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squiddie · 22/08/2017 14:35

DP asked me to move in with him. I moved in at the beginning of July and since then, my flat has been on the market with no luck selling it so far. He hasn't demanded any money from me yet as I am still covering a mortgage. I thought the agreement was that when my flat had sold, we would split the mortgage/bills down the middle. I am happy to 'rent' off him and not get anything in return when he sells his flat. However he has made a few comments about when my flat is sold and I 'backdate' him the money I 'owe'. I understand I have lived there and am more than happy to contribute to bills etc and I do most of the cooking etc but backdating me rent when I have still been paying for a mortgage seems a little tight to me! I have brought the subject up with him and his response is that I have been living there so I should pay.

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skyzumarubble · 22/08/2017 17:48

I'd be moving back in.

Can you not rent yours out instead?

loaferloveforyou · 22/08/2017 17:49

If rent the flat out and pay him rent. If it goes tits up you still have your flat. If it all goes well then both sell your flats and buy somewhere bigger each owning and paying the right percentage. I.e 100k equity in total, 40k from one, 60k from another. One owns and pays 40% of mortgage the other 60%.

But if it were me, I would not be selling my flat until I know I'm not going to be left high and dry.

Sorry if this has already been answered, but how long have you been together?

loaferloveforyou · 22/08/2017 17:49

I'd not if

eyebrowsonfleek · 22/08/2017 17:55

Choices are

  1. Move back until your flat is sold then rent from him.
2. Rent out flat and rent from him.
  1. Move back until your flat is sold then buy with him.

I'd explain that you can't afford mortgage plus rent but will pay half of the bills while you lived together.

missmollyhadadolly · 22/08/2017 18:01

Why are you happy to pay his mortgage? He sounds like a selfish twat.

Just pay half of bills and food.

And don't do all the cooking and housework!!

Schoolisback1973 · 22/08/2017 18:37

Don't sell. You'll be worse off whilst he will be better off..

londonrach · 22/08/2017 18:39

How long you been together. Dont sell your flat. Let it out. Give you somewhere to return to and keeps you in the housing market. If you continue this relationship hope this opens your eyes

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