AIBU to think you don't start a thread on AIBU

[LazySusan11]

And then ask for folk to be gentle! Write in chat or something if you want mollycoddling

Yeah!...orrrrrrr....people could just, you know, be fucking nicer to one another?!

Yabu

AIBU isn't not an excuse for being rude.

If your friend wanted an honest answer on something, you could manage it without being rude?

Or could you

Too many people seem to think disagreeing with op is being nasty. Its not. But it can be done in nice or nasty ways

It jars with me too. "I'm so special be nice to ickle me " I try to be nice to everyone actually and if I didn't that opening phrase wouldn't change me

I think we need a new section called "I need opinions from someone who's a cunt". It would be a great place to heard all the MN wankers OP and everyone posting there would under no illusions about the opinions they would get.

I have no idea who decided AIBU is a competition to be as rude and nasty as possible.

Yabu. AIBU can be so nasty sometimes that posters have to ask to be gentle which is ridiculous you can tell somebody they are U without being nasty "telling it how it is" seems to mean i can hurl abuse cos i am a bit bored

yabu
Am I being unreasonable means just that - you may have a disagreement to resolve and want to know who's being unreasonableness.
Asking people to be gentle is fine because some people get behind a keyboard and are really rude to the OP

I've been quite shocked by some of the nastiness on this forum. It's completely unnecessary. You can disagree, give advice or give an honest opinion without being rude or putting the other person down. I think people put the 'be nice' in their post because sometimes you're in a place where you need the honesty but haven't got the mental strength to sift through and appropriately dismiss those responses that are just nasty. Even though it's 'just the internet', words can string and have a lasting effect. I think some of the meaner posters forget that.
Thankfully, I do think the nice posters here outweigh the nasty.

YABU. I think we should always remember that these are real people with real feelings who are sometimes going through a tough time who need help (hence their post). You can disagree with someone without being mean.

Just like IRL, some people are more sensitive than others which doesn't mean they want mollycoddlying, just not to be attacked when asking for help.

Exactly it isn't just words on a screen if a poster is feeling a bit fragile or sensitive words sting and they don't actually get their question answered as they are to busy dealing with the pile on.

I often think there is a competition between posters to see who can be most outraged by the ops post when they are agreeing which are equally unhelpful.

Dh forgot to take the bins out last night will eventually end with ltb because hes a woman hating bastard that doesnt respect you and he is an abusive shit etc etc.

I think I just read the thread you mean OP

Thought starting a thread about another was not on ?

Or you being a GF ? AIBU is full of GFs

YABU. Certain posters should stop using AIBU as an excuse to be vile to people. I'm not surprised some OPs feel the need to ask for kindness.

Lu I haven't seen a thread asking...have I inadvertently posted a thread about a thread . I'll ask MN to delete in that case.

YABU. There’s a world of difference between disagreeing with the OP and being a nasty wanker. Alas 95% of posters on AIBU are clearly looking for an outlet for their wanker-ness. Still, it makes it very easy to see which posters to avoid.

I actually don't bother posting on AIBU anymore. It's sad really, I am fortunate enough that I do have people IRL I can go to if needs be but a lot of people on here rely on readers for their help and their attention.

Its a disgrace. Yes you can have different opinions but I bet you wouldn't talk to your friends in that way if they came to ask for your help on something.

YABU - the vitriol aimed at some posters is bloody disgraceful.

Disagree, fine, but don't tear them to shreds and then get all indignant about it when others have a go at you for it.

A fucking bun fight that must leave some people utterly devastated, but nah, just words on a screen to some fuckers. Who gives a shit if someone is going through something horrible.

YABU. People can want to know if they're being unreasonable without getting their character assasinated. Too many posters use AIBU to get rid of their pent up anger and issues by directing at at OPs and I think it's pretty pathetic. AIBU should not be a free-for-all to be twats.

What also bugs me are posters starting threads that aren't really asking if they're BU but post there "for traffic". Such as "AIBU to ask you where you buy your socks". Just flippin ask in Chat (yes, it's just as busy so your post will be noticed) or Style and Beauty. Annoying sods.

YABU - what you're saying is you want AIBU to support bullying and nastiness, so just get used to it. You want it to be open season and don't want to stop the fun.

People shouldnt need to ask people to be kind, but as we all know that isn't reality.

(Waits for the normal " but this was oooonly light-hearted ")

Yes I think so Lazy Susan .. The OP on that said "first time poster, please be gentle" or similar.

If you want to partake in nastiness go to reddit itall go on there bitching and gossiping and laughing at how mumsnet isn't the same as it used to be

I think we need a new section called "I need opinions from someone who's a cunt

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