Yes, I'd assume some tragic accident with a 1.30am phone call too. I used to have an insomniac boss who thought it was fine to text me at 3am with her thoughts about work the next day - I don't think it crossed her mind I'd have my phone in the bedroom. But now I have Do Not Disturb switched on between 11pm and 7am (you can make certain callers exempt so I know if one of the adult DCs was in trouble their call would get through).

Definitely unreasonable. This is why I switch off my mobile when I go to bed - if it's urgent they'll call the landline which will wake me up.

MiL once rang at 7 a.m. to check we'd got home from holiday, knowing that we'd been due to land at 2 a;m. I told OH that next time I'd phone her when we arrived home at 4 a.m. so she didn't worry. Stupid woman - didn't engage brain before reaching for phone - just like your "friend".

I would not forgive someone who called at 1:30am with an apology.

I can only just about forgive my family when they call at 4am forgetting the six hour time difference.

YANBU. I doubt if i would call if someone had died at that time of the morning.

Would really irritate me!

YANBU. I'd have assumed something terrible had happened and been in a blind panic.

I bet she'd had a drink.

why did she say she called?

How thick is she? FFS - you're hardly going to be accepting of an apology at that hour are you. Fuckmuppet.

My general rule is after 11 if the phone rings I think oh fuck who's died.

For me it depends on the preset "ok's" of the relationship, I have a friend who although it very very rarely happens I would be ok with it, I love her and she wouldn't call unless she was struggling (even though the conversation would probably just be a I can't sleep how was your day and not a heavy call) and I could do the same to her. I have 2 other friends who wouldn't but if they did I wouldn't make a thing over it

For everyone else though after 10pm don't call unless there is a major emergency!