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Advice to chuck mucky stuff at care assistants

31 replies

TvGingerTan · 22/08/2017 14:33

Don't want to give too much info out for obvious reasons but was in training this morning (catheter removal and insertion) and the trainer said "take the old one out and chuck it at a passing care assistant or whatever - "

Everyone was laughing their tits off but as an ex care assistant is found this a bit offensive not to mention unprofessional. I'm not usually one to complain but in this case, WIBU?

OP posts:
Littlefrogletx · 22/08/2017 14:36

Sounds like a harmless joke, don't think it was official advice.

LilyWhites325 · 22/08/2017 14:36

No, that's really rude to care assistants! Yes it was a joke but still....

Witsender · 22/08/2017 14:37

Chuck at or chuck to? The latter is less offensive imo.

RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:38

That's bloody rude Angry.

Flyingflipflop · 22/08/2017 14:40

Only if your complaint is signed off

Yours faithfully

A Humourless Nerk.

ZeroFuchsGiven · 22/08/2017 14:42

I would take it as it was meant, A Joke!

RedBlackberries · 22/08/2017 14:43

But care staff do such an important job yet they're constantly undermined in small ways like this. It chills away at the credibility of ge job.

Slightlyperturbedowlagain · 22/08/2017 14:46

I think that's not acceptable tbh as it's targeting a 'less advantaged' group of workers. Saying 'chuck it at a passing surgeon' would be a valid joke.

dollydaydream114 · 22/08/2017 14:48

Sounds dismissive and rude to me. Yes, it's a joke, but it's a joke at the expense of a low-paid and hardworking sector of the workforce. Not very nice at all. I have absolutely no time for people who sneer at people they consider to be more lowly than them.

Jokes should always "punch upwards". This one doesn't.

Imgrr · 22/08/2017 14:50

If the trainer had said "chuck it at a passing care assistant, doctor, visitor or whatever" that would have been less insulting.
I've seen posts on here from care assistants on minimum wage with shit conditions receive support so why is the "joke" in the OPs post ok?

Sn0tnose · 22/08/2017 14:53

I think that it was obviously meant as a joke and that the best response would be to set an example by making sure you treat the care assistants with as much respect as you would do the surgeons.

My job has grades. My colleagues at my grade talk about 'chucking' work at passing lower grades and the staff at lower grades talk about chucking it straight back up again. It's not meant to be offensive and I think it would be an over-reaction to formally complain.

PennyTentiary · 22/08/2017 14:57

Carer here. I would assume it was meant to be a joke but advise the trainer to get better material because it's shit.
When we do everything we do for the pay that we get it does cut a bit tbh. I don't think the majority of society view our job as important in any way. Some do once they need care or have a relative in care. But even then a lot don't appreciate us unfortunately. Luckily I absolutely love what I do!

fullofhope03 · 22/08/2017 15:09

Sounds dismissive and rude to me. Yes, it's a joke, but it's a joke at the expense of a low-paid and hardworking sector of the workforce. Not very nice at all. I have absolutely no time for people who sneer at people they consider to be more lowly than them. Jokes should always "punch upwards". This one doesn't

Couldn't have put this better myself Dollydaydream And I used to be an HCA.

Butteredparsnip1ps · 22/08/2017 15:14

No, I'd be fucking raging at this.

It reminds me of the time, as a young student nurse, assisting in theatre the anaesthetist asked me to look after the"jokes" after a breast reduction. He meant the removed breast tissue.

It is inordinately disrespectful and I would be giving an earful to anyone I heard say anything similar.

Sashkin · 22/08/2017 15:15

It definitely gives the impression that care assistants are there to clean up your mess, which they very much aren't.

I personally bollock any of my team who leave stuff lying around for the nurses to clear away. It's really rude and disrespectful. If you don't know where the sluice is, ask. They aren't your mum, or your handmaid. If somebody offers to help me tidy up I appreciate it, but it's a kind favour not their job.

SpuriouserAndSpuriouser · 22/08/2017 15:23

I'm afraid that a joke like that would cause me to mentally file the person who made it away in a box marked "twat".

(I'm also an ex-care assistant)

harlandgoddard · 22/08/2017 15:32

I'm a care assistant, it would be fine if it was a room full of care assistants but am I right in thinking it wasn't? I agree that's demeaning. To be fair I don't really care about being viewed as important or respected, I'd just like paying more.

I doubt the former will ever happen until a fair wage is paid.

Dee03 · 22/08/2017 15:33

I'm a carer with a great sense of humour but I would find that offensive if I'd of heard it....jokes are meant to be funny Angry

becotide · 22/08/2017 15:41

I'm an ex care assistant and I would take this as serious advice, because that is exactly how care assistants get treated. We got paid the same as the kitchen assistants and cleaners. It's a fucking awful job but since the CQC insistance on qualififications, it's improved very very si
lightly

StickThatInYourPipe · 22/08/2017 15:45

Does anyone have a sense of humour anymore?

sharksDen · 22/08/2017 15:45

of course it was a joke.

Advice to chuck mucky stuff at care assistants
StickThatInYourPipe · 22/08/2017 15:48

I used to be an HCA, we made plenty of jokes about other professionals we were working with! Should I send them all an apology?

StickThatInYourPipe · 22/08/2017 15:53

sharksDen It's honestly starting to get fucking rediculous! Love the picture!

Butteredparsnip1ps · 22/08/2017 16:08
  1. It's disrespectful to the patient. It is telling them their body fluids are disgusting.
  2. Try the joke on another profession. Say the Radiographer, is it still funny?

It is about denigrating a low paid, predominantly female - and yes, that's relevant - workforce. I won't apologise for my sense of humour failure over it.

sharksDen · 22/08/2017 16:11

@Butteredparsnip1ps

go on, tell us, how is it relevant.

DH is a surgeon. I asked him if his patient's bodily fluids were disgusting. He thinks they are. They are.

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